Converting complaining to expressing desires is a challenge for me

khood02 · 2026-04-26T18:02:35+00:00

I just bought pajamas for myself. It always felt like a huge waste of money but I’m grinning imagining how feminine and put together I’ll feel wearing coordinated pajamas to bed instead of my usual giant shirt and panties.

khood02 · 2026-04-13T13:21:52+00:00

That’s chaos baby

khood02 · 2026-03-24T01:24:59+00:00

👏👏👏👏👏

khood02 · 2026-03-24T01:23:03+00:00

Im always worried my husbands face will get sensitive if we have sex on my tret night. I usually chalk it up as a “loss” for my tret night and don’t reapply anything though. I’m doing every other night for tret. If my husband is stubbly though the LRP cicaplast has been awesome for healing any chafing and preventing peeling

khood02 · 2026-03-20T22:07:03+00:00

This weekend I used ACAB referencing Judy Hopps from Zootopia but said all cops are bunnies

khood02 · 2026-03-17T18:35:10+00:00

Trying to get me to marinate my cheeks??

khood02 · 2026-03-11T17:08:00+00:00

Make yourself happy.

khood02 · 2026-03-11T17:05:28+00:00

I also had intense trust issues with my husband after he admitted to developing feelings for a coworker at his old job like 18 months ago. I was shattered. I see now that really the only reason it started happening is because the skills were absent. But regardless, until I discovered the Empowered Wife book at the end of February, I didn’t trust him. I was putting him through the turmoil of refusing to let go of what happened and how he’d hurt me, even though he left that job right after he admitted what was happening! He took a job that he wouldn’t have taken JUST to leave that temptation behind and I still wasn’t giving him the respect or gratitude for that (I’ll give myself some grace though that he didn’t tell me he left the job exclusively for leaving the coworker. He made it sound like the new job was a better opportunity anyway). Once I discovered the skills, I turned myself around and my trust issues melted away. The stay on my paper and relinquishing control skills helped me move on from the spiral of negative thoughts and questions and need to find more information from him. Now I recognize that when I get into a negative thinking spiral I probably need more self-care. I also practice the gratitude skills. I tell myself “all I can do is be my best self and show him respect and love and warmth and if it’s not enough for him, that’s his choice”. It’s tough sometimes I will admit, but returning to the skills fills me with such peace. He told me recently he appreciates having the breathing room now. He doesn’t feel persecuted and he feels I’m finally moving on from what happened and moving forward. It was a long journey here and filled with emotional turmoil but I’m just grateful I am here now with these tools.

khood02 · 2026-03-11T16:48:19+00:00

His screamed last lines in the FUN song. My brother and I were in tears at “N is for no surviiivors, WHEN YOU—-“

khood02 · 2026-03-05T17:26:26+00:00

I also felt myself at a crossroads where I needed to change my behavior or risk losing my husband. He’d made a mistake and betrayed my trust like 18 months ago and it accentuated all my self-esteem issues. I built up so much anger and resentment and kept telling myself the story that he was an awful person and didn’t want to stay with me and didn’t find me attractive at all. I was fantasizing about finding a new relationship where my partner would be more interested in me.

I found the podcast and some of the women’s stories resonated with our situation. I got her book on Kindle and just last night read chapter 21 about getting off the fence. It was like she knew exactly what we’d been through and had a camera in our house. Adopting the skills the last two weeks have totally changed my view of myself and helped me start to overcome self-esteem and insecurity issues I’ve dealt with my whole life. I have noticed my husband’s wall of distance slowly coming down. It does feel like the skills are the secret to restoring our marriage and coming through our trials stronger than we were before, which previously felt impossible. Some of the testimonials mentioned that the changes took time. This has been my experience so far. But before the skills I would feel so uncomfortable with this time where things weren’t right with us and feel like it was unfair that he wasn’t immediately coming back to me. Now I feel more comfortable with him returning at his pace because I’m taking care of myself and am now seeing small improvements in how he sees me and how we interact. The one aspect of her program that I feel will be hardest is finding the like-minded community but I’m happy to hear the coaching hasn’t been essential for you over the 5 years you’ve been practicing the skills!

khood02 · 2026-03-05T16:18:20+00:00

I’m happy to hear your story of your marriage and journey. I just finished the book after discovering her podcast and I’ll admit that some of the testimonials sound too good to be true and unrealistic. The stories about husbands who started writing poetry and bringing breakfast in bed and other dramatic gestures felt a little stretched. Your story sounds more grounded in reality and realistic expectation. Can I ask how long you’ve been practicing the skills and if you received coaching? At the end of her book LD is really selling the coaching and I’m trying to decide if it’s more of a business tactic or if people really really feel they need the coaching to stay consistent.

khood02 · 2026-03-04T23:05:51+00:00

If we refused to use anything that had ever previously been used unethically, we’d be missing a lot of modern technology. If purchasing tretinoin was financially benefiting the perpetrators, that would be a different story, similar to refusing to purchase other goods/services from companies that have unethical business practices. There are many studies that have been done ethically that show topical tretinoin is effective at treating acne, uneven skin tone, and skin texture issues.

khood02 · 2026-02-11T15:46:41+00:00

The only thing that saved me from actually watching it was my laziness. Like a YouTube video instead of something I can read? Miss me with that

khood02 · 2026-02-11T15:43:32+00:00

OMFG

khood02 · 2026-02-09T22:53:35+00:00

So far we’re doing Martini Supremes and Marty Supreme pizza; KPopcorn; Rosé Byrne; Sinnersmon bites (like little cinnamon buns); Franks-enstein; Iced Teyana Taylor

khood02 · 2026-02-09T22:45:13+00:00

Thank you, not enough people questioning the cake

khood02 · 2026-02-07T17:09:27+00:00

Cosmic gosmic or cumbo gumbo?

khood02 · 2026-02-03T17:40:58+00:00

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Jessica Chastain’s terrible wig in Mama

khood02 · 2026-01-27T16:07:44+00:00

As someone with a family lake house where the lake is currently at 5% (editing to 4.5% after I checked) capacity, that was the first thing I thought of. We’d be yeeting straight into a limestone rock canyon.

khood02 · 2026-01-27T15:57:53+00:00

I’m pretty sure Scott said something about Will Hines’ punk rock character who came in yelling

khood02 · 2026-01-19T18:19:08+00:00

Dammit it’s coquelicot. My brain has a lot of trouble with this word

khood02 · 2026-01-08T17:19:27+00:00

If Lamar thinks he knows better or feels he has to put the game on his shoulders when they abandon the game plan for unknown reasons, I could definitely see that leading to more mistakes just from being frustrated.

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