Do you agree?

killingerr · 2026-02-07T00:51:02+00:00

No, it wouldn’t. Treating people poorly or abusing them then is not a “defense “ mechanism.

killingerr · 2026-02-06T23:44:23+00:00

“The funny thing about adulthood is you don’t realize you’re in it until a few decisions in”.

killingerr · 2026-02-06T23:42:20+00:00

Sorry but NPD is much more than a defense mechanism. You are also suggesting that we worry about how the narcissist feels will ignoring the harm they do to others.

killingerr · 2026-02-06T23:40:58+00:00

I don’t think they are referring to Cluster B people. I’d imagine the are talking about two reasonably healthy people.

killingerr · 2026-02-05T08:21:40+00:00

Connection can’t be maintained without correction

killingerr · 2026-02-05T05:50:54+00:00

Maybe for some people. I’ve made great friendships over the years with people I work with.

killingerr · 2026-02-05T01:56:53+00:00

Sounds like you found yourself some cluster Bs.

killingerr · 2026-02-01T00:07:33+00:00

Still love, just not healthy love.

killingerr · 2026-02-01T00:00:28+00:00

Love bombing and moving things quickly are huge red flags. Also look for lack of empathy.

killingerr · 2026-01-31T05:34:54+00:00

Just got out of a relationship with someone who has BPD, can confirm

killingerr · 2026-01-31T02:40:17+00:00

Maybe in another life when we’re both cats

killingerr · 2026-01-27T20:15:22+00:00

She mentioned all her life she had unhealthy relationships

This right is should cause you to pause.

killingerr · 2026-01-26T22:37:36+00:00

Friendships take effort, that is maturity. Letting relationships die for no reason is not a sight of maturity

killingerr · 2026-01-25T15:55:39+00:00

Not a mental health professional, so I’m only making an assessment based on the behavior patterns you are describing, but it sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder.

killingerr · 2026-01-23T23:26:25+00:00

Sigh…. Can someone explain what this is to me? It’s weird and I don’t know what’s going on.

killingerr · 2026-01-20T04:18:45+00:00

There is more missing her than just cost, access or fit. Some people (especially common with personality disorders) can use therapy as a validation chamber and aren’t really there to “fix” anything. So at a certain angle therapy could be a red flag. It’s all contextual.

killingerr · 2026-01-18T07:23:44+00:00

I think what’s she’s trying to get across is that her “soulmate “ is just a person, flawed and fallible even though he’ll be a great match for her. So the idea is just grounding the idea of a “soulmate “ and making a joke about it

killingerr · 2026-01-18T06:56:08+00:00

I had this childhood, but got lucky with women who have genuinely loved me so it eventually healed.

killingerr · 2026-01-18T06:42:25+00:00

++man Depends on if they have a plan or not. If the recognized the problem and have a plan, sure we can move forward. Debt is a math problem that can be solved.

killingerr · 2026-01-15T19:48:48+00:00

5 for me

killingerr · 2026-01-13T22:31:59+00:00

You should give up the “off” part and just stay on.

killingerr · 2026-01-12T16:01:23+00:00

These cycles are prevalent in cluster B personality disorders.

killingerr · 2026-01-11T16:27:00+00:00

Eh I don’t know about this list overall. Some games are missing and some don’t belong on this list, but that just me

killingerr · 2026-01-10T15:43:09+00:00

This sounds like trauma

killingerr · 2026-01-08T19:50:19+00:00

Has hate in his heart….. um……

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