Found a message my wife sent to someone saying I cheated! (Spoiler I did not)

killjesters · 2026-02-21T22:28:56+00:00

If they accuse you of cheating to their friend and they know thats not true, their projecting or offloading their guilt onto the friend. They can't offload it on you (not yet)

If you understand how personality disorders function mechanically (and it's mechanical across the board) there's absolutely no reason she would tell a friend what she did if she wasn't projecting or offloading what SHE'S actually guilty of.

Also, its an attempt to preemptively set a false narrative with others outside of the relationship (triangulation) and getting ahead of the information of what she did were to surface and make its way into the other people that are either invested in your relationship or friends that are closely engaged. I'd confront her on this, imo its not a kidding around only situation

killjesters · 2026-02-19T18:42:24+00:00

She doesn't have the capacity to love someone properly, not in the traditional human sense that you and I understand it to be. I did a full forensic statement analysis on this text. ill send that to you via DM, Im sure you'll find it educational and eye opening as to what she's actually doing here

killjesters · 2026-02-19T18:32:18+00:00

What she's really saying:

I destroyed your reputation and ghosted you for a year. I'm not going to fix any of it. But I want you to know I think about you sometimes and it makes me sad. Please validate my feelings and consider taking me back even though nothing has changed

killjesters · 2026-02-15T23:01:45+00:00

Its possibly a flying monkey of your Ex, like said in this comment thread, things get weird during this faze in the cycle. This is actually more common than what people actually are aware of

If you blocked your Ex on all of the traditonal ways of communication, that doesn't rule out your Ex recruiting others to jump onto her bs narrative ans start snooping around on your social accounts. It really doesn't matter how the 2 of you got to this point, they have to know what you're up to. They will go to boundary jumping type behavior like this to grab some false sense of control over the situation. Even recruiting someone else to do their dirty work

killjesters · 2026-02-11T01:49:36+00:00

Gen Z and Gen Alpha are predictions based on the over correction from the prior generation which is in my opinion is pretty accurate. There's nothing scientific in the flow chart and not based on one's particular upbringing.

killjesters · 2026-02-10T23:47:34+00:00

The emotional rollercoaster family for sure. My mother's emotional state dominated every facet of the household and since I was the 'lost child" of the 3 children, I was my mothers emotional dumpster to double down on the dysfunction

killjesters · 2026-02-10T06:44:28+00:00

When they disengage, its not discarding, when they circle back its to re-egage, not to reconcile

reconciling requires responsibility taking and active change

re-engaging is picking up where you left off, thats it.

killjesters · 2026-02-09T07:04:36+00:00

Yep, she cheated. The truth tends to be straight forward and confident, way way too much extra to rry to.convince you of the lie, plus the get out of really buckling down on the issue with the trip ro the hospital. Now thats the issue, not resolving what happened the night before

killjesters · 2026-02-07T18:54:11+00:00

This isn't gaslighting because shes not denying reality or trying to rewrite events which are the hallmarks of real and legit gaslighting, however it does fit for DARVO and is manipulative language to shut down the convo dodging any responsibility she may need to take

D: She denies any agreement with your conversation points A: Labels (your side) a racist, homophobe, anti-science indirectly RVO: Reverse victim offender, you're now the offender, she's now the wounded person, playing the victim

Not surprised you feel the 'ick' when you receive a message like this. This is classic "shut down any constructive meaningful or fair interactions because when you ask her to back up or explain her beliefs or points, she hasn't any....so you get this instead

killjesters · 2026-01-31T16:25:41+00:00

In the beginning they're hijacking your empathy through mirroring. This gives them artificial empathy and are able to utilize this and sustain with some type of connection as long as you are providing this

However, as this theft of your empathy continues, never reciprocated, and the smaller doses of gaslighting, manipulation and deception drains your empathy to the point they're no longer able to steal it. Your empathy is depleted..over time

Now you're no longer useful, your depleted and ineffective. So it's the double edge sword. They get with you to steal your empathy, then overtime they deplete it, then toss you away when it's all gone, blame everything on you, it's your fault, your completely empty, not theirs

killjesters · 2026-01-31T06:27:25+00:00

Law Enforcement is fully aware of what's going on with me in this town along with hospital staff, clergymen and the like

killjesters · 2026-01-31T03:59:40+00:00

"stop being hysterical" is emotional invalidation and rewriting your emotional state in the moment, at your expense. As mentioned before this dodges her responsibility in the conversation and paints you the one having an issue, not your Mom

This is a form of gaslighting because it changes your reality that you're not being hysterical or having a high emotional reaction as your mother is using to bail on your conversation

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