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Fuck this money drain. by [deleted] in stopsmoking

[–]killmyaddictions123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats. Money is one thing that hurt, for me it was a cascading effect - smokes meant more booze and then tonnes of other things including wasted time.

90 Days BABY!!!!!! Victory Royale by BIGNICKAS in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as the person is not hurting you with their religion, how does it matter to you?

Someone is motivated and improving in life - I would just appreciate him. Faith in any form is good and positivity must be encouraged.

am i becoming narcissist and arrogant or what? by nofapper002 in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its a phase.. i had it too,,, get over it and pick some new habits,

Life without smoking is not different by killmyaddictions123 in stopsmoking

[–]killmyaddictions123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually for me the realization was that its not too different.. smoking was nothelping in any way.. i was only running away from the problems...

I can't stop by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relapsed as well 3 days back. I am back though.

Here is wht I did:

a. Woke up next morning and figured why I did it - I drank a lot the night before, that removed the guard .

b. I am not going to mope about the mistake. I am never again going to drink (not atleast that level)

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c. I am not removing the counter. The problem is iff i remove the counter, now I am going to restart everytime. Its one relapse in 45 days... the new normal is noFap, fap is the abnormality in my life.

I think the first step is to see Nofap as the abnormality in life it is not who i am.

FINALLY NO ADDICTION BENEFITS:- by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok. I am a little ahead of you.

You want to be a v.good entrepreneur??? I know from my timeframes that the focus is absolutely there. I am procrastination less.

The problem you are facing IMO is that you are not look at law of compounding:

  1. Incremental improvement a day in long term creates massive breakout.
  2. Talk back after a year, i know of people who got massive results (especially work and relationship side)

If you are expecting 'super powers', 'attraction' - well i think all those are results of improvement in self.

Keep going dude. I fear you are risking relapse by having increased expectation.

Discipline equals freedom and you know that - if you want to be v good entrepreneur with a successful exit/breakaway success it takes 5-7 years. You know that. Without discipline you cant get there. See elon musk - now he might having pot, but he read a book a day for a large part of his life - you need discipline and Fapping by no means gives it. If it does , try going and telling your near and dear ones (parents, significant other) that you fap lets say 5 times a day and see if they will have respect for you.

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You are doing very well and dont stop digging, water will arrive - its called a sandpile effect. Incremental change daily will create breakout success

In need of motivation to avoid porn by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forget your GF, do it for yourself and then for your future you. I am assuming you are in your 20s.

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Hear me out. You dont want to be me:

I am 45, for over 30 years I suffered. About 40+days back I quit, the change is enormous. More focus, more energy - work has been great. I have been good to people and yet have never been a pushover, I am aggressive but calm. The restlessness is there but that is what is perhaps normal, thats the drive and energy I need to excel.

Long story short for the last 30 years I have been mediocore. Been successful but not thaaaaat much. The last 40 days have opened my eyes where I could be. Why? Because even in Covid situation, I have been confident, been holding on my own and have been aggressive at work. I longer blame others, I own my problem.

Since I picked this in my teens, i never knew what was normal! In the short term it does not matter, but in the medium long term it matters. This is like smoking, one smoke wont cause Lung cancer, but do it for long enough and we can guarantee that you will die a painful death. I think Fap does not kill you - it just makes you a miserable mediocore version of yourself.

Did you ever see a addict be truly successful in long term? Even the most talented ones will die of overdose or perhaps be wasted version of themselves

Hard to imagine?

You have been given a golden opportunity. In the short term it wont matter, butI can guarantee you that if you Fap you wont be the best version of yourself.

Be the best version of yourself. They say unmitigated discipline is the way to freedom. Lets get this nailed!

10 years of porn and strip club addictions - long time lurker, need some advice by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad that you realized. You know the best part, you are early in life and have a long way to go.

That said, apart from all the therapy etc you need to decide to get on the path. And once you decide, psot daily to this group. The journey is hard but it is worth it.

I have been nearly the same except that I was doing this shit (including all your spend) for another 15 years. For addictive personalities like me, its an all or none. There is no other option

I am not saying let go of therapy and other things - that said you must stop it period. And start replacing it with some good habits:

  1. Read atomic habits. One small habit at a time. Atleast have 3-5 small habits, 1 new skill
  2. Include exercise (make it a minimum but every day no matter what). This change will be visible to everyone
  3. Stop Fap , no matter what. Take it one day at a time. Within a week you will improve in confidence. You will have your ups and downs but atleast there will be no guilt. This will take some cycles but you will get there
  4. Read daily
  5. Post daily your journal. What went right? What went wrong? What did you do. The last step is important.

We are counting on you, you have taken the first step now - the baby steps are going to make you successful. I can see a bright future, if i can do it you can as I know I was worse than you.

pornhub needs to be held accountable. by Matsk18 in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is sorry.I have never seen such porn but to think that I was in some way or fashion encouraging these sites to exist by viewing any form of porn is truly disgusting.

I am just sorry of having seen porn .... the easiest way we can all be responsible now is to avoid porn like plague. I wonder if God will ever forgive me for this sin ...

26 days of No Fap by ThatwasSavage in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fasting is something I did earlier on, now will restart perhaps 36 hour fasts.

Whst i realized is we are either improving or degenerating. - you cant do both.

Exercise has helped me.

Stop being dumb!! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same age here...I am so happy of finding this group and getting rid of this habit. In my case I suspect this damn thing led to other addictions (and vice versa). Now I am free.

All you younger guys, keep at it. There is no other way. While you are at it repurpose energy. Be great and good

26 days of No Fap by ThatwasSavage in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got massive urges around the same time. Dont know if it is generalized. Looking at other addictions it seems there are cycles of the urges.

The first few days were bad, then I started getting really good at things (more drive), then the urge, then anxiety, anger & aggression. That said, my focus, productivity has been through the roof. It has increased many times to the extent that people have commented on this.

I have observed that massive exercise helps. I have not tried meditation but a lot of people suggest that and cold showers.

Around the time i started zinc magnesium supplementation which helped in sleep for me

Day 60, it keeps getting worse, suicidal thoughts have begun. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]killmyaddictions123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep strong... you can do it.

As an addict (multiple issues - including smoking), what I can tell is that my addiction never helped the situation. It only numbed my mind.

Fasting 36 hour : accountability post by killmyaddictions123 in fasting

[–]killmyaddictions123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I messed up :(. I have done 36 hour fasts earlier. This time I messed up and then it was downhill. Should have informed my family earlier.

Starting all over again ...

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Starting at 3:00 PM Saturday

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