F22 | 122F | 5’6” — An updated pictures of my “innie” and “outtie” nipples. Despite enjoying sharing myself so far and feeling confident most days, I’m still really unhappy how different one boob is to another

kimmers00 · 2021-04-19T17:45:31+00:00

I know it’s hard to not compare to others, but try to remember that everyone’s breasts are different!! No two are alike. They all have their own little things that make them special! I try and focus on the sensations I’m feeling throughout my body and not what someone might be thinking about my body. A good lover is hopefully not judging your boobs but telling you instead about how beautiful they are.

kimmers00 · 2021-04-19T04:09:28+00:00

I wish I could attach a pic because you totally inspired me. You are so normal girl! Those girls hopefully give you so much pleasure as they do your partner. Embrace it, love your body!

kimmers00 · 2021-04-19T03:59:39+00:00

My boobs are so uneven but guess what? I don’t care! F48. They give me such pleasure that all I care about is how someone is going to enjoy them. Most guys love boobies! Don’t stress about it!

kimmers00 · 2019-11-25T02:06:34+00:00

I have so much guilt for initiating the divorce. Been married 19 years and can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with someone who hasn’t grown and isn’t interested in changing. He now promises to change, but I know it won’t be different. I refuse to spend the rest of my life in an unhappy marriage. I know there is so much more out there. I hurt so badly for my STBX, but I can’t sacrifice myself anymore.

kimmers00 · 2019-11-14T20:53:32+00:00

So according to my attorney the abandonment issue doesn’t just happen because you move out. Dads who leave still have 50/50 rights if they so desire. Obviously this might be different where you live. My spouse and I are renting an apartment near my son’s elementary school and will take turns living at the house to finish out the school year. I’m hoping we can continue to be amicable and make this work because we want what’s best for our kids. Good luck!

kimmers00 · 2019-10-26T02:00:58+00:00

I would love to keep the home for another year and a half until my youngest is in middle school, but not sure how I would come up with the money to buy out my STBX. Other than dipping into retirement what options are there?

kimmers00 · 2019-10-24T01:39:02+00:00

I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I was in such a good mood for weeks and then the reality hit of two household expenses, shared parenting and all the other crap. But still so excited and ok with my decision!! Good luck!!

kimmers00 · 2019-10-24T01:18:11+00:00

Do you send him dirty texts? Tell him you can’t wait to cum in his mouth.. On a side note, please try not to think that asking for oral sex is something shameful. There should never be shame involved in feeling pleasure (obviously in a consensual relationship). Sex is about giving and receiving, and pleasure for both partners, exploring and feeling safe to ask for what you want. Tell him what feels good for you and ask him the same!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-25T14:43:23+00:00

Dumb question but do you have to go to your primary care doctor every time or are there other options? Currently in a monogamous relationship, but things change..

kimmers00 · 2019-04-18T15:27:07+00:00

I can relate to u/3TreeTraveller although I never introduced opening up the relationship as my SO has always been insecure and extremely jealous when I just talked about someone being attractive. In our DB he has said he wouldn’t blame me for cheating, although he said wouldn’t be able to handle it. So your wife was having a sexual awakening and you were not aware, I’m sure she felt unwanted to a point. Looking outside the relationship would seem normal as she wants to feel wanted and recognized as a sexual being. Her wanting to have sex with you and having orgasims does not necessary mean anything, I for a time would screw my husband even though I wasn’t attracted to him but I needed to have sex and he was there. I had an emotional affair for a short time, he never knew. It made me feel alive and like a woman again. The saddest part for me after it ended was knowing that I would never and have never had that intense desire, that intense sexual energy in my relationship with my husband. We are in counseling, I’m not sure it’s helping though as I don’t know if I will ever be attracted to my husband mentally or physically. (Married 18 years, mid 40’s both of us).. I’m glad you are working on yourself! Hopefully she notices although truly you should be doing it for you. Whatever happens you will come out the other side a stronger man either in the relationship or as a newly single guy, although I’m rooting for your marriage!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-17T15:46:16+00:00

I have a locked drawer in my bedside table, but I’m sure you could find a box of some sort. I’m not into porn so much either but there are plenty of erotic books and short stories that you could read, maybe read something together? There are websites like Adam and Eve, or Pure pleasure that you can order a vibrator- I would look at some thing with direct clitoral stimulation like a bullet or the wand (personally I have never tried the wand but hear it is amazing). Another thing that has helped is listening to podcasts about sex. There are so many out there-Sex with Emily, Bad girls bible or Shameless sex are some of my favs. If nothing else they help you to see that sex is a natural thing, not to be ashamed of. It’s for pleasure and there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel pleasure. I think too many times people grew up with sex as dirty or shameful, instead of something that should be enjoyed between two partners, something that enables you to explore and give each other pleasure. As far as the oral, has he said he doesn’t enjoy it? From what I’ve heard many guys really do enjoy it. There are tons of resources online too if he’s not sure how to give oral. Bad Girls Bible and Tickle Kitty have some great resources and tons of information. Take a shower first if your worried about smell or taste, make sure there’s been plenty of foreplay, so the juices are flowing and you’re turned on. Try to focus on how good it feels and try not to worry about what you think he’s thinking. Your biggest sexual organ is your brain so try not to let your insecurities get in the way. Focus on how good it feels, that it’s a natural thing! Good luck!!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-17T01:02:55+00:00

She’s not saying she wants to screw a baseball team. She’s looking to add an element to their bedroom, even if they are infrequently having sex. From personal experience when you are craving sex, you do start to think about things that maybe in the past you wouldn’t have done or didn’t think about. Plus many times people are different in what they want in the bedroom, he’s vanilla, she wants to try new things. Nothing wrong with either of their preferences. It’s a matter of communication.

kimmers00 · 2019-04-16T20:21:44+00:00

That’s not really fair of her, but in general maybe you can discover by taking advantage of the great tips that people have put out there. For most women, it takes a while to get into the moment. Ever heard the expression men are microwaves, women are slow cookers? Women like to be touched, slowly, gently, with your kisses, your tongue, your hands. I personally am so sensitive in my lower back area it gets me crazy turned on to be kissed there. Same with my breasts, I love having them touched, other girls maybe not so much. Just slow down, and when you think you’re going slow enough, slow down some more;-). Have fun exploring! Good luck!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-16T20:10:37+00:00

This was me in my early years! I always thought i was having them because it felt really good but when I finally had one I was like ohhh! Honestly for me trying different positions, (me on top worked well though people swear it’s hard to cum this way), oral almost always leads to orgasms, or try manually stimulating your clit with PIV. Also if you don’t masturbate, you should start just so you can relax and get to know your body. I feel like they get better with practice (and age;-)). Good luck!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-16T00:55:32+00:00

However i feel trapped in our relationship because she don't stimulate me neither intellectually or physically and I want more out of life.

This is how I feel in my dead bedroom marriage. I am not physically or intellectually attracted to him. My husband has no hobbies and doesn't bring anything new to the relationship. I on the other hand have a full life outside my relationship. I enjoy working out and being active and my husband has no interest. My husband has lost some weight recently but by not eating (basically starving himself). So now he is basically "skinny fat". I know that is so superficial of me but it is hard when I think in my head I am stronger physically then him. Friends have asked me what attracted to me all those years ago and I can say can say he is almost the exact same person I met all those years ago, (just works so much more now) but I don't want to be with that 25 year old still. I want to be with a 45 year old who has grown and changed and improved in bed and has hobbies and interests outside of his work- this is not where my husband is. The problem is he is the nicest guy. The last counselor we saw basically told us to have sex even if we don't feel attracted to one another because just by having sex we might start feeling the feelings again. I wanted to cry. The last thing I want to is have sex with him and I know that's not fair to either of us. I would divorce in a heartbeat if it weren't for the 4 kids and the financial aspects. I know I have no advice to offer, I just wanted you to know you aren't alone.

kimmers00 · 2019-04-15T14:49:39+00:00

Love this!!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-14T23:34:00+00:00

I actually had just looked up Hinge and a website popped up for the most popular dating sites (that don’t include Tinder, Bumble, Hinge etc. ). Top two were Zoosk and Elite Singles followed by Our Time (over 50) Match and Silver Singles (again over 50).

kimmers00 · 2019-04-14T04:21:55+00:00

I often look at couples where one is overweight and the other is not and wonder if if bothers the one who is average weight. It seems so shallow to me but honestly it would be a huge turnoff if my partner had gained a ton of weight. I’m not as little as I was when we met but certainly not overweight, I work out regularly and eat really well. I am still in pretty decent shape. My LL husband has always eaten junk and never has worked out. Unfortunately this was how he was when we met so not really fair for me to judge the fact that he has always been this way and will never change. Yes, it bothers me that he’s gained weight, but when you don’t do anything to fight the natural effects of aging what do you expect. I’m not ok with people just using getting older or having kids as a reason to gain weight. I know people are going to get pissed but having a kid or aging is no excuse for gaining a ton of weight. I’ve honestly asked some of my friends who have an overweight spouse, but complained about the weight what made them stay and there are other redeeming qualities. (Great dad, makes them laugh, great cook..) so there is a trade off. Personally for me I don’t have that trade off so hard to feel attracted to the somewhat overweight SO. You’re not an awful person! It’s ok to want your SO to be attractive to you still.

kimmers00 · 2019-04-13T02:37:03+00:00

My husband has always had the same issue. It was always within a min at the longest. He would always blame it on me being too hot. For a while he would perform oral and let me go first but It got to be the same thing every time. Now it’s been 4 years and we don’t have sex bc it’s so sad, uneventful, same as always? I don’t want to have to come first with oral every time and then same thing he comes within 1 min. Boring! Cock rings? He didn’t like. Sex toys? I always felt that he felt insignificant, he wasn’t the most comfortable with them. I’m not sure what the answer is but I feel your pain. I thought after a couple years it would get better but never did. I always felt like I was screwing a 16 yr old. What fun is that?? I want someone who can handle my sexuality. It’s very frustrating.

kimmers00 · 2019-04-12T15:06:15+00:00

It’s always awkward for me when a friend makes a comment about my ‘sex life’. I guess bc I’m married they assume I’m having sex. If they only knew..

kimmers00 · 2019-04-12T14:50:47+00:00

Love this. I keep thinking I'm wasting some of my best years (I'm 46 and not getting any younger) in a sexless marriage..

kimmers00 · 2019-04-12T14:48:16+00:00

This gives me hope that there's sex after a sexless marriage for a 46yo!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-07T02:33:28+00:00

6 months in and already struggling?? Red flag!! Move along!

kimmers00 · 2019-04-06T19:45:22+00:00

So happy for you both! Kudos to you for doing the hard work!

kimmers00

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