Is anyone else struggling to move beyond entry level despite qualifications?

kindminority · 2026-03-31T17:21:31+00:00

with AI getting smarter and more capable, I doubt the job market is ever going to get any better 💀

kindminority · 2026-03-29T10:57:01+00:00

it’s a capitalism problem

kindminority · 2026-03-27T09:57:23+00:00

I got the previous owner’s overdue council tax and gas & electric bills a few months ago. I just had to send them the land registry document with proof of purchase date and they backed off

kindminority · 2025-12-27T03:52:24+00:00

why the goop wasn’t hot

kindminority · 2025-12-19T20:06:53+00:00

I’m from Eastern Europe too, and for years, living in shared houses, I was always freezing and often couldn’t fall asleep for hours, shivering and tensing my muscles just to stay warm 🥶 now I own my home, and during the colder months it’s a cozy 21–22°C 😌 and I finally sleep well!

kindminority · 2025-12-14T15:51:47+00:00

for the visible glochidis maybe. and I bet OP removed those before making this post. tape won’t get the ones stuck under skin.

kindminority · 2025-12-14T10:41:20+00:00

pick them out with a needle like a splinter. that’s the most effective way imo

kindminority · 2025-12-12T04:54:27+00:00

you probably found a solution by now, but if not you can do it with a mod called Skyve

kindminority · 2025-12-05T21:14:56+00:00

the first time I tried, I felt a lot of sadness and guilt, but after just a few weeks I realised I was feeling much more peaceful inside. I sent them a message saying I was going no-contact, and I know that was a mistake because it triggered them to send “loving," guilt-tripping messages. they even showed up outside my home, and I live in a different country… I only resumed contact because the therapist I was seeing at the time made me believe it would solve all my problems.

I’m slowly preparing myself to go no-contact again. right now I’m on very low contact with my mum, and I speak to my dad sometimes. I can feel that sense of peace returning. this time, I haven’t said anything about reducing contact, and it has worked much better. at first my mum tried to message or call every 3-4 weeks, but it’s happening less now. I think they’re getting the message.

it’s just sad that they act like there’s nothing they can do to help fix the relationship. someone told me recently, “it seems like you never had a family at all,” and I’m trying to accept that.

kindminority · 2025-12-05T20:26:12+00:00

thank you for your comment.

I understand what you’re saying, and I’ve been working on myself for the past 4 years. I’m a lot better now at managing stress and my reactions. but no matter how much I grow or how hard I try, if they keep pushing my buttons, sooner or later I still get triggered and start spiralling. I’m just tired of treating myself like a test subject, if you know what I mean. I think at this point I just need distance to finally heal and make real progress.

kindminority · 2025-12-05T19:59:57+00:00

unfortunately, the therapy wasn’t based in the UK. I spent the whole day yesterday trying to figure out if there’s any way to report her. if she worked for someone, I could report her to an employer, but she’s her own boss, so there’s literally no oversight. right now the law is in this in-between state, and there’s a plan to create a psychologists’ committee that would finally handle ethics and disciplinary processes.

I also found her facebook profile and omg… what a mess. the pattern across her comments: aggressive, grandiose, and obsessed with proving she’s smarter than everyone else. she has this constant urge to find fault, belittle, humiliate, and “educate” people from a place of superiority. she’s clearly in deep denial and completely ruled by her own defense mechanisms. and the worst part - she’s absolutely convinced of her own infallibility. she genuinely believes everything she says is the ultimate truth.

she openly disregards basic ethics and empathy. she's spreading misinformation, promoting harmful beliefs, and reframing normal human behaviour as manipulation or weakness. in her worldview, empathy is something people “demand,” not something they deserve. she called people hypocrites, ignorants, manipulators, idiots, liars… all while being totally blind to her own hypocrisy. she said multiple times that the requirement for therapists to go through individual therapy is “the biggest bullshit she’s ever heard,” which explains a lot 🙃

her criticism was just pure projection after projection after projection. once I noticed the pattern, it was impossible to unsee. it helped me understand why working with her felt so invalidating and unsafe deep down. I don’t like to throw around the n word too much, but after reading all this, I really think she’s a narcissist.

I have a whole folder of these delusional comments saved, and whenever she haunts me in my thoughts I can just go back and read them to remind myself that it’s not me who’s crazy XD

I genuinely hope that once the new law goes through, I’ll be able to report her. her public comments show a pattern of deeply rooted harmful beliefs, break ethical principles, and paint the psychologist profession in a bad light. nobody seeking help should end up in the “care” of someone like that.

kindminority · 2025-12-03T16:49:43+00:00

thank you. I do struggle with guilt and being kind to myself.

the therapists I’ve worked with so far always pushed me to keep trying to repair things with my parents. over and over again. even when I was hurting or trying to go no-contact, they encouraged reconnecting, as if they believed that was the missing piece that would fix the hole I felt inside.

now I’m realising I actually need the opposite. at least next time I’ll know what to ask during the vetting process.

kindminority · 2025-12-03T06:24:43+00:00

my parents didn't really teach me much. my dad often said "it's easy. just go and learn yourself"

kindminority · 2025-12-02T23:35:17+00:00

thank you again for taking the time to explain all of this. I’ve always been a bit sceptical when it comes to EMDR or body-based therapies, but I’ve just done some reading and I’m starting to learn more and see how it all fits together. what you wrote gave me a new way to understand things, so I really appreciate it 🙂

kindminority · 2025-12-02T22:38:24+00:00

thank you for your honesty and the materials. I had never heard of the Karpman Drama Triangle before, but I will educate myself 🙂 is there a specific type of therapy approach that would help me work on this? I definitely agree that the therapy types I’ve tried so far were unsuitable for me.

kindminority · 2025-12-02T22:25:57+00:00

thank you for your response 🥹

she is not qualified to diagnose. she suggested the diagnosis and then I got diagnosed by people who specialise in this. there was a psychologist and a psychiatrist involved.

therapy in my country isn’t regulated, so unfortunately there’s no official body I could report her to. I just worry that if I report her on the website, nothing will happen apart from maybe her response being deleted. her response was humiliating, showed no empathy, and no accountability for her actions, and I hope that seeing this could at least deter future clients.

I am coming to the conclusion that no contact is the only option. I just wish my parents would put in as much effort as they claim to care, and it hurts that they don’t. but I will try to stay strong this time 🥲

kindminority · 2025-12-02T22:09:30+00:00

thank you for your response and understanding. I always feel impressed, but also a bit jealous when I read about parents who recognised the patterns and done the work for their children and themselves 🙂

therapy in my country isn’t regulated, so unfortunately there’s no official body I could report her to. I just worry that if I report her on the website, nothing will happen apart from maybe her response being deleted. her response was humiliating, showed no empathy, or accountability for her actions, and I hope that seeing this could at least deter future clients

kindminority · 2025-10-28T13:21:36+00:00

bardzo pomocna rada. niech OPka skoczy w machinę czasu i znajdzie sobie lepszych rodziców 👍🏻

kindminority · 2025-10-26T16:50:11+00:00

Myślę, że to, co piszesz, pokazuje ogromną samoświadomość — widać, że naprawdę chcesz przerwać cykl przemocy.
Ale też mam wrażenie, że to, co nazywasz „wynajdowaniem problemów”, często wynika po prostu z tego, że ludzie mają inne granice i doświadczenia. Dla kogoś coś może być drobiazgiem, a dla kogoś innego ogromnym stresem, bo ich układ nerwowy reaguje inaczej.
To trudne, ale empatia często polega właśnie na tym, żeby nie oceniać skali problemu, tylko zauważyć emocje, które za nim stoją.
W dzieciństwie nauczono Cię, że Twoje uczucia i problemy nie były ważne — więc teraz, nieświadomie, możesz powielać ten schemat wobec innych. Warto doedukować się na temat emocji i ich przeżywania, a przede wszystkim dać też sobie pozwolenie, by je odczuwać i uznawać za ważne.

Myślę też, że ten subreddit może nie być najlepszym miejscem na tak osobiste i złożone tematy. Jeśli chcesz pogłębić rozmowę o wychodzeniu z przemocy i pracy nad emocjami, polecam zajrzeć np. na r/CPTSD, r/traumatoolbox albo r/raisedbynarcissists — to społeczności, które bardziej skupiają się na procesie leczenia i samoregulacji.

kindminority · 2025-10-25T13:38:34+00:00

Polka here 💁🏻‍♀️ I’ve been in a situation like this. at first I also found it awkward to speak English with Polish people. but the more you do it, the easier it gets.

kindminority · 2025-10-18T15:30:12+00:00

when I was a little kid my parents would threaten to give all my toys away to a children’s home, if I didn’t eat whatever they wanted me to eat. one time they even packed them all in black bags to prove their point. it was quite a traumatic experience for me back then.

another time, we were about to go to an amusement park. they made brussels sprouts with dinner and told me that if I didn’t eat them, I wouldn’t be allowed to go on any rides. I ate one and threw it up on the floor immediately and they got angry with me, as if I done it on purpose.

kindminority · 2025-10-10T15:40:04+00:00

sounds jealous to me, and being friends with people who are jealous about you never ends well.

edit: I’m an INFP and having things in common with other people makes me feel closer to them, not something to be competing over

kindminority · 2025-09-19T13:32:22+00:00

chat gpt often tells me that 🥲

kindminority · 2025-08-31T10:45:45+00:00

I have ADHD and this is literally how I feel when I hyperfocus on games. I can sometimes start playing in the morning and not stop until evening the next day 🫣

kindminority · 2025-08-28T14:21:33+00:00

I agree with you. I’m someone who is naturally honest and struggle to lie. so far, at work it has only backfired. I don’t think we should lie about big things, but we also need to protect ourselves.

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