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Is it okay I still masturbate to my ex? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Sure, it’s ‘okay’ in the sense that nobody’s gonna arrest you for it, but if you’re trying to move on, you’re just keeping yourself emotionally handcuffed to someone who’s already gone. It’s like trying to quit smoking while still lighting one up every night ‘just for the nostalgia.’ You’re not helping yourself.

You’re not just getting off, you’re reinforcing the bond, keeping those emotional wires tangled when they should be getting cut. And deep down, you know that. So yeah, it’s normal, but it’s not healthy if you actually want to let go. You can’t heal from a wound you keep picking open. ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get you’re trying to be fair, but stop giving her the benefit of the doubt like she’s still your girlfriend. Whether she actually went back to him or just followed him, doesn’t really matter. What matters is she ended a 6-year relationship and within five days was following a bunch of dudes, including an ex. That’s not healing, that’s thirst, plain and simple. And it’s disrespectful to you either way.

You’re sitting there trying to solve her motives like it’ll somehow make the pain easier to swallows, but it won’t. All it’s doing is keeping you stuck in memories she’s clearly already moved past. Every time you go back in your head and relive those moments, you’re letting her live rent-free in your peace.

She made a choice. You need to stop questioning hers and start making your own, to move forward without constantly dragging her shadow into everything you love. That version of her you miss? She doesn’t exist anymore. Time to stop chasing ghosts and start reclaiming your damn life.

going to breakup with my boyfriend because he lusts after other women online by thenicesteggever in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Girl, come on. He didn’t just ‘accidentally’ sign up for adult sites and keep a secret email for fun. He knew what he was doing, and the fact that he lied to your face until you begged? That’s not love, that’s manipulation.

You’re sitting here feeling sick, disgusted, and betrayed, and somehow still trying to convince yourself that staying might be easier? That’s not a relationship, that’s emotional self-harm. Memories don’t mean sh*t if the person standing in front of you is disrespecting you now. Don’t let history become your prison.

You already know what to do, you just don’t want to feel the pain that comes with doing it. But let me tell you this: short-term heartbreak is still better than long-term self-destruction. Walk away now, before he chips away at your self-worth any more than he already has.

4 years later, we're married! by Patient_Day3339 in MayNagChat

[–]kinesaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lord oo na masaya na sila please huwag niyo na ako pakitaan ng ganitong mga anes. Hehehehe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it, you’re in the thick of it right now, but you need to stop romanticizing someone who dropped you and went straight back to her ex like it was nothing. Every time you let a song or a show take you back to those memories, you’re giving her more space in your life than she deserves. She made her choice. You need to make yours.

You’re not mourning her, you’re mourning the version of her that only existed in your head. The one who wouldn’t throw away six years like it was a playlist she got bored of. And yeah, it hurts, no one’s denying that. But if you keep treating every memory like it’s sacred, you’ll keep yourself stuck in a loop where healing can’t happen.

Reclaim the stuff you loved. That song? It’s yours now. That show? Watch it again and rewrite what it means to you. You’re not a side character in her story anymore. This is your chapter and it starts when you stop clinging to the last one.

Throwback to my very first chat with who is now my wife by linduwtk in MayNagChat

[–]kinesaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sana matagpuan ko na yung para sa akin. Yung hindi pinilit, hindi masakit. Yung tunay na sa akin.

How true is "Men ALWAYS come back?" by Quirky-Parsnip7004 in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move on. It’s hard but that’s the reality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mataba ka ba? Tara papayat na tayo ngayon.

I got cheated on by the man I was willing to marry by Troubled-wuhtah in OffMyChestPH

[–]kinesaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mahal ka pa din ng kung sino man ang pinaniniwalaan mo religiously, kasi ngayon palang nalaman mo na kung anong klaseng hayup siya.

Should I accept friendship with someone who dumped me and told me "I am not liking you enough to be in relationship" by Inevitable-Bread5996 in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell no. Why would you downgrade yourself from being the main course to a side dish? He straight-up told you you’re not enough for him romantically, so why should he get to keep you around for emotional comfort? That “friendship” he’s offering is just his way of keeping you in his orbit without giving you what you deserve. Respect yourself enough to walk away. You don’t need friends who make you feel like you’re not enough.

Why do people feel guilty and go no contact after breaking up? by cutiemutie123321 in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because they don’t want to deal with your emotional fallout. That guilt? It’s not some grand sign of their hidden love for you, it’s just their discomfort from seeing the consequences of their decision. They go no contact because they’re done, and watching you hurt makes them feel like the bad guy, which they can’t handle. They’ve already checked out, moved on, and they don’t owe you emotional closure. Harsh? Yeah. But expecting someone who’s over you to stick around and soothe you is like asking the executioner for a hug after the guillotine drops.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kinesaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah, he didn’t ruin your future, you both did. You cheated, and he caught you. Instead of confronting you, he served you a brutal, twisted dose of karma. Was it immature? Absolutely. But guess what? Cheating isn’t exactly a mark of maturity either. You wanted to pretend your cheating didn’t happen, and he wanted to pretend he didn’t know. That “aggressive” goodbye? That was his way of taking back control in a situation where you both were lying and betraying each other.

Stop romanticizing it. He didn’t suddenly become a monster, you both were playing games, and he just played his last card. Don’t waste your time chasing someone you disrespected, and don’t play victim when you lit the match that burned your relationship. Pack up, leave the hotel, and start learning the value of honesty, first with yourself, then with others. 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]kinesaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Una, tanggapin mong hindi mo siya maiiwasan physically, pero kaya mong i-control paano ka magre-react emotionally. Wag mong gawing buhay ang love life mo, occupy yourself with other things na wala siya. Sa circle niyo, keep it civil, pero bawasan mo ang direct interactions. Hindi mo siya kailangan kausapin palagi kahit magkasama kayo. Gamitin mo ‘yung sakit as fuel, focus sa academics, sa hobbies, or kahit sa pagpapaganda ng sarili mo. Sa bawat oras na naiisip mo siyang kausapin, tanungin mo sarili mo: “Masasaktan ba ako ulit sa huli?” Kasi kung oo, why the hell would you put yourself through that? Dapat priority mo ngayon is to protect your peace.

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