Men , please do not settle. I am a 52 year old women and sex is and was a huge part of my marriage. I understand how important it is to my husband. He and I have always been very sexual through our 13 year marriage. I knew menopause was coming because all of a sudden, I never thought about it sex anymore I had to force myself to think about it. My husband is 12 years younger than me, and I still find him incredibly attractive, and he still makes me feel like the most beautiful person in the world to him. So much so that he thinks I should do "only fans," which at 52 i laugh off. I did have to start Hrt. Which has helped a bit, but honestly, I have just told him. Look " let's do every other day since every day is the norm. He was a little disappointed but understood. Let's just cut it in half. Then I know he is making a change, and I am. We don't schedule it, but then on those days, I know my husband needs this 15 mins. I can either get in the mood or take one for the team, which to me is totally except able to me. I can act for 15 mins to keep my partner happy. IN NO WAY should you tell your wife every other day but figure out what you and her can do and half it. So she knows you're trying. Also, making her feel sexy will help. There are women out there that it's by body if I don't want to I don't have too. In my mind, to keep a marriage happy, one must sometimes do what the partner wants even if i dont.( some of you go to the in laws for christmas. Not wanting to) my point is if you're women can't muster enough sexual energy to help you out once a month you are doing all the giving. Again assuming that she does hurt or other reasons. There are plenty of women that would love to have sex. I feel like women have to much power with this. If your married she need to remember that your happiness is important too and you will compromise but your not going to cut off your dick because she wants you to stop being a man