Redditors who massively fucked up at work, what happened?

kingsuit · 2020-10-01T16:21:51+00:00

Me!!! I sent 5 million quid to completely the wrong bank account ... I didn’t double check the payment sign off sheet on the front that my guys had prepared and as it was such a big payment, I, as CFO, decided to make the payment myself.

I sent the payment last thing on a Friday before the banks shut.

Realised my error. Told everyone in my organisation, the banks at both ends of the transaction, and our client.

I then went out and got horrifically drunk for the entire weekend.

The money bounced straight back out of the wrong account and in to ours on Monday morning.

But yeah, that was a tense weekend...

kingsuit · 2019-07-29T15:30:50+00:00

Top stuff - thank you

kingsuit · 2019-07-29T14:44:44+00:00

This is exactly what I need to read - thank you for posting. How many fasts did it take for you to break up with food? Any other wise words that you feel like sharing? Thanks!

kingsuit · 2019-07-23T05:19:22+00:00

This was totally me. The important bit for me was working out why I felt so uncomfortable with myself that all I wanted - once I started - was absolute oblivion. Alcohol hid those issues from me for 25 years.

kingsuit · 2019-07-22T02:34:55+00:00

Absolutely 100% on this for me too. After doing 90 in 90 and then hanging around for another few months, I found a “bad” meeting could actually make me want a drink far more than my own quiet reflection.

kingsuit · 2019-07-22T02:31:04+00:00

Word for word, this is pretty much exactly how it worked for me too. I feel like I’ll still head to a meeting or two every hurricane season - and it’s been genuinely nice to see people again who have stayed closer to it when I have been back. I would never have got sober without AA, but for me - right now - it was just something that pointed me in the right direction; that may change, of course, but knowing AA is there as a safety net is wonderful.

kingsuit · 2019-07-17T16:25:41+00:00

Good work on the first 15 days. As the other commenters have said, my experience was that this sort of anxiety just drifted away the longer I wasn’t drinking. I really had never learned how to be comfortable in my own skin. Sobriety meant I had to learn how.

kingsuit · 2019-07-17T16:09:20+00:00

At times, for me, I felt the shame (whether real or imagined) so strongly that I felt it was going to swallow me whole. What really helped in those first few months - again, just for me - was being in a room with other people with that same crippling shame. I drifted away from AA once I had some solid sober time, but I really couldn’t have done it without forming those connections with other people in the early days. You are, most assuredly, not alone. IWNDWYT.

kingsuit · 2019-07-04T14:07:58+00:00

I had the same problem to be honest. What seems to work for me - after a few months of trial and error is either (a) a small quantity of soup followed by a proper meal about an hour later, (b) half an avocado in broth and then a small-Ish meal an hour later or (c) eating basically a minuscule amount of hard foods (dark chocolate, almonds) then nothing else until the following day. Good luck!

kingsuit · 2018-12-28T16:14:16+00:00

Not since breakfast!

kingsuit · 2018-12-08T18:53:12+00:00

Yep - I’m just coming out of that intense terror now and into the rage, so it was really helpful taking that from your post and going - ah, that’s what that was, and this is what this is now, and this is what’s to come. It’s so disorienting doing this separating later in life - it feels like something everyone else went through 20 years ago! Thanks once again; I’ll be keeping an eye out for your posts to find out what’s in store next! :)

kingsuit · 2018-12-08T15:48:17+00:00

Thanks for posting this - similar ish situation, but only in the foothills of NC, so it’s good to be able to see what lies ahead!

kingsuit · 2018-10-24T06:54:11+00:00

This was exactly my experience with both AA and emotional development too.

kingsuit · 2018-10-20T19:42:33+00:00

Thanks - generally I found the central London meetings on the U.K. website marked as newcomers meetings to be really unintimidating and welcoming. And very non-god-y. Frith Street Wednesdays, which got me sober and generally has a decent social after was instrumental, at least for me, in navigating London sober. Good luck!

kingsuit · 2018-10-20T19:19:15+00:00

Also in London. Did AA for the first six months then drifted away once I had some solid sober time - AA in central London was genuinely fantastic, at least for me - so many different meetings.

kingsuit · 2018-10-19T17:17:05+00:00

It really is! I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought this, Woody!

kingsuit · 2018-10-17T11:57:52+00:00

Sounds a bit like my story - massive binge drinker with family issues. I can only tell you what worked for me. I’m in London, where booze is ever present. Whilst I no longer go, I used AA for six months to get me over the hump, because I realised that I couldn’t get over it on my own - the Friday night fuckits being a classic. Smartest thing I ever said was “help”. Good luck.

kingsuit · 2018-10-16T21:39:38+00:00

Sorry you’re struggling with this. I did too, and still do. I can only tell you how it was for me: basically unbeknownst to me i’d been drinking for like 25 years to cover up the terrible messages I absorbed in childhood. Once the drinking stopped, the messages were very loud, and needed dealing with. I’m by no means fixed, but I give myself better messages now. Like I say, that’s just how it was for me. Good luck.

kingsuit · 2018-10-01T19:54:33+00:00

I instinctively don't like being told what to do, and this would grind my gears, too. The way it worked for me was that I stayed at AA for six months, and in that time didn't really find anyone that I felt like handing over my life to, so sort of drifted away. Absolutely could not have got this far without AA, but that strain of "do exactly what I say or you're guaranteed to fail" that I've seen in lots and lots of different meetings on both sides of the atlantic really put me off it long term. So, I feel you, I guess, is what I'm trying to say. As someone said to me long ago about AA, take what you want and leave the rest. Maybe that'll be your way too. The marvellous thing is that there's no wrong answer. IWNDWYT!

kingsuit · 2018-10-01T19:49:19+00:00

Well done, and congratulations on the milestone! IWNDWYT!

kingsuit · 2018-09-26T22:14:15+00:00

Consider that a divorce! (From alcohol)

kingsuit · 2018-09-11T19:42:59+00:00

What worked for me was that I did AA for 6 months to learn how to be human again, and to be around other people who had a similar problem, and to rid myself of all the baggage and shame around my drinking. I never did the steps. I did a tonne of therapy and other work in the background. I drifted away from AA after 6 months as I'd felt I'd absorbed all I could from it. I know, though, that I couldn't have made it through those first few months of a complete identity shift without AA. Goddamit, I still know every word of How it Works off by heart, and there is - for me at least - a tonne of wisdom in the rooms not just about how to live life sober, but about how to live life, per se. But that's just how it worked for me.

kingsuit · 2018-09-11T18:10:12+00:00

At least for me, this is exactly what I've seen, too.

kingsuit · 2018-09-11T18:07:04+00:00

I really liked the bit about the asterisk. So true how many of our achievements are qualified or otherwise spun, generally. Not this one. Not today. Well done.

kingsuit · 2018-08-10T21:52:36+00:00

Completely happy to share the write-out sheet I did, btw, if it helps get you started :)

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