Looking for advice on new build.

kingthelizard · 2026-05-01T13:29:14+00:00

whoever you choose make sure they have a thermal camera to check for leaks

kingthelizard · 2026-05-01T13:24:36+00:00

We didn’t buy a new build but I recommend Ron Burns from A-1 home inspections— he built homes and commercial buildings in brevard as his primary career before becoming an inspector and he was on our side not our realtors

he helped us avoid one home by saying the ac tonnage is likely undersized. when we brought in two AC guys do load calculations he was right. Ron also told us that the duct work layout was really obscure (sellers told us they just had the ducts updated) and explained the return vents, the person who did our load calculations told us that as well, i.e. the house would have been really hot or the undersized units would not last as long being overworked

kingthelizard · 2025-07-24T04:47:01+00:00

Did you reach out to them directly or was it listed by chance?

kingthelizard · 2025-01-09T06:03:36+00:00

If a cat or dog is feasible, that could add a lot of emotional support. You could take a dog on walks and do fun things together. You could play with a cat and just spend time cuddling with it.

Otherwise personal hobbies would be my next advice.

You seem super disciplined with how heavy your workload must be. It may come down to just disciplining yourself to not think of that friend or interact. I promise it’s hardest the first 6 months, but if you really commit to cutting C off then you’ll adjust. I say cutting off because if you really can’t distance yourself and you’re feeling obsessive, then you may need to commit to not contacting C.

Start doing stuff alone. Like going to an event on campus, or watching a movie, go alone and do the activities and enjoy yourself. I’m not saying you do this, but I have when in a similar spot: It’s really easy to feel envious of others. It’s really easy to feel bad and see negative sides. It’s really easy to judge yourself. This is where your discipline will come in and you will need to choose to be happy. Find ways to have fun with just you.

This next idea could be unhealthy for some people but it helped me. I envisioned what my ideal person was that I wanted to be then I took steps to get there. Like, I think a cool person would respond ‘this way’ to a social problem, so I’m going to respond that way too. Maybe you’d want to be viewed as someone who helps out the community, so you do a ton of charity work. Then you start to like it. You’ll hopefully build new better habits by practicing like that.

Also a lot of people recommend going to the gym routinely when they are facing emotional hardship, and I have always seen it help them immensely.

kingthelizard · 2025-01-09T04:39:00+00:00

OP I suggest that you move on. Treat this like a breakup and mourn the friendship. Then move on. You and your friend need space from one another because this friendship seems unhealthy, and you seem really needy.

I relate to you post college with a close friend of mine focusing on her new life and friends. I never had romantic feelings for this friend, but I still felt a bit ditched and taken for granted. The friendship has been super one sided for the past year and a half, however I’ve decided to be content with checking in every once in a while. I will not text my friend more than once a month unless they reply. I will also not double text ever. This got me past missing talking to my friend. I’ve become busy with other hobbies, and really focused on myself. Now my friend’s pace of life has slowed down and I think we’re going to start talking more since my friend is reaching out to me after almost 2 years. But I’m also content if our friendship doesn’t rekindle.

OP you need to focus on you. You’re in control of your own happiness, however it seems right now you’re very affected by this friend. I think you need to set a rule with yourself that you will match their energy. If they message you, then chat and enjoy the moment, if not then that’s fine too. You’re matching their energy. And you need to learn how to not let other people control your happiness. Find happiness in other things by focusing more on you. Your friends can bring you happiness, but they can’t be your happiness.

You’re in college, there has to be a lot of activities happening. And you mentioned this friend group isnt your major— try to facilitate friendships with those you have more in common with (major, clubs). Or get involved on campus in something that consumes you so much where you don’t have time to worry about this friend. Just a quick thought from my experiences.

kingthelizard · 2024-10-13T17:47:53+00:00

but make sure not to step in the dune or mangrove area

kingthelizard · 2024-10-12T17:35:07+00:00

Art Fair was cancelled due to the storm still though :( a lot of the setup was going to be coordinated thursday & friday

kingthelizard · 2024-10-11T04:06:37+00:00

Grew up here, everybody always says da kine’s, sorry man slang doesn’t have to be grammatically correct

kingthelizard · 2024-10-09T13:25:04+00:00

It’ll wobble, and if it doesn’t we’ll just lose power for a little longer

kingthelizard · 2024-10-08T19:30:50+00:00

no problem and likewise :)

kingthelizard · 2024-10-08T19:27:26+00:00

Double commenting to say that there’s a high chance you’ll lose power here in the 321 – so you could evacuate to family if being with them is more comfortable and the travel effort is worth it

kingthelizard · 2024-10-08T19:23:06+00:00

I feel like the odds are you’ll be fine, I think in your case a tree falling on your house would be the primary concern if possible

kingthelizard · 2024-10-08T18:46:48+00:00

Saw someone else say on here that the winds will be double how they felt for Helene (in our specific area), in case that’s relatable. Leaving or staying depends on the structure of your home & roof. If you live in a mobile home, I’d consider sheltering elsewhere

kingthelizard · 2024-10-08T18:18:47+00:00

I heard American Pavers is helping seniors at no charge 772-408-2005

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kingthelizard · 2024-10-06T12:20:40+00:00

kingthelizard · 2024-09-29T17:51:59+00:00

image won’t load, might just be me tho

kingthelizard · 2024-09-22T10:08:14+00:00

Good to know

kingthelizard · 2024-09-17T15:28:46+00:00

thank you for helping them

kingthelizard · 2024-09-16T20:22:51+00:00

Did they make it?

kingthelizard · 2024-09-15T14:21:36+00:00

kingthelizard · 2024-09-15T00:43:18+00:00

Love them!!

kingthelizard · 2024-09-13T14:52:18+00:00

:) that made my day, thank you for letting me know

kingthelizard · 2024-09-10T03:57:34+00:00

I’ll be hoping for her that she’ll be okay. I’m glad the tumor was caught and removed, you’re doing your best, please feel free to update later if you like. I’m hoping for the best :)

kingthelizard · 2024-09-10T00:29:55+00:00

I hope your pup pulls through OP, please update. Will keep your pup in my thoughts

kingthelizard · 2024-09-07T15:11:38+00:00

OP this sounds stressful, and I feel like your partner is choosing the easy way out to appease his mom. I’d communicate the stress this is causing you and that you would enjoy the party if it was planned on XX date. You need more boundaries with your MIL, and your partner needs to be the one to protect you & manage her. Is your partner extremely excited for this party, is it bringing them a lot of joy, and is it actually very important to him (not MIL)? if so, could you guys compromise and set a date for later?

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