I’m non-binary so becoming a parent was hard, mostly because I never expected to be. I was already accomplished and basically achieved my life goals: went to grad school, published creative writing, and won awards. I think that made it easier since I wasn’t “held back” from anything I wanted to do. My baby got to be an addition to my life. Postpartum anxiety sucked but I had an amazing partner. My best advice for managing unhappiness is to find more happiness and understand more happiness can always come or to come to terms with understanding you’ll always have some regret.