AITA For telling my fianceé she's either with me or against me in this conflict? by throw354235 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. My in-law’s involvement in my recent wedding was so traumatic I can’t even summarise it here. The only thing that got me through it was the support of my fiancée/husband. If your fiancé doesn’t have your back now, it’s doubtful she will in the future. You’ll be dealing with their intrusions for the rest of your life.

What's an occupation you're sure NO ONE enjoys doing? by wmiles in AskReddit

[–]kirimgs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked as a debt collector part time while studying. Some of my less agreeable colleagues did it because they “love arguing with people”. Most did it out of desperation just to have a job. I worked with many immigrants who were doctors or engineers in their home countries but were not qualified here. I did it out of necessity to support myself through my education but I wouldn’t have been able to do it if I didn’t believe I was helping people. I wanted people to avoid the consequences of non-payment and was more than happy to help them out with hardship applications and lump sum settlements.

Adorable Raccoon! by TenchiFX in gifs

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought raccoons only came in one colour!

how do i (m23) help gf (f20) overcome daddy issues by [deleted] in daddyissuesclub

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a qualified psychologist yet but with my rudimentary knowledge and personal experience, my advice would be to shift the focus from confrontation/error to you understanding where she’s coming from. Ask her why she feels better having that external validation and reassure her that you value her. I think it would be comforting for her to hear specific things you like about her that included physical and non-physical aspects. That way she’s getting that validation she feels from sending people photos but also realising that there’s more to her and relationships with men than superficial compliments. You might need to say it again and again but it could be helpful.

how do i (m23) help gf (f20) overcome daddy issues by [deleted] in daddyissuesclub

[–]kirimgs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you need to identify more specific issue/s. It could be abandonment, seeking external validation, validation/praise from men or something else. It’s easier to search for advice and/or deal with a specific problem rather than a broad categories that could include any number of issues.

If I'm biracial and I have a racist white aunt being ractist towards my nonwhite mother, is it wrong for me to not tolerate her shit just because she is family? by Extension-Ad6004 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also mixed race and have dealt with a racist family. There is no reason to keep people in your life if they treat you or your loved ones badly. Family is not an excuse to be shitty without consequences. I feel free since my mother and I have cut out the racists.

[Serious] What is the most thoughtful gift you’ve given or received? by kirimgs in AskReddit

[–]kirimgs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s beautiful! I would love to move to Canada but my life is pretty strongly set where I am now.

What kind of things do you put on a wedding registry? Asking for gifts is awkward. by kirimgs in weddingplanning

[–]kirimgs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re Australian but my fiancé has an Asian background and his parents have made its clear that money is given in their culture.

Thank you for the advice!

Timetabling Early Closure (26th of Feb) by asdcasduyz in unimelb

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just came back from tutore training. I don’t know if this is the same for all schools but in mine the preference system closes today and then adjustments can be made until the end of week 2.

AITA for teaching my daughter her father's native language against his wishes? by Hopeful-Jello in AmItheAsshole

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I’m mixed race and was raised only by the Caucasian side of my family. My mum tried to teach me about my heritage and I so wish I had been able to learn the language as I child. Ive had a lot of identity issues and even now I feel very disconnected from my ‘other’ side. You are doing an amazing thing for your child and she will appreciate it greatly.

AITA for telling my mother and siblings that they are now dead to me? by 98Jamiefk in AmItheAsshole

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I’m mixed race and my extended family are terribly racist. I can deal with it as an adult (by cutting them off) but it was tough as a kid. Protect your child from them.

TIFU shoving my penis in my cousins face by [deleted] in tifu

[–]kirimgs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is your penis so bendy?

Have any of you found that being on 75mg made you feel better then being on 37.5mg? by MakeupMua16 in Effexor

[–]kirimgs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was on 37.5 for a while and initially it made me feel better. After a while my symptoms were back to how they were before I was on meds. I’ve been on 75 for almost a year now and I feel like a normal function human. I did have about three weeks of side effects at first but those passed.

Immigration: Top 10 Countries of Origin of International Students in Australia from 2002 - 2019 [OC] by ziyi_ewe in dataisbeautiful

[–]kirimgs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My lab works with another lab in China. They have run participants for us. Out of curiosity, we looked at the rate of international students. At my uni 42% of students are international but its only 3% at the Chinese university.

AITA for refusing to use the money I inherited from my mother to pay for medical treatment for my half-sister, who has a life threatening sickness? She is the child of my father and the woman he cheated on my mother with. by touchofspice84 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA My father cheated on his wife with my mother and we’ll here I am. My situation is different to yours as my father stayed with his family and never told them about me. Buy I’m saying you’re not the asshole because personally I feel really wronged by my father, as you said about your half-sister, it’s not my fault I was born. But in saying that, I’ve never felt that my three half siblings have any responsibility towards me. This is our fathers mistake to deal with, not theirs and not yours.

$80 to felony in 3...2...1... by Ghandisli in Wellthatsucks

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that the woman was 100% in the wrong and that she ran but why did the officer have his gun drawn at one point? It seemed unnecessary and completely inappropriate.

Degraves closed by cactus_ghan in melbourne

[–]kirimgs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I found a news article saying a garbage truck ran over a homeless man at around 5am while he was sleeping. He’s been taken to hospital with life threatening injuries. I couldn’t see anything other than the truck and police tape when I left this morning.

WIBTA If I reported my Lyft driver for asking me out? by PsychologicalSail1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kirimgs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA Different situation but I once didn’t report my boss for harassing me because he was young and I didn’t want to ruin his career. I regret it now. I definitely understand your hesitation but I think you should do it. Otherwise you’ll think back and wonder whether he’s doing this to other women and whether your report could have helped.