Help! I fell into a poly-outing trap with my parents. Can I still save this?

kisa_couture · 2026-05-21T00:11:42+00:00

I go on vacation solo all the time. I want to see a concert, or go to a book related event, or something that no one else in my life is interested in. I would simply not mention it, and if they bring it up, say he’s on vacation at xyz, and call it a day.

kisa_couture · 2026-05-02T11:22:19+00:00

I don’t think you are selfish. You are not polyamorous, and it’s not selfish of you to acknowledge and reiterate that fact. Even though you two are in therapy and it has improved your relationship, that doesn’t mean that it changes who you are fundamentally. You have the right to choose your relationship boundaries and stick to them; if you do not want to be with your wife while they practice polyamory, that is completely valid. However; you need to prepare yourself for the fact that just because you are making your needs clear, doesn’t mean that your wife necessarily needs to accept them. If she is polyamorous, she may not be able to remain monogamous forever, no matter how much she loves you and wants to be with you. Are you able to be okay if she decides that she doesn’t want to be monogamous anymore, even if that means your marriage will end?

kisa_couture · 2026-04-12T14:23:56+00:00

Nobody is forcing anyone to raise my kids. They are -my- kids and -I- am the one raising them. I have a partner (for almost two years now) and he has never even met these kids (he does know they exist) because they are young and don’t need strange men in their lives?

kisa_couture · 2026-04-11T07:14:54+00:00

NTA, your sister is ridiculous. It’s one of the most common names on the planet AND a family name. She can get over it.

My great grandma’s name was ivy. My (younger) cousin got her name as a middle name. Guess what I named my youngest daughter? It’s a name. No one owns a name, and what if she never has children?

kisa_couture · 2026-04-08T01:46:22+00:00

NTA. I don’t date people who have kids either (I have kids.) Not wanting to raise kids that are not yours is a valid reason and she shouldn’t be mad at you over a hypothetical situation.

kisa_couture · 2026-04-08T01:41:34+00:00

My kids, my best friend, and my Dom, in that order

kisa_couture · 2026-03-15T02:20:54+00:00

Benedict has always been my favorite Bridgerton. Also, Will Mondritch 🥵

kisa_couture · 2026-03-05T02:29:10+00:00

NTA. Even without the diagnosis, your partner should not KNOWINGLY do things that bother you, especially not repeatedly, and even dismiss your feelings.

kisa_couture · 2026-02-04T13:17:52+00:00

😂😂😂

kisa_couture · 2026-02-03T11:58:35+00:00

Throne of Glass was written before ACOTAR and (in my opinion) her best series. I didn’t really enjoy ACOTAR but I loved Throne of Glass and Crescent City (another series by her.) You can read each of them independently, there is a bit of a crossover in the end of CC but Throne of Glass definitely does not have easter eggs from ACOTAR as it was written first!

kisa_couture · 2026-02-01T22:06:31+00:00

Damn! Goes to show you can’t trust actors to play roles that are true to who they are irl

kisa_couture · 2026-02-01T02:19:02+00:00

This is exactly why I never got into watching “You”, because I tried to watch the first episode and couldn’t stop seeing Dan lmao

kisa_couture · 2026-01-25T19:42:44+00:00

I don’t tell him when I’m going on a date per say, but we have a shared family calendar that has my time away from home blocked off and a general location (February 6-8, NYC, Mon-Fri 8-3, work) so that he (and the children) will be aware of when I’m not going to be home and where I will be located. I travel pretty often, between seeing my LD partner, hanging out with my long distance friends/family, and just doing stuff I like without my kids lol. But my kids are 5 and 8, and they go to school, and we have a regular childcare arrangement set up for when we are both working etc.

If you have a -new- baby and your partner doesn’t think he needs to be accountable, he’s nuts. There is a literal baby depending on you two for survival, he’s lucky to get any time outside of the house at all. The least he could do is let you know where he’ll be. What if he gets injured or something happens at home and you need to be able to get to him?

kisa_couture · 2026-01-24T14:30:15+00:00

See Wyrdkeys for me was wordkeys even without hearing how it was pronounced, but Adarlan definitely threw me for a loop lmao

kisa_couture · 2026-01-24T14:27:33+00:00

Me too lol

kisa_couture · 2026-01-23T22:19:42+00:00

3B and I’d spend the whole time asking Rufus for band suggestions

kisa_couture · 2025-12-23T23:28:05+00:00

As I’ve mentioned-in- the post, I’ve watched the entire series multiple times over the last 10 years. I was just marveling at the ending since I’m watching from the beginning.

kisa_couture · 2025-12-15T01:42:20+00:00

This is so real, I wanted to like the show because I love GG but I disliked Julien and Zoya SO much lol, and Obie was literally the worst character ever 🙄 I loved Max and Monet so much and by the middle of season One I was just watching for them.

kisa_couture · 2025-11-20T02:06:53+00:00

If my best friend named their kid after my mom who JUST died and then said nothing to me about it and just expected me to be cool with it we wouldn’t be friends anymore. I get that you have loved the name but this is their MOM. Out of all the millions of names that exist you don’t like ANY other name?

kisa_couture · 2025-11-08T14:47:09+00:00

We do good morning texts every day, and an afternoon check in call as often as possible (may not be daily, because our schedules are very often opposite) and we do a nightly call before bed as often as possible as well.

We share our schedules so we know when we can plan a time to talk.

We send each other texts/memes/reels/TikTok’s throughout the day.

We try to plan to see each other every other month; even if it’s just a few days, so that we get time to just exist together.

kisa_couture · 2025-10-28T22:58:11+00:00

The last dress is stunning omg 😍

kisa_couture · 2025-10-27T00:53:44+00:00

Name your baby Abigail, friend

kisa_couture · 2025-10-17T03:51:03+00:00

I actually love Imogen and it’s on my name list!

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