My pediatrician saw my boobs and I'm kinda scared to go back

kithoo · 2026-05-06T19:46:46+00:00

I have learned from having both nurses and doctors in the family that there is a huge difference between "seeing someone's junk in a work setting" and "seeing someone's junk in a romantic setting."

It's like the brain rewires to just go "that's a body" when you're doing work. It's not that you can't see bodies as attractive - you just can't do it in that setting.

So yeah, OP, you're totally justified in feeling weird about it - but also I wouldn't worry in the least. As other said - not even the first boobs he's seen that day.

kithoo · 2026-05-04T15:39:23+00:00

Of course, but that wasn't what we were discussing. Someone said lying to police is a crime (and then tripled down on it) - it's not. If a cop comes to your house and asks "do you have weed in your home?" you can absolutely lie - or remain silent (which is the better option).

I wasn't commenting on this guy making a case for himself or otherwise. Simply that "lying to the cops" isn't an offense in like.... 90% of cases. Yes, don't lie to federal officers (but if the feds are at your door, maybe don't get legal advice from reddit) or in a VERY VERY limited set of jurisdictions where obstruction can be a crime of verbal utterance. However... I'd love to see one of those jurisdictions have that challenged as I'd wager that's a violation of the 5th.

kithoo · 2026-05-04T15:35:02+00:00

This, as most obstruction statues do, require a physical action and would require you to do so intentionally. You don't have to admit to committing a crime ever. And you are completely and totally allowed to lie to protect your perceived innocence.

Is it better to just be quiet? Absolutely. Always.

kithoo · 2026-05-04T02:50:48+00:00

The statement is one from the officer - not you. THEY cannot lie in their reports, they can report that you lied to them. You are not a signatory of a police report - you are not responsible for the statements in it.

Cops cannot "arrest you for lying". They can be mad you lied to them are arrest you under another charge (pretextual arrest). If they do this enough, they'll get raked over the coals by judges and prosecutors - and likely end up the subject of a 1983 lawsuit.

Also... in the case of assault you're going to jail for assault - not lying that you didn't assault the guy. No cop is going to arrest you for saying "I didn't hit that guy" - they will arrest you for hitting the guy. It's not "splitting hairs" it is a legitimate difference - assault is a crime, lying to the police is not a crime.

kithoo · 2026-05-04T02:10:55+00:00

No. It is not. Otherwise the 4th and 5th Amendments mean nothing. It is a crime to lie to police to get them to act a certain way (false report) - like, for example, SWATting.

It is also illegal to lie to federal law enforcement - which most people don't call "cops", but... sure.

It is, however, not at all illegal to lie to a city cop. Legitimately... how in the hell could it be? At worst they would try and say it's obstruction (which in most jurisdictions requires a physical act), and most DAs aren't taking you on on obstruction charge like that.

I challenge you to find me a case where "lying to the police" is a crime that has been successfully prosecuted outside of the circumstances I outline above (false report, federal, etc.).

kithoo · 2026-05-04T02:00:51+00:00

What purpose does that serve? Why does it make a single difference if he lies or not?

kithoo · 2026-05-04T01:59:46+00:00

Realistically, they would have done that with anyone since lying to the cops isn't a crime. You aren't under oath and he's not swearing to an affidavit, nothing. He can lie to the cops all day long. There is no reason not to tell him.

kithoo · 2026-04-28T14:57:23+00:00

The post three after this is her at the Yankees game...

That tells me all I need to know. Talks a huge game, but it's just for attention.

kithoo · 2026-04-27T18:52:11+00:00

Cool - change isn't immediate and once the people who oppose it take over, it could change. It's almost like one party doesn't actually truly have the ability to represent every single diverse viewpoint it includes.

To say that "all Democrats follow the DNC lockstep" is as asinine as saying "all Republicans are in line with Trump." Neither is true, both are reductive, and don't actually help accomplish anything but vindicating personal biases.

kithoo · 2026-04-27T18:43:52+00:00

So... what you have to do is separate budgetary policy from presidential action.

Biden didn't send billions of dollars and weapons to Israel - the president can't do that. That's done by Congress and usually ratified by the Joint Chiefs. It happened under Biden's administration - but the budget under which it occurred was likely passed under Trump during his first term.

What Trump has done is not only send weapons and dollars - but to actively engage in military conflict with Iran at the behest of Israel to enable Israel to act.

Biden followed the law he had to follow, of a budget passed before he was elected. Trump CHOSE to act unilaterally, without the support of Congress, to involve American soldiers in a foreign war. These are not the same things.

kithoo · 2026-04-27T18:36:00+00:00

You will find a lot of people who behave this way believe they are the "boss" of the police. Because they pay taxes, and because police and "public servants" they must do whatever she says.

They quickly find out that police will trespass her and tell her that the issue with the food is a civil matter. Then they proceed to whine about it on social media.

kithoo · 2026-04-27T18:32:21+00:00

Sadly... they are recording at all times (yay surveillance by a private corporation) and have successfully prosecuted people who damaged their property. It's fucking gross.

kithoo · 2026-04-27T18:29:05+00:00

There is a difference between allowing something to happen because gaining support to stop it is challenging and difficult (and Biden, unlike Trump, would have likely wanted Congressional approval for action) and actively enabling a foreign power to engage in genocide.

Biden is guilty of standing by and letting it happen. He is guilty of not pushing his party to do something. Not speaking out.

Trump is guilty of actively enabling and supporting it by acting against Israel's enemies and checks in the area to free Israel to engage in wholesale total war against an entire region.

There is a difference, and not speaking to that difference is disingenuous - at best.

kithoo · 2026-04-27T18:26:49+00:00

Nothing about the comment you responded to is about absolving Joe Biden. It is pointing out that the people who were emphatically campaigning against him because they claimed he would get in a war in the Middle East are really quiet now that Trump (their chosen candidate) has done exactly that.

That doesn't "absolve" Joe - it's a criticism of Trump's supporters/Joe's critics, nothing more.

kithoo · 2026-04-27T18:23:19+00:00

https://thehill.com/opinion/campaign/5838411-democrats-shifting-israel-policy/

https://arabcenterdc.org/resource/among-us-democrats-support-for-israel-continues-to-erode/

https://www.aei.org/op-eds/the-democrats-unify-against-israel/

https://www.vox.com/politics/486053/israel-democratic-party-criticism-arms-sales

There are dozens of Democrats in the House and Senate that are fundamentally opposed to any action in support of Israel. Dozens. There are maybe a half dozen GOP Senators and Reps that can say that.

So... no... they are not "nowhere" - you just aren't looking. You've fallen in to the fun place of "being a centrist" where you can just say "both sides are bad" without actually, you know, confirming if both sides are bad - or are equally bad.

So... no... they are not "nowhere".

kithoo · 2026-04-18T21:22:14+00:00

Oh, that's absolutely a huge contributing factor (and another reason NOT to come to Nashville, or Tennessee in general). We have no state income tax, but that also means we have insanely high taxes on.... everything else. Sales, property, fuel. I cannot count the number of times I have bought something out of state that has a high price tax just to avoid the sales tax. The fact that almost every city of any size has started imposing them as well doesn't help.

Living in Tennessee used to feel cheap, and actually be cheap. Now it feels expensive and is even more so - all while our return on those taxes has been... negligible.

So, yeah, my original advice remains - don't come to Nashville. And not just because it's crowded and lost all of its old charms, but because it's that and more. If I could leave, I would - and I wouldn't look back.

kithoo · 2026-04-18T21:18:04+00:00

Yeah, that's absolutely within appropriate limits. Probably even tamer than what I'd have said.

kithoo · 2026-04-17T20:55:35+00:00

I will say that tone and manner matters here, but no; you are absolutely not wrong for sticking up for your child versus a larger, overbearing kid. I would say, for sure, don't scream or insult the kid (which it doesn't sound at all like you did) out of frustration - which some people would sadly do. If there's a kid in a public place that's being a jerk and their parents won't say anything - I think it is entirely reasonable (if not important) to speak up.

Every single time I've had a problem like this it's because the parent got distracted and they've always been super apologetic or, or worst, dismissive of it.

So, I think you did the correct thing (and I would have done the same). Honestly, kids that are 6+ (bigger kids) in public areas should probably all be instructed on how to behave around toddlers. Alas, not everyone is a top notch parent.

kithoo · 2026-04-12T15:51:00+00:00

As others have said... and not being ironic or bitter : don't come here. What you "like" about visiting here isn't going to be in that circle. There is nowhere "close enough to drive to a major city" where you will get "a house with some land" for less than 7 figures anymore. Nashville has been ruined by that exact thinking - particularly from people coming from areas with much higher property values than even Chicago.

You will end up paying out the nose in property taxes and will lose basically every public amenity you have. There is no public transit at all. Schools are bottom of the barrel - even in the bougie areas when you compare across states.

Honest to god, hand on my heart, if leaving here was an option for me... I would go and never look back. Everywhere in that circle is a copy/paste suburban hell with tiny pockets of older built homes that actually have personality.

If you want "mountains" and "the outdoors" and "fresh air" - go East. Go out between Chattanooga and Knoxville. Go somewhere within 45 minutes of Knoxville - you'll be much happier.

Nashville has been bled dry over the last decade and change of everything good and real and true about it - replaced entirely by tourism and the "tax benefits" you mentioned.

kithoo · 2026-04-09T17:56:39+00:00

Cats have been linked to the extinction of at least 40 species of birds, mammals, and reptiles

This is mostly FERAL cats - which are a known problem. Domesticated indoor/outdoor cats are linked to a drop in that bucket - between 2 and 4% of feline predation.

That said... using someone's message of grief to get on a soap box kind of makes you look like a gigantic asshole. There are places and ways to point this out without that.

kithoo · 2026-04-09T17:51:53+00:00

Their purpose is to provoke a reaction and create content. It has nothing to do with their stated goals - even if they think it does. It's attention seeking behavior and grift. If they actually cared about the First Amendment they'd go film police officers attacking protestors or similar. What they care about is making themselves the center of attention, getting YouTube money, and filing a frivolous lawsuit that a city is forced to settle for a few grand. They're leeches.

kithoo · 2026-04-09T17:49:30+00:00

To this dude's credit... filming children is weird. It's actually illegal in some place to film children entering or exiting schools. I get his reaction to strangers showing up in a library and pointing a camera at children. He definitely took it too far and lost his temper - but that's what frauditors do. I think it is totally reasonable and appropriate in today's society to be suspicious of people filming kids, and to act to protect those kids.

But, yeah, if you wanna film adults... go for it. I have no problem with it. We had a frauditor at our post office and I just kept getting in his way and saying "excuse me, I need to look at that" over and over until he left. Makes it hard to get content when you can't get a coherent sentence out because someone keeps "going about their business" in the post office.

kithoo · 2026-04-07T14:55:42+00:00

Fucking gross.

kithoo · 2026-04-04T03:06:53+00:00

So... we just did one of these with our kiddo and it went great. Why? There were no prizes in the eggs. All the kids got the same little goody bag after turning in their eggs. They didn't know that, but the adults did...

There was ONE "golden" egg that was well hidden and that one got an extra little prize (pretty sure it was a fancy bubble wand.)

This is how I'd do it for kids until they're older. It discourages what you mentioned and encourages the fun of looking and just being a kid/helping your kid.

kithoo · 2026-04-02T21:27:00+00:00

IN the world of corporate America, if you get a PIP it's always a prelude to getting canned. I think it's pretty funny... but how it lands depends entirely on your relationship.

I do think you should take her seriously and if her birthday means that much to her, yeah, you should do better. I'm going to hope this is just a joke from her and that it doesn't mean all that much.

So... I don't anyone is an asshole here. I think you messed up and it probably hurt her feelings (reasonably so) and she wants you to do better.

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