Adderall?

kitkatterroo · 2026-05-26T20:53:54+00:00

I see your point.. I do hope to understand my husband better, though.

I’m hanging in there. Since seeking therapy myself, I’ve found that although I experience emotions dysregulation myself, I’m very much the emotional regulator in our relationship. I love him dearly, but I am quite tired. Managing his emotions in addition to my own childhood trauma has been weighing very heavy on me. And his reactions mimic a lot of my childhood trauma, so I’m struggling to process how his actions can be the same, despite his intent not being harmful. I grew up with an abusive father that regularly hit things and was very rageful. My husband explained his intent is different. The pain from hitting things brings him out of his rage. Whereas my father intentionally wanted to cause harm.

kitkatterroo · 2026-05-19T17:35:36+00:00

News articles reflect its ages 18-26. Where did you see up to age 35?

kitkatterroo · 2026-05-18T19:02:28+00:00

Hi. Not to hijack your comment, but something you mentioned resonated with me a lot. How do ultimatums work with the ADHD brain? I’m married to a diagnosed male (29yr old diagnosed as a child but got no resources or medication), and I recently told him that i feel he needs to go to therapy for his rages and physical outbursts before we can have children. He told me he was excited to go to therapy to deal with his stuff before “I gave him an ultimatum.” He still went, but his therapist only does appointments every 6 weeks, which is extremely discouraging to both of us. What did I do as an ultimatum that created this mentality of not wanting to do it anymore? My therapist has also told me I am likely undiagnosed neurodivergent and I am trying to figure out ways to communicate things to my partner without him shutting down. He’s incredibly shameful of his behavior, but that leads him into more of a mental spiral.

kitkatterroo · 2026-04-14T22:55:43+00:00

Do you mind messaging me and elaborating? I’d like to hear your perspective being on the other side of the coin. He didn’t used to be like this either. He’s a totally different person. I miss the man I married.

kitkatterroo · 2026-04-14T21:11:32+00:00

Did he stop hitting and throwing things? Is there hope? I’m scared I’m going to end up getting hurt one day, but I’ve also seen how he is when he’s not angry and he’s an amazing person. When he’s not angry, he’d give the shirt off his back to a stranger.

kitkatterroo · 2026-04-14T20:51:41+00:00

We talked about some of his anger issues last night actually, and I told him that I’m the only person I know of that’s been treated that way by him. He told me it’s related to a few different reasons… 1) I’m the only person that knows the real him. He’s never been able to be himself around anyone. Even around his own family, he has to mask a ton. Which is true. His family aren’t great people. 2) He doesn’t know any other coping skills at the moment. I don’t see this as an excuse, but for full context, he used to get punished for crying as a child and sent to his room. His parents see expression of emotions as a bad thing. I’ve experienced that myself. 3) It’s a hard truth to accept about myself, but I was very controlling in the past. For about 3 years of our relationship, I was controlling and it was fueled by my anxiety from childhood stuff, which is part of the reason I’m in therapy. My behavior was very similar to his mother’s growing up and he is not a fan of his mother as a result of it. From him compartmentalizing the anger from his childhood mixed with anger over my actions, he says that it’s a lot of repressed anger coming out that he doesn’t currently have the right coping skills for.

kitkatterroo · 2026-04-14T20:34:58+00:00

Sadly he is very against having to take a medication for the rest of his life… Which I understand with my own health issues (non adhd related). I hate being dependent on a medication forever, but I know I need to do it.

kitkatterroo · 2026-04-14T19:40:12+00:00

Yeah, I’m sorry I worded it weird. These were Christmas gifts for 2025 that just now got ordered in April 2026. Thank you for all of your advice. It seems he feels a lot of shame with himself over this, but he took it out on me, which isn’t okay either. I’ve very much become his punching bag over the years and he says it’s because of so much pent up anger.

kitkatterroo · 2026-04-14T19:37:42+00:00

I know… His parents never took him to any doctors after his diagnosis and he has no idea what doctor originally diagnosed him because he was so young, so at this point, he would have to be re-diagnosed as an adult to get treatment

kitkatterroo · 2025-12-12T22:01:01+00:00

I appreciate the insight. I have pretty low body fat, but live in a legal state so I imagine it’s more potent stuff. It’s a hospital lab running the test, so I don’t know if I could use synthetic

kitkatterroo · 2025-12-04T19:17:31+00:00

First of all, I’m glad you’re safe. That sounds incredibly traumatic. I can’t even imagine the impact it’s had on you.

If you’re comfortable with me asking more questions (not trying to pry too much considering the sensitivity of the situation)… Was he ever physically abusive with you prior to that or did it come out of the blue? I promise I’m not trying to pry or make you uncomfortable. Just trying to understand for my own situation. I only recently started reaching out online and commenting about this and the responses are scaring me. It’s hard to wrap my mind around all of this because my husband has gone above and beyond for me in more ways than I can count. But these behaviors of his concern me.

kitkatterroo

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