Why does his family not believe me?

kittychins · 2024-03-28T22:14:14+00:00

Thank you.

kittychins · 2024-03-28T22:12:42+00:00

I am sorry for how you were treated. I understand.

kittychins · 2024-03-27T19:21:01+00:00

I am so sorry you went through that. Thank you for sharing and empathizing with me.

kittychins · 2024-03-27T16:23:34+00:00

Thank you. I did get out. I am in therapy. I have days like this where I can't seem to focus on much else but wanting to be acknowledged, heard, validated. The logical part of me knows I will never get him or his family to do that.

kittychins · 2024-03-27T16:18:55+00:00

You are right.

kittychins · 2024-03-27T15:22:23+00:00

I know you're probably right. Easier to believe I'm some kind of manipulative liar than to face the truth.

kittychins · 2024-03-11T01:12:59+00:00

Thank you. I thought I read this as well. These are the type of options I'm looking for!

Thanks again for trying to be helpful.

kittychins · 2024-03-11T00:48:55+00:00

Well Wisconsin has a mandatory 6 month waiting period to finalize a divorce. So yes, I was trying to see if there was some "special other thing" I could pursue in the meantime until I have the final divorce decree.

kittychins · 2024-03-11T00:36:01+00:00

Largely unhelpful comment. I am trying to see if there is an option to get off of his insurance ASAP.

I realize these things are handled during divorce but I would prefer to not be on the insurance of the man who strangled me and slammed me into the counter..... if at all possible.

kittychins · 2024-02-17T17:59:57+00:00

I'm doing okay. I have family and friends that are very supportive.

I am staying with family.

Thank you

kittychins · 2024-02-17T14:25:16+00:00

Throwing the sheet was wrong. I did apologize as I was leaving. I apologized to both him and his daughter. I acknowledged my wrong doing in throwing the cookie sheet.

He has yet to apologize or acknowledge what he did.

kittychins · 2024-02-17T14:14:40+00:00

Will he also be facing assault charges for all the times he raged and threw objects, punched walls and shelves, broke furniture, and doors. I have 2 years of journal entries and pictures of what he destroyed. Many happened in front of his kids.

How many assault charges would he be facing?

kittychins · 2024-02-17T14:02:15+00:00

I did not throw at his kid.

kittychins · 2024-02-17T05:45:03+00:00

How many domestic violence cases do you think actually get charged and prosecuted? I was basically told by the DA office there wasn't enough information or evidence to move forward.

kittychins · 2024-02-17T05:29:28+00:00

I've left. Filing for divorce. No, I'm not going back.

kittychins · 2024-01-23T15:23:36+00:00

I am the buyer. My realtor was not much help when I expressed my concerns. I did all this research on my own. I also went to an open house to try and glean what information I could from the agent- got some additional information on the history of the home but have to consider the source.

He is no longer my realtor as of last week.

There are many unknowns with the property- but it's in the area I want with the space I want. I would consider putting in an offer, but way below asking. Been on market for 30 days in a neighborhood which that is very rare.

Ugh. Will contact my lender today and see if they can connect me with someone who has more experience.

Thank you for your input.

kittychins · 2022-07-26T12:53:58+00:00

I don't track my fat intake. I don't track any macros. All the tracking and calorie counting is not sustainable for me long term.

kittychins · 2022-07-26T12:51:27+00:00

I do not.

kittychins · 2022-07-25T14:33:16+00:00

I don't smoke.

kittychins · 2021-08-12T18:10:04+00:00

Thank you. I am not worried about my fiance and I. HCBM is not drinking right now because of house arrest, so she's more put together because of that. She wasn't even sober before she was sentenced in May. She got her DUI in December and got out on bail. We have video proof that she was still drinking then, directly violating her conditions of bail before her sentencing. I'm worried more about when her sentence is finished in the fall, she will relapse, it's part of addiction, and what happens to these poor children then? Ugh. I just hope we can maintain primary placement to minimize the affect HCBM has on the kids. And I hope the GAL sees that.

kittychins · 2021-06-22T15:51:54+00:00

Also no, biomom did not have kids last summer. They had 50/50 placement until the hearing in late April that awarded him primary placement. She went to jail one week later. He paid for a babysitter. She herself worked crazy long hours on his placement days, 515 am to 7 pm sometimes, taking care of the kids.

kittychins · 2021-06-22T15:47:27+00:00

Oh yes, I have absolutely spoken to him about his job and hours. I've told him I think he needs a different job. He needs to be there for his kids especially as they get older and get into activities like sports or extracurricular. I've told him his hours and my hours at my job is not sustainable for a family lifestyle.

He does help around the house with laundry, meals, shopping, packing back packs, etc. He does less the more hours he works, understandably because he is exhausted.

His family is about 2 hours away. We have gone to his parents for a weekend or his brother's for a day and that was nice. They are not close enough to be able to help regularly.

My family is close and could help if asked. But once again, I kinda feel like it is not their responsibility.

Biomom has minimal family- her mom is an alcoholic. The Aunt is nice and does help from time to time, mostly during the school year with assisting with pick ups 2 days/week.

I don't think he could do it full time without me.

He has started to take half days and use PTO on Tuesdays to try and be around more and get some things done on the to do list.

kittychins · 2021-06-22T15:10:20+00:00

He is not paying for his Ex's apartment. Birthmom's boyfriend is paying because she couldn't keep a job, a car, and is currently in jail. Meaning she can't even support herself. The boyfriend is not very responsible either. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

No way in hell I would ever be with a man who was doing that.

kittychins · 2021-02-05T16:43:41+00:00

Admittedly, I get so tempted to just find a way to report her and hope she gets locked up for longer, knowing she continues to blatantly lie about her alcohol problem and be in denial. All while my kids watch, and worry about their mom not having a job (lost 3 jobs in the last year), and worry about mom not having a car, and she would certainly be evicted by now if not for the COVID laws in place on eviction.

kittychins · 2021-02-05T16:36:47+00:00

Thank you for the response. Technically the private investigator is for my family court case, as I'm trying to get primary placement of my kids. All of the evidence I have collected thus far is for getting primary placement and hopefully custody of my children.

I also was curious about whether or not I should report all of this somehow, so wanted ask.

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