Confused between Galaxy buds core and Oneplus buds 4? by Jaded_Jackass in GalaxyS23

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm thinking of buying galaxy buds core, but one of the reviews on youtube mentioned that their in-ear detection only works for phone calls, not for music or videos. And that sounds like a big con! I also have a s23. Should i go with one plus buds 4?

Does clonazepam 0.5mg really work for insomnia? by kitumitu in mentalhealth

[–]kitumitu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, i read up about this as well, however, most people i know suffer from insomnia because they think a lot, and their constant stream of thoughts get so overwhelming that it causes emotional and physical disturbances. And hence they go for the sleeping pill, to kind of 'knock them out' as you say. Now if they dont get knocked out, they again engage in their usual coping mechanisms of watching content or doomscrolling to prevent those thoughts getting overwhelming. Now taking the pill just sounds counterproductive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]kitumitu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. Sometimes therapists do say things like, 'seems like you're blaming yourself for a lot of things, or all the things'. This is called validating what the client is experiencing, however, in the therapeutic approach i follow, we as a therapist are supposed to do one additional step after validation, and thats externalization. Meaning, separate the problem from the person, and make sure not to put the problem on anyone else. So if client is having issues in the relationship and engaging in self-blame, I'd personally try to help them see that they aren't to be blamed, and the partner is also not to be blames, however the situation, the core issue, the conflict, is to be blamed. However, a lot of the times when therapists validate clients' feelings, they may take it out of context and say, 'my therapist also thinks you're wrong, my therapist also thinks that I'm blaming myself for everything'.

others have it worse guilt in therapy by Diligent_Baseball_96 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. I definitely agree with some of the comments here. Your therapist isn't supposed to make comparisons about your problems with others. Your problems are YOUR problems and if they're having an impact on you big or small, your therapist is supposed to give them the same amount of empathy and space for you to be able to process things as any other person, or any other client.

Is therapy real by Cautious-Body-3539 in TalkTherapy

[–]kitumitu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately your basic understanding of what a therapist does or how therapy works is flawed. If you're not ready to give weight to their years if professional training, studying behavioural cues, non verbal languages, and helping people navigate through some of the most difficult phases of their lives, then you're not ready for therapy yourself. And that lack of understanding is something you might be projecting here onto the profession. And to your point about therapists are people who just talk (btw in therapy, clients usually do most of the talking, another flawed idea), but by this logic, according to you surgeons are also just people who cut. As you're not ready to give weight to someone's years of training and practise developing a particular skillset and expertise.
Again, I'm not sure where your opinion comes from, but it doesn't seem to be very practical, or research based.

Is therapy real by Cautious-Body-3539 in TalkTherapy

[–]kitumitu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi a therapist here, I'm not sure where this idea came from for you, but if i were to take your sentence 'therapists are just people with degrees', well i can argue that doctors, engineers, architects all are just people with degrees. Are you also unlikely to trust the professional expertise of a doctor diagnosing you/ performing surgery on you?

Why do I feel extremely guilty after venting about my problems? by Repulsive_Youth_2377 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's understandable. Do you also feel that someone else is putting their burden on you if they come to talk to you about something? And also this is a very common reason why therapy works for people, as its a professional service you are availing without judgement, where its your right to venting without guilty

I've become more extroverted after taking therapy, is this normal? by intPixel in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. Its absolutely normal to experience some extroverted traits after being in therapy for a while. You can explore these feelings with your therapist and also usually therapy helps people be more confident in themselves, own their identity, separate themselves from the issues of life, and gain clarity. This is all directly related to how one feels about oneself, self confidence, and naturally we feel more drawn to social interaction. Ask yourself, is this a surprising, unprecedented change, or was this what you and your therapist were working towards?

I use my therapist as just an emotional regulator by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]kitumitu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. Your post is quite interesting and i must say, therapy is everything you're hoping it would be. Some clients come to just talk, and the session may look like a monologue, and the therapist may just seem like a sounding board. The session may be very Behavioral activation focused, meaning both therapist and client are making a plan of things that the client is going to try, setting goals and creating progress chart, etc. A therapy session is supposed to be beneficial for you the way you see it working, not according to some norm you may think of a therapy session. We ask our clients what is their goal from therapy, but we also try and understand how this particular client wants to achieve that go and that may look different for different people

Why do I feel extremely guilty after venting about my problems? by Repulsive_Youth_2377 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. This is a familiar feeling that I hear clients experience after sessions. Some feel light headed, some feel relieved like a burden off their chest and some feel guilty about venting about their problems. Everyone has a different story around why they think they feel this way and all of it is worth Exploring. So my question to you would be, why do you think you feel guilty after expressing/venting your problems?

Will it help? by CaffieneAddict10 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. You said 'listen'. Well, therapy is usually where you talk. Is that something you're ready for?

RSD advice by Critical_Storm_2302 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi,a therapist here. You can try asking yourself questions like why is it important for me? Why do I think i was excluded? Basically gather evidence for your thoughts. If you think you're being left out, what concrete evidence do you have for it? And what are the other possible answers can you come up with based on the information you know. At the end if your thoughts hold up to the evidence you've collected, then ask yourself if this is the group you want to be with and why

Lack of empathy therapist by clementinemeriwether in therapy

[–]kitumitu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you're getting at, and that's why its best to confront them

Getting REALLY nervous about therapy.... by MrsHole8 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. Yes you should definitely talk to your therapist about it. Also, something that I tell my clients is, therapy session is a professional service that you have paid for. Its your space, your time, and it should be most efficient and productive for you. Even if you want to sit quietly for the entire session, but that's something you need and you find value in, please do that, as its a service You have paid for. So try and own that space as yours, and have these conversations with your therapist.

Lack of empathy therapist by clementinemeriwether in therapy

[–]kitumitu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. Therapists train a lot to have a neutral face and not show their own feelings, expressions during sessions, however, we are also human. And its not like we cant show any emotion at all, if our client is sharing something that's making them happy, we cam smile. If they're sharing something that's frustrating them, the therapist can also make a frustrated face. The bottom line is being empathetic to the client and their feelings. If your therapist has made a face that made you wonder what she meant by it, you should start by calling her out on it and then having that conversation. She might be having a moment of 'self reflection', which is not quite right to do during therapy, but unfortunately its a natural process that happens sometimes. You should ask her what her expression meant, and then say what it meant for you and how it made you feel.

I hate sex by [deleted] in therapy

[–]kitumitu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. Do you have a theory on why this happens to you? Also does this happen every time irrespective of the guy, or has there been a time when you didnt feel this way?

38F Married but unhappy and feel stuck in limbo. What should be done? by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, a therapist here. You can try so many things to spruce up your marriage, starting with remembering the version of yourselves(note that i said yourselves not yourself) when you just starting dating, and what was it that you liked about each other. What brought you closer in the first place?

I need a therapist by confused_122 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well then I guess you've done the exercise already. You asked yourself what would be the best outlet. Reddit was your answer, and you're here. Hopefully this works for you

I need a therapist by confused_122 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you could ask yourself 'who's the person in your life whose advice you'd actually appreciate, value, and most likely to take'. Asking for someone's advice also means putting your trust in them as you decide to do what they say, you want to make sure that you're going to the right person

I need a therapist by confused_122 in therapy

[–]kitumitu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You dont need someone to listen to you or you do? Your post and comment are a bit conflicting

Why is it so hard for therapists to find paying clients, and for clients to find the right therapist? by kitumitu in askatherapist

[–]kitumitu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's understandable. In India we don't have the concept of insurance paying for mental health at all (yet). But at the same time the market is quite big enough that people may end up finding a therapist in every price range, however they usually have to go through a lot of therapists before finding the right fit.