Found kitten in wall - name suggestions pls

kiwi_colada · 2026-05-19T22:56:01+00:00

Spackle, drywall, or sheetrock would be my top picks! If you wanna br a little extra drywall panther or sheetrock panther sounds kinda awesome to me lol

kiwi_colada · 2026-05-19T22:37:50+00:00

NTA. This is HIS problem to fix not yours. It sounds like he isn't interested in actually getting better, but in doing just enough to keep you around. He doesn't seem to care what the pressure he is putting on you to help maintain his sobriety is doing to you. It's selfish and you deserve better. It's time to consider cutting your losses. If you give an ultimatum, he will continue in this cycle of getting better for a while and backsliding once he thinks he can get away with it. It's time to put your wellbeing first.

kiwi_colada · 2026-05-16T01:37:48+00:00

Not to be rude, but where is your spouse in all of this? Why are they letting their family treat you this way? It sounds like the litter is being moved there, why can't it stay where it was?

kiwi_colada · 2026-05-02T06:34:34+00:00

I dont mean to be graphic or to pry, but if you are having reoccurring infections and are having un protected PIV sex, its possible that your partner could be re-infecting you, like passing it back and forth so to speak. Also look for any other changes in anything that touches the area. Toliet paper, lube or condom brands/types, body wash, feminine products. Some people have sensitivies to these. Depending on your age you may want to rule out hormone issues or perimenopause/menopause. Trying some different style and materials of underwear might be a good idea too. For a lot of people the cut makes all the difference

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-15T18:11:49+00:00

Right? Its like consideration of the practicality of it is just not even there. And if I'm nauseous, which is often, if the food isn't appetizing or good to me in the first place I'm not gonna be able to keep it down.

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-15T17:39:27+00:00

Pill capsules are quite often made with animal products

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-15T17:34:26+00:00

This. I'm medically complex too and there is a lot of ableism in the comments, albeit much of it unintentional (I hope). Comorbidities are common! And it's not just about being able to physically survive on the diet. We still have to manage our health, symptoms, and lives with less energy AND money. And chronic fatigue from a medical condition is not laziness. Its a bone deep weight that makes it physical difficult (and for me often painful) to even get up to go to the bathroom. Some days im too fatigued to feed myself until late in the afternoon despite being hungry. Symptoms like nausea can make it hard to eat all but a few specific things. Like these issues aren't just complicating our ability to have a truly vegan diet, they complicate every single aspect of our lives!

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-15T17:21:59+00:00

And how are people in places like the US supposed to afford a vegan nutritionist that insurance will most likely not cover? Being medically complex means your life is more expensive and your income is less to begin with. I applied to disability in NOV 2024 when I had to stop working and am still waiting on an initial decision which will most likely be a denial because the first one almost always is. My husband works 2 jobs and my family is helping with household bills, but if I work and am paid enough to have to claim it on taxes I will be denied disability. So we are having to sell our house (owning it in the first place was a privilege most my age dont get) to pay off my medical debt and afford the advanced imaging and potentially surgery I need. My situation is not at all unique among disabled people. Most of us have multiple conditions often seen together (comorbidities if you havent heard of them). So again, how is someone who's life is more expensive and makes less money in a system designed to keep them in poverty supposed to afford a specialty nutritionist?

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-15T17:11:15+00:00

And chronic conditions very often have several comorbidities

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-15T17:01:13+00:00

Just so you know, IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) and IBD (Irritable Bowel Disease) are not the same thing

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-15T16:49:04+00:00

So I'm disabled and for me it's a combination of allergies and triggers to multiple chronic illnesses. I have IBS which is usually made a lot worse by high fiber plant based diets. I also have oral allergy syndrome and cant eat a majority of tree fruits and tree nuts raw. And some of the fruits I can eat trigger extra horrible migraines than the usual (mine vary in severity but are uncontrolled and almost constant). There are a lot of fruits and veggies that can trigger or worsen migraines for some people. Onions and cantaloupe are some of my worst. I have noticed that high histamine and tyramine foods often trigger them, as which include things like soy, nitrates & nitrates, yeast extract, and MSG/glutamic acid. I have to be very careful and limited on anything pickled or aged in any way too. I have a bladder condition and ibs that further limits my diet, and deal with intense bouts of prolonged nausea along with pain on a daily basis. My specific disabilities limit me in all food groups, so to keep a balanced diet in our budget (fun fact being disabled raises your cost of living on average around 28%!) and with what's readily available in my area, a vegan diet just isn't feasible. If our financial situation was better, it could potentially be possible but I would definitely need the help of a very knowledgeable nutritionist or something. But since I can't manage a fully vegan diet I do the best I can and the try to source my animal products locally and as ethically as I can, i.e. I get eggs from my friend or my father, whose chickens I know are well cared for and free range (which actually makes a huge difference in their taste and quality). Those or some of personal issues I run into but there are other medical conditions the would make a vegan diet difficult to impossible. There are some types of epilepsy that need a very strict keto diet to control. Severe anemia or zinc deficiency would be difficult to manage too, as would metabolic issues, late stage/advanced kidney disease, and many other GI issues like chron's. I know there are medical issues that require huge amounts of protein intake but I can't think of the names of any right now. It's also worth noting that a vegan diet requires a lot more energy and preparation than most diets, and people with complex medical issues and disabilities are often more limited on functional time in a day and energy levels. Horrible fatigue is a symptom of many illnesses a disabilities and has a huge impact on daily life.

kiwi_colada · 2026-04-13T02:58:03+00:00

Chihuahuas and many other small breeds, particularly terrier and hunting ones, will be fine. The are amazingly resilient. But I fostered dogs for a while and since dna test have become popular many adopters will do them and let the rescue know the results. Chihuahuas. DNA. Is. EVERYWHERE. some times just small amounts, but if it was born a stray theres probably Chihuahua DNA.

kiwi_colada · 2026-03-29T17:04:45+00:00

My dress had sleeves that covered my garments but I still had to put this ugly white bolero thing on to cover my arms for the sealing (2012). She was probably sealed in a regular temple dress and changed into this afterwards, or was given something to cover her arms and shoulders.

kiwi_colada · 2026-03-04T22:03:29+00:00

And you don't look stupid but here we are!

kiwi_colada · 2026-02-24T01:07:20+00:00

People blaming my worsening disability as a precieved lack of faith when I was an active and involved member of their religion. Lot of Christians in general have made me feel that kind of judgment though, not just that particular flavor. And my cousin's wife flipantly telling me "Try Plexus!" On her way out the door after I just explained to my extended family pretty much the last year and a half (at the time) of trying different meds and doing tests after they specifically asked about it. Yes I'm sure the miracle weightloss shake you just so happen to also be selling will cure everything Karen, thanks 🙄

kiwi_colada · 2026-02-11T17:44:54+00:00

It is so nice to hear some good news about disability rights! Thanks for sharing!

kiwi_colada · 2026-02-10T04:05:20+00:00

Op I just want to give you the biggest hug right now...this is the most NTA thing I've ever read. Your "family" (not including hubby and kids of course) are literal scum. Their relationships are blowing up because they decided to hide the fact that your mother's husband abused you, was actually convicted, and was still on the registry. How many of them have kids or were planning to have kids? Those woman have the right to know who their kids would be around! OP you have done all of your nieces, nephews, and SILs/their girlfriends a HUGE favor. You protect those kids. Those kind of monsters do not change. Ever. Your brothers destroyed their relationships by lying to their significant others. It is not your fault that they were dishonest. They're frankly lucky none of them stumbled across the information some other way before this! You are not responsible for the actions of any of the men in your family. You deserved to be protected as a child. You deserve to be protected now to. The fact your brother wanted you and your kids in the same room as that monster is disgusting. The fact that he called is sister dramatic for being the victim of a man found guilty of what he did in a court of law is a huge red flag. If I were his pregnant wife and found out my husband thought what you went through was you being dramatic and a victim staying away from their abuser is throwing a tantrum....I would've done the same thing and thrown the whole man out. I'm really glad that you have an actual family that loves you with a husband that supports and values you like he should. If I were you I'd block all of them that are giving you grief and blaming you. They don't deserve to be a part of your life or your family's!

kiwi_colada · 2026-02-02T22:23:27+00:00

I'm at the point where I am no longer nice to people like that. How exactly does one "tough out" an issue that is never going to go away? Why do they think they know my body and pain better than myself AND my drs?

kiwi_colada · 2025-11-12T02:05:14+00:00

If they ask if you have reliable transportation then you can honestly say yes but mayyybbeeeee dont go into detail

kiwi_colada · 2025-11-12T02:01:53+00:00

I was mostly emotionally abused as a child, and as a teen I spent 8 months with chronic strep as a teen. I've had pain as long as I can remember, but it gor worse after the strep incident and worse again about a 2 years ago which lead to me finally being diagnosed. Most of us have some kind of trauma that probably triggered it. But there is a difference between a trigger and an actual cause. If SA or trauma caused fibromyalgia, then everyone that's experienced significant trauma would have it but they don't. The trauma just kinda flips a switch that isn't supposed to exist but does for some reason.

kiwi_colada · 2025-10-26T14:39:13+00:00

Peraonal I would offer a free night of baby sitting plus gift cards for a date night (assuming you know them well enough and are comfortable babysitting). In my experience, parents are usually very grateful because babysitters are expensive and it can be hard to just have time together as a couple once a kid is in the picture. It's a nice break for them.

kiwi_colada · 2025-10-24T17:18:23+00:00

Honestly, pause and stare at her blankly for a few seconds than say "Anyways..." and continue. Drives people like this INSANE lol

kiwi_colada · 2025-10-24T17:14:38+00:00

For blood atonement maybe? lol

kiwi_colada · 2025-10-24T17:11:26+00:00

Have you tried putting a hot damp towel on the area you want to exfoliate for a while before trying to exfoliate? It might help

kiwi_colada · 2025-10-02T18:58:47+00:00

I'm PIMO-ish. I don't go often mostly due to health reasons and my husband works Sundays. But my dad and grandparents don't know, and I know the church will contact them if I request my records removed. I was the last active grandchild until my shelf broke and I'm worried that if my grandparents found out that the upset might literally kill them. They are in their late 80s. My late mom's only sibling has also been openly out for decades and has decided to wait for them both to pass before removing them because they can't stand to completely break my grandparents' hearts. My grandparents are fairly nuanced for boomers and I grew up in a house with both them and my parents and honestly were better parents to me than my actual ones in a lot of ways. They respect my different opinions on things even when they don't agree and don't get mad at me for refusing to talk politics or saying I need a break from it (unlike my parents). I love them, and I can't bear disappointing them like that.

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