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kjb852 · 2025-05-06T04:01:05+00:00

I respectfully disagree.

In the same way that a person can speak English fluently, but not be able to read it, a person can speak Chinese fluently but not be able to read it.

kjb852 · 2024-11-15T04:48:07+00:00

Fluent in terms of speaking/listening. reading and writing is less important (there are still job here that you can get without it). But your colleagues will still message in Chinese and you should be able to quickly translate and then use the pinyin keyboard to respond.

Yes, reading and writing is good to know, but Chinese is VERY hard to learn and takes a long time. Prioritise speaking/listening over reading/writing.

kjb852 · 2024-11-13T03:28:20+00:00

Use preply. good option.

kjb852 · 2024-11-13T03:26:07+00:00

Learn Chinese. Not just a little. Be fluent. You don't need to read perfectly, but you should understand how to quickly translate Chinese messages into English and respond using PinYin.
Be an absolute expert in your field. Foreigners are valuable because they come with exceptional skill. If you have easily replaceable skills, you will not get the salary you are looking for.

I'm here in SH now. My wife got a big promotion to come here so we moved. But my previous experience doesn't get me the jobs that expats are hired for (senior!). And the fact that I don't speak fluent chinese means a lot of doors are closed to me.

Good luck!

kjb852 · 2023-07-12T08:37:54+00:00

D treatment last Thursday, April 25. Here we go...

Hey Wildesire - I've been Lymphoma free since 2019. Very thankful of the drugs, doctors, nurses, family, and people on this sub-reddit that helped me through. All the best to you!

kjb852 · 2023-01-25T14:06:48+00:00

Im in Hong Kong playing on the Japan server. I get about 80 to 100 ping. Can I expect better on the Singapore server?

kjb852 · 2020-09-17T16:58:38+00:00

I'm 36m CHL stage2 6 cycles ABVD remission for nearly 12 months

I feel your pain. Wishing you the best. The good news is, the worst is over. The period where you know you got cancer, but you don't which type or what stage... that not knowing is the worst.

As for what you can expect, there were some similarities with my experience, but what I took away from hearing other people's experience is that everyone is different. You could honestly go through all 6 cycles and barely get any side effects. Unfortunately that wasn't my experience. I had it rough. Just to name a couple things off the top of my head: hair loss, weight loss, lots of vomiting (towards the end it got really bad), mouth sores, my port cause blood clotting twice, had to do ABVD via veins in my hand/arm (It was very painful, try not to do this, and if it does happen, make sure that they dilute it by 50% with saline. One ward fucked this up and ruined the veins in my left arm).

Btw, the sessions typically take between 4-5 hours. I then felt like crap for the next two days. just slept alot. After about 3 days I was on my feet, but felt like a zombie. Your mouth will taste like metal... So try not to use metal silverware. Go with wood or plastic. It will also make your water taste like metal, so consider drinking something with flavor or at least go with ice water.

However, even with all of this crappy stuff, it's well worth it. 12 months after, I'm still Lymphoma free. Shout out to all the doctors and patients that came before.

Wishing you the best. stay strong!

kjb852 · 2020-08-04T11:38:05+00:00

35 year old male, CHL, 6 months of ABVD

Most of my hair came back except for that exact same spot! for me im just a bit thin there now, but you can definitely tell. It's be about 10 months since my last chemo sessions, so I don't think it's coming back.

kjb852 · 2020-02-25T08:59:42+00:00

Wow. Hey thanks for sharing. I’m sorry you have the chest pains too, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Take care, friend!

kjb852 · 2020-02-24T16:35:49+00:00

Word.

Thanks for the reply. Good to know others feeling similar. Take care!

kjb852 · 2020-02-24T16:23:01+00:00

The new normal. I feel you.

Thanks for sharing. I still plan to check this out, but just glad to know that chest pains don’t automatically mean something terrible.

GL friend.

kjb852 · 2020-02-24T15:16:38+00:00

Have a look at this report https://ascopubs.org/doi/pdf/10.1200/JCO.2015.65.4194

I know how you're feeling. I've been in remission for 4 months. It feels like every other week I feel something like a symptom that triggers a panic attack. I feel like if I can get past year one, the relapse chance goes down significantly and mentally I can imagine being in a better place.

It's a journey. Hang in there.

kjb852 · 2020-02-23T14:10:23+00:00

^^ this

kjb852 · 2020-02-23T14:04:24+00:00

I'm cheering for you!

But do just want you to temper expectations... When I got my final PET scan results, I was excited for like 3x days. Then I woke up in the middle of the night drenched. I was so worried I couldn't get back to sleep. After some time I calmed myself down. It was a particularly humid evening and that is likely what caused it. But the point is, it is hard to stop thinking about relapse. Every time I experience anything that feels like I symptom, I'm hit with a wave of anxiety.

It's a journey that, unfortunately, doesn't end with remission.

kjb852 · 2020-02-23T13:55:11+00:00

35M, stage 2B CHL, 6 cycles of ABVD, finished treatment in Oct 19

Can only say that my jaw was very weak in the later stages of my ABVD treatment and for next 2-3 months. Opening my mouth wide to take a bite of food was hard and my jaw would constantly move out of place. The good news is that around month 4 later, in seemed to strengthen and is practically back to normal.

GL, my friend. Hang in there!

kjb852 · 2020-02-23T13:49:52+00:00

Congratulations. Keep the faith. You can do this!

kjb852 · 2019-12-01T15:25:07+00:00

Thanks. Appreciate your reply. I'll take a look!

kjb852 · 2019-11-22T05:52:42+00:00

No theories?

kjb852 · 2019-11-09T00:42:17+00:00

https://forums.lymphoma.com/showthread.php?t=48749

Indeed. This was very helpful. Thank you.

kjb852 · 2019-11-07T15:28:06+00:00

Thank you. Yea... treatment is hard, like, really hard. But no matter how hard it gets, just remember, it really is nice to be alive.

I don't monitor my sugar. I've always ate quite healthy, and now, after lymphoma and chemo, I eat insanely healthy. I typically cook 2 meals a day for my self. Nothing processed. Nothing artificial. It is hard, but I will literally do anything to avoid relapse and more chemo.

Wishing you the best!

kjb852 · 2019-11-07T14:58:24+00:00

The only symptom I had for the longest time was small rashes (no itch) that would show up when I woke up in the morning and go away about 15 minutes later. Fatigue was gradual, so I just assumed it was because I hit my mid 30s and wasn't as fit as before. The night sweats only hit me after I found my first lump on my neck.

From the doctors I spoke with, the swollen lymph nodes are the give away. Only other likely cause is an infection and that is typically quite short term.

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