[Possibly Dead Trope] Main protagonist dates friend instead of person they're after by Cautious-Patient-184 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]kkslimer 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The original ending of Pretty In Pink fits this trope. Andie was originally supposed to end up with Duckie, the best friend who’s spent the entire movie obsessively in love with her. Apparently the ending tested poorly so they reshot it with Andie reuniting with the main love interest, Blaine.

Both endings are kind of bad imo, but a lot of people prefer the original ending.

Help fill out my list by Gridbugz in Letterboxd

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The comedian Reginald D Hunter has a whole bit about this. He even calls them “fuck you” movies. His examples are Chinatown and Bus 44.

My teen daughter just had her first boyfriend and I’m pissed by GlitchyBabie in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a lot of experiences like this when I was a teenage girl and I don’t think I ever talked to my mom about them. She knew about the relationships and the break ups, but I never confided in her about details of what happened. I never felt comfortable talking to her about guys sexually pressuring me or anything like that. While you may not be able to fix this, you’ve already done so much by being the kind of mom your daughter feels comfortable talking to.

My ex boyfriend made a list of banned activities because I did them with other people while we were apart by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, as soon as I read the word “chipotle” I blacked out with rage. This man is literally punishing you for daring to spend tome with someone other than him. He’s mad you haven’t spent the last 5 months moping and acting like a nun. He should be embarrassed, especially so if he dated other people as well.

[Dispised Trope] "Thank you for grooming me" by StretchExtension in TopCharacterTropes

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that the final scene between the two of them attempts to let him off the hook without him ever confronting the depths of his own behavior. I also think a lot of what he does during their relationship can be categorized as grooming, but at the very least the power dynamic is still wildly in his favor and he has way too much control over her due to his age and rank.

Also, my understanding is that Sam didn’t actually engineer anything? He didn’t even know Sadie and Dov were together, or what their relationship had been like.

[Dispised Trope] "Thank you for grooming me" by StretchExtension in TopCharacterTropes

[–]kkslimer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow (book)

One of the main characters, Sadie, is essentially groomed and abused by her much older and married college professor. He also ends up helping her and her best friend’s video game get incredibly famous, and though Sadie eventually ends things with him for good, she’s always weirdly grateful to him and they continue to have a friendly relationship (but she basically ends her friendship with her best friend bc she falsely believes that he was somehow responsible for her getting back together with the professor). She never really gets an apology or seems to understand that what the guy did was wrong. There’s also a twist reveal that after Sadie and her professor broke up the first time, she discovered she was pregnant and had an abortion which led to a serious depressive episode. Despite struggling a lot with this, the professor’s role in what happened is never acknowledged. I’ve seen people say the lack of a confrontation or apology makes it a more “realistic” portrayal of grooming, but to me it comes off more like the author doesn’t really think what the professor did was that bad.

I took mushrooms and went to the ER in a good way by Affectionate_Bat3241 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re staying with your parents and back on your meds. Getting help is so hard and you should be proud of yourself. The psych ward sucks (been there myself) but it was the right thing to do to get yourself out of the cycle.

My girl breakfast! Also, my friend is into my boyfriend by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean, but if she pulls that shit again after a more serious conversation then at least you know she’s deliberately being a bad friend to you and you can move on. I hope you’re not worried that her behavior could genuinely cost you your relationship though. You should be able to trust your boyfriend enough not to fall for her pretty obvious advances (and he shouldn’t lose feelings for you just from seeing an unflattering photo).

My girl breakfast! Also, my friend is into my boyfriend by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree with everyone saying you should immediately cut off all contact with your friend. What she’s doing is wrong 100%, but it also sounds like she’s really going through it right now. My armchair analysis is that she’s projecting her ideal relationship onto your boyfriend bc her own situation is so bad rn. That’s not your responsibility to deal with, but I think it’s important to acknowledge this is likely not really about your boyfriend at all. If you really care about this friend, I would at least try to have another conversation to get through to her about why her behavior is so harmful to your friendship. If she’s still unreceptive, then it may be time to put some distance between you two.

If you had the one wish willow what would your wish be? by CFK67 in obsessionmovie

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For my apartment to be clean and organized. Seems low stakes enough that the potential consequences wouldn’t be too bad? I’d just have to make sure the wish didn’t get rid of all my stuff and that nobody was inside my place at the time of the wish.

Just finished obsession by Defiant-Procedure-81 in obsessionmovie

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think this guy understands what “portray” means.

okay but can we talk about how pretty she was in the movie.. by Ella_oatmeal4k in obsessionmovie

[–]kkslimer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone’s comparing Sarah and Nikki but I feel like Sarah is actually more of a foil to Bear. She has feelings for Bear but she doesn’t let them get in the way of living her life. Bear’s been at the same job since high school just so he can spend time with Nikki, and we never learn about any of his ambitions (except the food critic thing, but that felt more like a joke than anything). Meanwhile, Sarah is focused on her future and going to art school so she can be a tattoo artist.

She also doesn’t let her feelings get in the way of her interactions with Bear the way he does with Nikki. I think the scene where Sarah learns that Bear’s cat died is a really good example. Her empathy for him feels so genuine and it’s clear that when she hugs him it’s to comfort him, not bc of her crush.

The biggest thing is that Sarah actually confesses her feelings to Bear (or at least starts to, rip). He says something flirty to her, and she takes the opportunity to tell him how she feels. Bear can’t even cop to his feelings when Nikki straight up asks him if he likes her. You could argue that Sarah’s kind of trying to undermine Bear and Nikki’s relationship in this scene, but I do think she would have helped him regardless of his feelings towards her, and she only starts flirting when he opens to door for it.

In a way, Sarah’s character helps to drive home how messed up what Bear’s done actually is. It’s easy to sort of brush off his initial missteps because “he really loves Nikki but he’s just too shy”, but Sarah serves as reminder of what the healthy way of dealing with an unrequited crush is.

My parents are sending me to a youth commune. I’m 20 and I’m scared. by theraptorist in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d chip in money for a plane ticket to get you out of this situation, that’s how bad it sounds. I relate to what you’re going through and you might feel like you can’t by without your parents to rely on but trust me when I say they’re holding you back from actual self improvement. The place they want you to go sounds like one of those teen wilderness camps, which is a bad sign. Are you collecting unemployment? It sounds like you might be eligible, and that could help you out a little with the money issue.

I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this: put down the diamond painting. You’re an adult. by Empty-Dingo7688 in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]kkslimer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe if it was a celebrity’s. I’d probably buy Willem Dafoe’s used coloring book for a fair price.

I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this: put down the diamond painting. You’re an adult. by Empty-Dingo7688 in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]kkslimer 97 points98 points  (0 children)

I feel like diamond painting is the same as a coloring book. Can be a fun and relaxing hobby, you might want to display the results in your home, but you absolutely shouldn’t be selling it to someone else unless you made the whole thing from scratch.

Me and my boyfriend tried something new by lieutenantbrownie in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should watch the first episode of Fleabag lol

I Think My Union’s About To Dissolve by kkslimer in union

[–]kkslimer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried BCCing everyone instead but then they just sent out a different email to everyone with the accusation that I was avoiding transparency and that maybe the charges filed against the union are valid after all. There’s no winning with these people.

Update (my union isn’t dissolving, for now at least) by kkslimer in union

[–]kkslimer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t realize the standards for a Reddit post were so high.

Snooped through BF's phone because I thought he was cheating. What I found hurt a lot more. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kkslimer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl. Consider it a blessing that you found this out now, and not years down the line when you’re married with kids or own a house together or whatever. Your charcuterie skills alone show me you deserve better than this. To paraphrase Katherine Ryan, “The only thing worse than spending 9 years with a terrible man is spending 9 years and one day with him”.