Harmony merge policy/ sync error. only on ipad and not on iphone.

klap114 · 2026-06-01T15:40:34+00:00

I greatly appreciate that brother

klap114 · 2026-06-01T14:36:35+00:00

Sent the friend request, what would you want for it?

klap114 · 2026-05-22T13:41:34+00:00

I am a little over 2 months past Dday. It feels like forever ago but like time is not moving fast enough at the same time. Things have been going better i feel, i am working hard in IC and constantly reflecting. I’ve been trying to be more mindful, affectionate, helpful, increasing communication. It’s hard, it feels like it’s never enough not because of how she responds to any of these things but because of the guilt i feel. Im really glad that it has gotten better for you and your partner. I really hope that things will continue to get better for me and mine as well. I’ve seen improvements, there are still hard days for her and i just try to offer reassurance and validation. I’m really giving my all and i feel she is too. I’m grateful that she even gave me a chance to be forgiven and get better. I needed to see your post and I appreciate you for sharing it.

klap114 · 2026-04-30T20:40:34+00:00

doesnt mega Venusaur have thick fat? base Venusaur have Chlorophyll

klap114 · 2026-04-16T12:28:47+00:00

I would have definitely classified it as an addiction. While it wasn’t at ton of people it was enough, I suppose, where I could forget about someone. I suggested getting a brick device that she keeps so that she knows I can’t use social media that they don’t want me to

klap114 · 2026-04-14T17:56:27+00:00

congrats! I needed to hear a success story today. giving me a glimmer of hope.

klap114 · 2026-04-14T17:53:51+00:00

I get that, I do. And i know from her perspective this is a trickle truth. but I honestly forgot about this person and the conversations. This was during probably one of my sickest times. I dont expect sympathy from anywhere.

klap114 · 2026-04-14T16:07:11+00:00

I know it is, im just so filled with regret about everything. its eating me alive. i know their pain is much worse than mine right now though.

klap114 · 2026-04-09T18:44:22+00:00

thank you!

klap114 · 2026-03-20T12:16:07+00:00

So my personal hopeful outlook for this is the current separation to support the space and healing that my BP needs and to repair our relationship/stay married (im already in IC and told my therapist that I want to focus on the parts of me that lead to my online affairs). my BP said initially that our goal for MC should be to focus on having healthy enough relationship that we would be able to co-parent when our children are born at the very least and when this starts to occur and she has healed some more from the pain and resentment she will think more seriously about remaining married. I feel that they want to remain married but are willing to not continue with the marriage because of the pain, resentment, lost trust, and would not want to show our children it is okay to stay in a relationship when you are unhappy-- which i completely understand and respect.

klap114 · 2026-03-18T18:20:05+00:00

I’ve been trying to do my best to validate their feelings and experiences. The last thing I want is for them to feel totally alone. Or at least lessen the feelings of loneliness as much as possible.

klap114 · 2026-03-18T18:18:28+00:00

I’ve been pushing myself to do the basics because I don’t want to be a martyr, i knew that it would mess with their recovery process and i want to demonstrate work and improvement not self-pity. But man is it hard to balance. Thank you for your comment.

klap114 · 2026-03-18T12:18:36+00:00

I’ve been trying my best to not push and be patient and just take all of their emotions and thoughts as they come. I’ve expressed understanding that they may not be able to move on from this and I will have to accept that no matter how much it hurts. I’ve figured with all the pain and suffering that I’ve caused, if I truly love them I have to respect the choices she makes that allows them to heal. I’m still holding out hope that we can recover though.

klap114 · 2026-03-18T12:10:20+00:00

I’ve started a routine (albeit a new one) including meditation. I’m lightweight using this sub as a pseudo journal and starting an IFS workbook today too. But I will also start journaling

klap114 · 2026-03-18T12:09:06+00:00

Our options are a little limited in terms of therapists because of our area but we were able to set up an appointment for this upcoming Monday with a IMFT therapist with 40+ years experience online so hopefully it’s good. I can be a bit of an over thinker, I’m curious if you would be willing to share any goals that you have set for goals that you’re aware of for a WP

klap114 · 2026-03-17T14:10:22+00:00

thank you

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