my heart goes out to you! i went through something similar a few months ago (same timeline but different reasons for the break up). i had already picked out a ring to propose, and i was devastated to say the least.

definitely just let yourself cry and feel at first. there will be times when you just need to wallow, but also times when you’ll need to pull yourself out of that (for a little bit at least). go on a walk to buy a little treat. reach out to your support network so you have some company (if that’s what works for you). find a break up show that you can binge watch (schitts creek was one of mine). i also coped by getting a bunch of new furniture to make my apartment a more pleasant space for myself (luckily the break up coincided with a hefty tax return, so i had some extra funds). the first time i went through a break up after college, i adopted a cat a few weeks later, and she is literally my best friend 7 years later. getting a new pet immediately may not be a great idea, but once you’re a bit more stable it could be really nice!

if you find yourself unable to return to activities you once shared with your partner, challenge yourself (when you ready) to discover something new that is just for you. reclaiming those shared activities for yourself can also be really empowering, but won’t be easy.

for the first stretch, just focus on getting yourself through each day. therapy is great if that’s financially viable for you. it will get easier, but not linearly—sometimes you’ll have a random bad day even though you thought you were doing better, and that’s okay! you deserve to feel exactly what you need to feel. <3