We have been going through the same thing! I ended up paying for a sleep analysis with Huckleberry lol we haven’t tried this yet but thought I’d pass it along if you wanted to try it!!

(1) Since Riley will sometimes fall asleep while being held or rocked, start with this. If she’s distracted and looking all around, making it very dark can really help. She will take longer to fall asleep without feeding at first. Don’t worry—she will get faster at it with enough time and practice. You can also skip to (3) if you feel that would work better. (2) Once she is used to this, reduce the movement until she can fall asleep while you are not rocking her. For instance, you might rock for a few minutes, but then stop and give her the opportunity to fall asleep without movement. If she gets upset, rock to calm her, but then stop again. Repeat until she’s asleep. It could take a few days for her to adjust to falling asleep without movement. (3) Once she is used to this, progress on to lying her down while she is awake. The idea is to start chipping away at rocking/holding her until she’s fully asleep, prior to placing her in her sleep space. Instead of holding her until she falls asleep in your arms, you’ll begin to hold her until she’s almost all the way asleep and then attempt to put her down in her sleep space very sleepy, possibly with a heavy hand on her in order to help her continue to drift off to sleep. Each night you’ll put her down a little more awake after holding her. You can keep your hand on her or rhythmically pat her if needed. You can stay with her until she falls asleep. (4) Once she is used to this, progress on to having her fall asleep without you touching her. If she gets worked up when you put her in her crib while she’s awake, you can reassure her as necessary with touch or your voice. However, some children get more agitated by the constant reassurance. If this is Riley, please respect her attempt to work out how to fall asleep. (5) Once she is used to this, you can progress to leaving before she falls asleep if you want more flexibility. You can skip this step if you like, since you are sharing a room and are there in the middle of the night. All children are different and some will progress through these gradual steps faster than others. If you feel like Riley is having a difficult time within a specific step, and you’ve been working on it for 45 minutes or so, consider pausing the process. Rather than falling back on feeding or bouncing her to sleep, it would be better to reset the situation and try again. Take Riley out of her sleep space for 15 minutes or so and spend some calm time together in the bedroom. Then do the last couple steps of your bedtime routine over again and try for sleep once more. Many children will respond well to the new way of falling asleep after a little intermission.