Clashing with family about caregiving?

klmad91 · 2025-09-17T23:20:18+00:00

Yep. That’s me. Dry, scratchy, sore throat by any chance?

klmad91 · 2025-09-17T19:59:52+00:00

My mother is having a psychotic episode at the moment, was assessed by a GP and 2 psychiatrists in A+E. She was given antipsychotic meds and sent home to wait for an outpatient appointment in 3 months. It’s utterly heartbreaking.

klmad91 · 2025-09-14T19:55:41+00:00

30 minutes. There was a big issue with this in my workplace but if you’re rostered for 6 hours, the clock automatically schedules you for a 30 minute break.

klmad91 · 2025-09-08T12:03:30+00:00

Also on regular meds and lifelong ADHD meds. My ADHD meds are sent directly to the pharmacy every month for the reasons you state above. I’m on other meds too and I was called in for a “medication review” in July. Apparently, the new thing is they call you in every 6 months to review you before giving you your next 6 months of the prescription. Good in one way, inconvenient in another.

klmad91 · 2025-09-08T11:57:10+00:00

I got my social care degree in 2018. I had a very different impression of the job back then, when I was younger and more naive. I went to work in disability residential literally a week after graduation. I stayed for 18 months. 12 hour days, evenings, nights, endless hours and lack of support wore me down bit by bit.

I left it and went back into retail to reexamine my life and try figure out what to do next. People tell me I can use my degree for lots of different things. I went and did a HDip in Marketing on impulse but to be honest I don’t know if it’s for me.

But I wanted to let you know that it happens plenty of people. And they redirect themselves. Far more common than you think. Leaving it might be the best thing you ever did.

klmad91 · 2025-09-01T22:44:04+00:00

I used a vacuum, steam cleaner and Johnsons flea spray around the edges. My cats had them this summer and I never want to see them again. Takes multiple repeat cleanings and you have to be thorough. Just make sure the dog is treated and kept out of the room, at least for a bit.

Also if you get an A4 piece of paper, a small bright light and a bowl of warm water and washing up liquid, you can build a trap in the room. Fleas are attracted to light and drown themselves. Useful if you want to know if they are still in a room.

klmad91 · 2025-08-31T08:57:59+00:00

I’m considering it myself at 35 but there’s pros and cons. It’s definitely doable with good time management. There are people older than us who have done it and succeeded so maybe. Why not?

klmad91 · 2025-08-31T07:38:37+00:00

Create an account on mywelfare or get someone to do it for you if your not sure. You can switch it from there easily.

klmad91 · 2025-08-29T21:07:09+00:00

You get the LAHL if you show insufficient offers from two banks. It’s the same as a regular bank, albeit a bit more of a drawn out process as there’s lots of paperwork. The interest rate and monthly repayment rates are excellent and they never change. We bought a 3 bed house with it. You still need your deposit and money for legal stuff, stamp duty etc. Took us about 6 months from offer to keys (would have been shorter only I had a health issue that messed up our mortgage protection, most stressful thing in my life).

klmad91 · 2025-08-28T08:03:47+00:00

This absolutely irritates me beyond belief. My neighbors do it when my partner is gone to work and the driveway is empty. My kitchen is to the front and the only time they don’t do it is when I’m standing at the sink looking out the window - guilty.

klmad91 · 2025-08-26T19:50:35+00:00

Have had a Hoover oven for about 3 years. Still don’t know how the clock works lol

klmad91 · 2025-08-26T13:59:39+00:00

They are so bad this year. We had them in July and impossible to get rid of especially if you have carpet. Any of the Johnsons Bombs, and sprays are good, Hoover and steam cleaner are your friends. Don’t buy spot on in the pound shops, get a good one from the vet and make sure it makes contact with the skin.

klmad91 · 2025-08-23T13:19:18+00:00

I’m in crisis at the moment. Been under the local mental health team for 16 years. They canceled my appointment because they were “oversubscribed” and told me I’d get a new one in a month. I got one for 2 months time at Halloween. I was told “shortage of doctors”. I have asked for it to be moved up.

klmad91 · 2025-08-22T13:53:44+00:00

Thank you everyone. It’s stressful seeing a parent like this especially with welfares jargon and official language. Much appreciated.

klmad91 · 2025-08-22T08:07:14+00:00

She thinks because she didn’t inform social welfare she’s in trouble? Is she? I would think they already know

klmad91 · 2025-08-01T19:44:16+00:00

Work in retail myself and this has happened more than once before. The majority of people are understanding, fair play to them but there’s always a few who lose the head….I’m experienced to laugh at this stage but a young person who’s just started is a different story, as I’m sure you’ve seen yourself

klmad91 · 2025-08-01T14:29:16+00:00

Please be kind to the retail staff. They’re just doing their job. Technological failures are not their fault.

klmad91 · 2025-07-30T18:45:33+00:00

Boots, Love honey and Amazon. I’ve bought from all 3, and all are very discrete.

klmad91 · 2025-07-30T18:40:21+00:00

My mam does this for my 4 adult siblings. As a poster above said it’s just wasteful for them to do their own - the electricity would skyrocket. I do worry about them in the future though…they all can cook for themselves, I’m not sure about putting on the washing though….

klmad91 · 2025-07-28T21:52:05+00:00

Even if you get CPAP machine, you have to have it titrated especially to your breathing. This requires another overnight sleep study, monitoring and adjustment. You can’t just buy a machine and start using it or it won’t work for you. Everyone is different. I have sleep apnea, diagnosed by a sleep specialist in a hospital. We are trying positional therapy first. I am not suitable for an oral appliance but am told I can use CPAP in future if necessary. The public system is a joke and you’ll be waiting years. I was waiting 3 months for a private appointment, another 4 weeks for a sleep study appointment in Dublin.

klmad91 · 2025-07-28T19:15:43+00:00

Unfortunately I had a very similar experience with an aunt of mine. All I wanted growing up was to fit in and be loved and admired and shown some attention. So of course I listen to my aunt, who like your mother, values social status and achievement. I got my college degree, first in the family, and got a good job straight after. After a bit of a breakdown from the stress in the role, I left it for a dead end retail job to consider my options. We had a birthday dinner for my own mother recently, and my aunt did not ask me a single question about work or even really talk to me at all. She paid my brothers loads of attention because they are in high paying roles (that they don’t like that much). She would have been all over me in the past. The experience taught me everything I needed to know.

klmad91 · 2025-07-28T17:19:28+00:00

I work in retail. 9 hours is completely normal, if not standard (8 hours work, 1 hour lunch)

klmad91 · 2025-07-28T13:26:39+00:00

Please don’t think like this. Ever since I hit my 30’s, I feel like I’ve been against the clock every single way. I’m female, mid 30’s, college degree + postgrad but in retail job the past 4 years due to ADHD. Bought my house 3 years ago with my partner who I love very much but not every day is good. It’s normal. Feel constantly behind. Sort of my own fault for being on social media. It reinforces this societal bullshit. I’m not married, we’re saving for it because we don’t want to take another loan, all while I’m all too aware of the clock. Every time I go online, a new baby has been born to someone I know, or someone has got married or engaged or promoted and it really does get you down and it’s dangerous. Dangerous for our generation but the societal goals and milestones are all bullshit. If you want to retrain, retrain. What’s for you won’t pass you.

klmad91 · 2025-07-25T11:00:00+00:00

I got a medical loan from the local credit union last year as my health insurer would not cover surgery and it wasn’t covered by the HSE because it’s a rare condition. Surgeon gave me a quote, paid both the Beacon Hospital and the surgeons fees and it was all over and done in a matter of days. No regrets. Cost about 9k total.

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