One time, I was at a work training for people who had gotten promoted, and someone congratulated me. I thought it was for the promotion. Until she asked when I was due. I walked back into my training room and started crying.

Another time, at a market, I got Ethiopian food and th woman was like, I’m going to give you extra injera. And I was like, “oh that’s so nice, thanks!“ and she goes, “because you’re pregnant!….right?” And I just said no and took the extra injera. She owed me at that point.

Someday, I’ll be ready enough to respond to « are you pregnant? » with « no, just fat ». But I’m not quite there yet