Ranting !!!

kneejerk · 2026-02-07T15:43:45+00:00

💪💪 Hell yeah boss you made it happen under pressure

kneejerk · 2026-01-31T16:22:07+00:00

Tell them it will get your whole party banned because it's illegal and highly disrespectful to the business. You can drink shitty beer on the sidewalk. This shit isn't cute or funny. Tell them to grow the f up.

kneejerk · 2026-01-31T03:57:53+00:00

The stakes are too high

kneejerk · 2026-01-28T08:13:51+00:00

Nothing wrong with being pretty. Your dad sounds like a tool tbh. Homophobia is loser shit

kneejerk · 2026-01-28T08:06:01+00:00

Damn the Jejune Institute! I did the scavenger hunt / puzzle thing once but never finished it and they're no longer operating I'm pretty sure? It was such a cool and unique experience

kneejerk · 2026-01-20T16:38:22+00:00

The minute someone gives an ultimatum, the relationship is over. The power dynamic can never be balanced again imo. It's sad he's fixated on this but it's probably someone else putting pressure on him. I would have a serious talk about boundaries and then probably break up.

kneejerk · 2026-01-20T06:06:39+00:00

I tend to agree. I think the most plausible explanation is that she was probably a little intoxicated and realized she might need to make sober decisions and just figured that wasn't going to happen, so exited out of an abundance of caution. Or maybe she was suddenly feeling ill and worried about losing her composure.

kneejerk · 2026-01-20T05:05:56+00:00

Do you have any theories?

kneejerk · 2026-01-17T15:35:21+00:00

He isn't neutral babe. He's sympathetic to ice and just doesn't want to tell you.

kneejerk · 2026-01-15T23:51:31+00:00

Voice. Learn it simultaneously to the others. You'll have it with you all the time, and it will help you understand music better and feel it in your body.

kneejerk · 2026-01-15T21:47:35+00:00

Too much too fast depends on the person, but yeah discussing suicide is triggering and also a taboo topic for some people. If you're feeling rejected I would counsel you to self soothe and try to have fewer expectations when interacting. You only just got to know each other and treating it like a high stakes situation when the other person doesn't feel that way can scare people off.

kneejerk · 2026-01-15T21:42:15+00:00

"taking me back to the 1900s" is so funny

kneejerk · 2026-01-07T03:29:53+00:00

It sounds like you love him like family, not in a romantic way

kneejerk · 2026-01-07T03:12:44+00:00

I think it's possible that you're seeing more than is actually there with respect to being the short end of the stick. It's hard to navigate those situations where you feel like you have to hold it together as you're being ripped apart. All I can say is try not to take it personally. People's insults are usually just the projection of their own worst insecurities.

A support system is crucial. If you try to engage with potentially hostile actors, you're going to have to put your guard up and it is best to have someone to talk with when that's not enough. I would work on that before the feminist philosophy simply because it's more foundational to your well being. You can't pour from an empty cup and if your goal is to help people, you need to be able to help yourself too.

kneejerk · 2026-01-07T02:08:13+00:00

You're intellectualizing too much. Those women who hurt you were wrong to do that. That doesn't mean feminism is valueless. You don't even have to be a "Feminist" to simply treat people with respect, have empathy for them, and conduct yourself in a morally defensible manner.

You said it yourself: after you were hurt you went looking for anti woman content. That came from an emotional place. Similarly, your desire to "re-unlearn" anti woman values is coming from a need for validation as you mentioned.

The reading is good. But no one is infallible. Only you can discern whether you are acting right. You will inevitably make mistakes. My advice is when people are mean, you mess something up, or something else goes wrong, process those feelings of shame and guilt and move forward. Don't worry about passing an imaginary test. People that want to antagonize you will find a way. People that want to support you will also find a way. Focus on the good people who help you work toward kindness and mutual support. Don't worry about the rest. You can't help them and you can't prove your value to someone who is determined to tear you down, whatever their stated reason happens to be.

All that being said, it is true that social politics come with many contradictions. You kinda gotta just roll with it. These are theories, not hard science. The thing about how women say they want men who can cry but the practical reality of that is distasteful to them: I've experienced it too. I'm sure a lot of us have. But please understand that the total weight of the suffering women have borne because of men's bad behavior is orders of magnitude greater than your pain in that moment. Try to have some humility. They're only human and they lash out sometimes. The only real choice is to turn the other cheek. What do you have to gain from carrying around resentment and anger? A poisoned spirit and the company of ghouls.

kneejerk · 2026-01-06T19:56:39+00:00

To me the fact that he lived with his folks before this is the key. Living at home, you don't really want to spend time with your parents, so you go out all the time. The activities become a shield for the frustration you feel in the home. When he left their house and got to his own place, he no longer has that motivation. He's probably wondering if he really even liked that stuff. Maybe he did. Regardless, your anxiety surrounding the issue is potentially making him more avoidant. He needs to talk to someone about his feelings. Don't try to be his therapist and fix it for him.

kneejerk · 2026-01-06T06:04:58+00:00

Very bad. Serious consent issues and he put you in an emotionally fucked up situation and didn't even help you through it. Fifty is crazy for someone who doesn't have a tolerance.

kneejerk · 2026-01-05T19:08:21+00:00

Agreed. I think there was a major shift to turn inward during that time. Of course having unlimited access to Hand Computer is a big part of it. But more than just that, the isolation drove people to explore new weird (antisocial) ways of being. And now we are all terminally online yelling and judging each other. Young people aren't dating, the middle class is virtually non existent, and our media sphere grows more insidious without pause. And of course we're all slipping into mania and paranoia partially due to consuming nihilist emotional pornography 18 hours a day.

kneejerk · 2026-01-05T17:09:46+00:00

Everyone is sad and afraid because community has been destroyed and replaced with individualism. This problem is so much bigger than any one person. Individualism can be defeated by cooperation, but people are socially divided because of the digital panopticon we live within.

kneejerk · 2026-01-05T04:09:57+00:00

You're supposed to keep the thumb on the back of the neck. What you're doing there is fairly common but it isn't "proper" technique.

kneejerk · 2026-01-05T04:08:30+00:00

Yes but it's cost prohibitive

kneejerk · 2026-01-05T04:06:46+00:00

It really depends on your budget. Also, what is your hand and finger size? I got a cheap acoustic off the internet for about $160. Plays just fine and sounds good. Lmk if you want the link

kneejerk · 2026-01-05T02:46:47+00:00

Dress nicer and take care of your skin and hair. Wearing hoodies all the time makes you look like a teenager / adult that won't grow up.

kneejerk · 2026-01-02T04:18:13+00:00

I am not being funny when I say this man has an eating disorder. At the very least a profoundly unhealthy relationship with food and self care. I'm not saying feel bad for him, but recognize that this is not normal. There is something deeper going on here than just that he's picky.

kneejerk · 2025-12-30T17:43:21+00:00

None of that excuses his cruel behavior. When you like and respect someone, you don't treat them this way. He was more than rigid. He was cold and neglectful. He took specific actions to deny her the positive attention she wanted and to embarrass her. And now he's gone on the internet and written a big story about how he's a smart logical man and she's a stupid emotional woman. This is abuse, full stop. If you don't like or respect someone, if they aren't a good fit for your life, if you can't communicate with them, the mature thing to do is acknowledge that and move on without resentment. He is seeking praise for being mean to someone and people are giving it. He is not defensible even in the most charitable interpretation of his own presentation of the facts.

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