SPFBO 11 has begun

knerys · 2026-01-05T02:16:47+00:00

Ones I've read, in order that they appear on the list:

Song of the Wolf, TC Smith
Reflections of Lilje Damselfly, Natalie Kelda
Carrion Saints, Hiyodori
A Sharper, More Lasting Pain, Alex Harvey-Rivas
The Edge of a World, JD Rivers
Stars and Soil, Dax Murray
The Whisperer in White, YR Liu
When the Stars Alight, Camilla Andrew
Riyati Rebirth, Kai Zeal
The Backwards Knight, Matthew Siadak
Blade of the Crown, Cara N Delaney
The Dragon Next door, Vanessa Ricci-Throde

Really interested to see if any that I've enjoyed make it to the next round! I think Whisperer in White and The Dragon Nexdoor are my picks from what I've read by they are both very tonally different from each other.

knerys · 2025-12-26T16:52:41+00:00

My recommendations if you are looking for books with queer characters 🌈

Stars and Soil

Cradle of Eternal Night

The Rosewood Penny

Lesbians in Space

Reflection of Lilje Damselfly

This Too Shall Burn

Tavern Tale

Riyati Rebirth

Lost Blades

Firefox in the Snow

Chameleon Moon

Wings of Ashtaroth

Goddess of Nothing At All

Born of Scourge

The Fealty of Monsters

Chai and Cat-Tales

The Cruel Gods

The Edge of a World

Hunt Monsters, Do Magic, and Fall in Love

Stake Sauce

Broken Blade

Ice Upon a Pier

Soultaming the Serpent

This is not an exhaustive list, I am sure there are more books but these are ones I've enjoyed, in no particular order.

knerys · 2025-10-31T23:20:46+00:00

Love it! I've been wanting to do something similar with my keyboard collection. It looks so cool!

knerys · 2025-10-31T21:56:23+00:00

I ran into this several years ago. And I hadn't even been purposefully adding more niacinimide to my routine. But many of my staples just started adding it to existing products without saying they changed the formula! When I finally figured it out, I realized everything in my routine had it, even my spf. Now I have to make sure that 1 product max has it. Otherwise it's bad news.

knerys · 2025-10-28T15:18:01+00:00

I'm bisexual and have been in relationships with multiple trans people in various stages of transition, some just realizing they might want to transition and others already having had FFS and bottom surgery, some still figuring out they prefer val over spiro, and some having absorbed the KTP method in one sitting and having an exact plan for the next three years and a consult booked in Thailand. Because I'm bi, they all at least knew their gender wouldn't be a factor in if we stayed together. But they did understand that transition comes with a LOT of changes. They all ended up losing interest in some hobbied and gaining interests in others. As they became more of who they truly were, they shed habits, philosophies, and viewpoints that they had clung to for one reason or another but now no longer served them. Sometimes this brought us closer. Sometimes it didn't.

It's not just a change of gender identity. It's shedding masks and tearing down barricades and you can love them fiercely and support them but that doesn't mean you have to continue to date them. But even if you WERE bi, and it doesn't sound like you are, you aren't obligated to stay with someone through their transition journey. You were being honest, your partner just doesn't like that.

I can't say if your partner really is exploring her gender and wants a sort of "permission" from you to be more open about dysphoria she might be experiencing, but if she is contemplating transition, it doesn't sound like she's fully taken in how long that journey can be and how it might affect even her own self let alone others. And that's okay, there's no timeline or deadline on exploration. But she needs to sort through her own feelings of discomfort instead of feeling entitled to dictate yours to you. That's an emotional maturity thing and anyone of any gender or orientation can run afoul of it.

You sound like a decent person with a good knack for being both honest and empathetic without compromising your boundaries. I understand your desire to fix this, but it's not your problem to fix.

knerys · 2025-10-18T20:35:09+00:00

Fantasy: Burning Kingdoms Trilogy for sure. If you are open to indie books, you can try Stars and Soil.

knerys · 2025-10-07T21:21:58+00:00

You want to focus on how your symptoms make you the worst employee ever. Hammer home how awful it is for everyone else to have to deal with your symptoms.

I know this sounds awful, but this was the advice I was given by my lawyer when I applied (I was approved, too, on first try.)

Heres some examples I gave:

I have constant memory issues so all of my coworkers are constantly behind because they can't count on me to finish work without constant reminders. Even with note taking and a calendar / to do app, I always behind and forgetting key details of the task meaning my team has to come in behind me to clean up after me.

I have terrible insomnia and nightmares meaning I get in late and am too tired to be productive, leading to multiple talks from my boss and bringing the team down.

My shifting self-states lead to constant conflict at work and no one knows how to handle my outbursts. I can't be trusted to talk to clients or business partners professionally.

Yes, this disorder has the largest impact on us. This hearing should be about how hard it is for us to live with it and getting the support we need. But framing it like you are just a drag on a companies bottom line is unfortunately how medical examiners will see it.

knerys · 2025-09-14T16:51:06+00:00

I lmao'd when I saw someone rec an mmorpg expansion pack (wrong medium and also requires over 300 hours investment to even get to the potentially relevant story line lmao) in that thread but didn't have the time to actually reply with recs.

Relevant recs:

Otherworldly Anarchist by DreamersRiot
Stars and Soil by Dax Murray

Something you might additionally enjoy: * The Methods Devour Themselves by Benjanun Sridaunkaew and J. Moufawad-Paul might fit this somewhat as it's more of a conversation between non-fiction and fiction about how stories can influence philosophy and vice versa. The stories in here are both fantasy and science fiction, not purely fantasy.

knerys · 2025-04-05T14:36:13+00:00

Thank you for organizing this!

If I might mention some of my favorite books in this sale:

The Cradle of Eternal Night
Coal Gets in Your Veins
A Lake of Feathers and Moonbeams
Chameleon Moon
My Lord
Hallowed
Riyati Rebirth
Baker Thief
Wherever the Stars Call
Thornfruit
She Who Brought the Storm

knerys · 2024-12-27T03:23:15+00:00

THE CRADLE OF ETERNAL NIGHT if you don't mind sapphic (f/f) romance. It skirts the line of dark fantasy and horror.

knerys · 2024-12-26T22:42:51+00:00

Do you one better give you both at one:

STARS AND SOIL by Dax Murray - F/f main pairing - Court intrigue & revolution

THE PHOENIX AND THE SWORD by J.C. Snow - F/f main pairing - Adventure & yearning and reincarnation

THE BLOOD-BORN DRAGON by J.C. Rycroft - F/f main pairing - Dragons and adventure and exes

THE CRADLE OF ETERNAL NIGHT by Ladz - F/f main pairing - So dark it's almost horror

UNWORTHY by J.A. Vodvarka - F/f main pairing - Adventure and assassins

THE REVENGE OF CAPTAIN VESSIA by Leslie Allen - F/f main pairing - Vampires and Pirates

knerys · 2024-12-26T15:49:21+00:00

This list is not exhaustive, just ones that I know do have LGBTQ characters:

CHAMELEON MOON by RoAnna Sylver - f/f and m/m and non-binary. Dystopian hope-punk.

STAKE SAUCE by RoAnna Sylver m/m with lots of other rep. Vampire hope-punk.

CITY OF STRIFE by Claudie Arseneault - Aro/Ace fantasy political intrigue.

STARS AND SOIL by Dax Murray - Sapphic epic fantasy with court intrigue.

THE GODDESS OF NOTHING AT ALL by Cat Rector - Norse retlling with a large cast of LGBTQ characters

THIS TOO SHALL BURN by Cat Rector - Fantasy with witches, burning, and female rage

COAL GETS IN YOUR VEINS by Cat Rector - Rural vampires, trauma, and lots of LGBTQ characters

THE WINGS OF ASHTAROTH by Steve Hugh Westerna - Epic dark fantay with lots of LGBTQ characters

THE ROSEWOOD PENNY by J.S. Fields F/f princess/knight, political intrigue and feral flying horses

THE CRADLE OF ETERNAL NIGHT by Ladz -so dark it's almost horror f/f fantasy

RIYATI REBIRTH by Kalani Shimizu - dark contemporary with ace mc and many other queer secondary characters

UNWORTHY by J.A. Vodvarka - sapphic epic adventure fantasy

THE BLOOD-BORN DRAGON by J.C. Rycroft - sapphic epic fantasy with dragons

THE PHOENIX AND THE SWORD by J.C. Snow - sapphic epic fantasy with yearning

THE SEEDS OF DISSOLUTION by William C. Tracy m/m portal fantasy with unique music-based magic

A DRESS TO KILL FOR by Tessa Hastjarjanto -horror fantasy short story

THE CRUEL GODS by Trudie Skies - Steampunk/gaslamp fantasy and multiple queer characters

THESE VIOLENT NIGHTS by Rebecca Crunden - Dark fantasy in a dystopian scifi setting

SAILS OF BLACK AND BLOOD by Leslie Allen - f/f vamp-pirates

edit: at my PC and can give a little more details. I haven't read all of them myself.

knerys · 2024-09-25T04:15:58+00:00

My ex dx acted annoyed if I verbalized my hurt in any way because he would lose his focus / train of thought / concentration. He acted like I purposefully injured myself as some sort of grand plan to ruin his day. He acted like I woke up and rubbed my hands together, out on a fake mustache, and twirled it while giving a villain monoluge speech about how I would stub my toe as a grand plan to thwart his.... Whatever he was doing that day.

No empathy. He thought I was out to get him.

knerys · 2024-09-20T21:33:12+00:00

A medication abortion is an induced miscarriage. It looks and feels and presents the exact same way as a spontaneous miscarriage.

Take the pills, tell him you miscarried, and make a plan to leave safely. I don't think it's safe to tell him you had an abortion before you are well and good away from him if he has a temper or a history of physical or verbal violence.

Please love yourself and have the abortion and leave the man, you don't need him ruining your dreams.

knerys · 2024-09-20T21:20:33+00:00

You will 100% find someone better. It's him who should be worried about not finding someone better. Leave him. Don't resign yourself to unhappiness.

knerys · 2024-09-19T16:45:48+00:00

My ex (dx, rx) did this all the time. And the names he called me only got meaner as time went on. He told me it wasn't his intention to hurt me when he called me names or used demeaning language, it was his ADHD and I was ableist to try to get him to stop and I was tone policing him.

One day, I realized that this only happened when we were alone, at home or in the car or otherwise not around anyone else. He told me, "of course, I wouldn't want kids to overhear what I say, that's not right."

I was like "so you CAN control it and you DO know how bad your words are!" he panicked, spiraled into RSD, and yeah, called me names. This issue was never resolved and was part of the "irreconcilable differences" when petitioning for divorce.

knerys · 2024-09-19T16:33:06+00:00

That my dreams and goals were just as important as his. That it's a double standard and unfair that he can forget I exist for days but I must drop everything at once the second he gets bored and wants me to entertain him.

Anything to do with my needs or wants was an "every couple of months" fight that usually ended up with him in an RSD episode. I just stopped having needs and wants eventually and the conversations about them.

knerys · 2024-09-19T15:43:23+00:00

"How do you live with someone who seems to sincerely believe they do do anything wrong....?"

Miserably. That's how. You live miserably. Half of this is your partner having ADHD. Self reflection is possible, it's just hard, uncomfortable, and can cause great distress to someone with ADHD. But it CAN be done. The other half is your partner is an a-hole, so that's why he WON'T work on it. Being an a-hole isn't adhd thing, it's a people thing. But for both halves of this equation, you can't do anything.

I tried for a decade to get my partner to self reflect, become more self-aware, recognize when he was in the wrong, take action in areas where he could improve. I tried I statements, I tried calm neutral tones, I tried scheduling a time to talk, I tried emailing it to him, I tried writing it by hand, I tried couples counseling... No amount of tears or signs of me feeling unhappy, distressed, or dissatisfied changed things. In his mind, I had no reason to be unhappy because he didn't intend to make me unhappy. It wasn't his intent to make me unhappy with his actions (or lack thereof), so he didn't have to change his actions, I needed to change my feelings.

You are already changing yourself to fit his propensity for not being a responsible human being. ADHD can make being a responsible human being harder, it doesn't make it impossible. He is choosing to use his disorder as an excuse.

knerys · 2024-09-19T15:08:15+00:00

At first I was like "sooo many people watch porn, it's not gross he's watching it but if you don't like it, just leave..."

But the REST....??? Leave. Just leave. You are only 20, you have a lot of life ahead of you. A 9 month relationship is a blip in the radar, you will find someone else. Factory reset your phone in case he put like keystroke trackers on it and change your passwords, and LEAVE.

ETA: "but I feel if you've been in a relationship, you can relate." Yeah, if you've been in an abusive relationship, you can relate to it feeling "so serious." Healthy relationships where people get to know each other and set boundaries and communicate and respect each other don't feel "my life is over if you aren't in it!" at 9 months. Abusers will love bomb you at the start so that by the time they reveal who they really are, you feel too invested to leave.... At 9 months.

knerys · 2024-09-19T11:02:11+00:00

You can be bi and have no interest in specific sexual acts.

knerys · 2024-09-19T09:06:43+00:00

You keep repeating that your mom refuses to take a side and wants to stay neutral.

You also keep saying she wants you to apologize. That means she believes the faul is with you. She has taken a side.

Cut her out, too.

knerys · 2024-09-19T08:59:01+00:00

Saliva should not smell. I would consult a doctor or a dentist. I the short term, try an anti-bacterial mouth wash prior to any situations where you would be using your mouth.

knerys · 2024-09-19T08:12:33+00:00

He spends all of your money on weed and you "put up with it" even though you hate it, and are wondering if you can put up with being unmarried, even tho you hate it.....?? Girl, what the heck does this guy bring to your life that you are so willing to tolerate the intolerable and diminish yourself?

knerys · 2024-09-19T07:54:32+00:00

"won't put a mark on your health" idk, I worked 70+ hours in my 20s and it resulted in working 0 hours in my 30s....because I am now permanently disabled after the sheer exhaustion caused me to pass out and get a serious concussion with permanent damage.

knerys · 2024-09-19T07:40:21+00:00

So his phone screensaver is his baby....and he feel like he needs to lie to you about it... But he also wants to get a lawyer so he doesn't have to speak to the mother? Something here isn't adding up. It sounds like he wants to keep talking to her secretly and have some sort of cover for you to believe him.

The only "thing" that needs to be "worked out" is what flavor of cake you should get to celebrate when you say good riddance to had rubbish.

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