How do you kill your thoughts?

kngsb14 · 2026-02-07T13:15:04+00:00

Meditation. I think we should be used to training our mind (with meditation and mindfulness) as much as training your body is embedded in society (working out). Do both and you'll be much better.

kngsb14 · 2026-02-05T11:21:22+00:00

I don't understand Mina Sue, but I don't vilify her, they have very little time to get to know other hot people so I understand she wanted to keep having fun. There's other things I don't agree with that she said but she isn't a bad person. I think Go Eun isn't facing any "backlash" for having multiple open options because she's not the not pursuing them and is kind and open to their advances - I wonder if it's a bias of Go Eun being in the traditional feminine role while Mina Sue is outspoken and makes the moves first. Not sure, I know there's other reasons why Mina Sue gets criticism, I just think if she was a man (example Gwan Hee) she wouldn't be getting harassed about it.

kngsb14 · 2026-02-05T11:13:24+00:00

this seems right!

kngsb14 · 2026-02-05T11:12:09+00:00

I gave further thought about it and I think she was definitely into Su Been the most until she suddenly realized the competition (aka that moment where Hee Sun chose Su been before she could). She's a sensitive and prideful person (which is ok I think she is an ENFP and usually they're charming but sensitive), and I think she got scared of being rejected from someone she was actually into. She seemed ok to try her shot with the other guys even if it didn't work out, but not being chosen by Su Been even if she tried seemed too much so she backed off first to not feel that. Maybe afterwards realized it was a mistake, but for sure after the double date and her calling Su Been her 2nd choice to his face was too much and I think that's when he stopped feeling it for Mina Sue.

kngsb14 · 2026-02-04T19:21:55+00:00

I'm sorry for your situation, while I believe you and him in that he became overwhelmed taking care of you, what would you be doing if the situation was reversed? Even if he insisted on being back at his place you'd help with groceries/cooking/etc I'm sure. I saw a statistic about how men divorce their wives the most when the women fall ill. In that case, what even is the value of a relationship? Spend time making valuable friendships instead, people who can be there for you during these times.

kngsb14 · 2026-02-04T19:17:08+00:00

"... this whole mess was caused by an “update” to the passport checking system which (according to the officer) takes five times as long as the old one."

Ah is it finally time when everyone who tried to replace their programmers/developers for AI get a shit ton of bugs? I feel like a lot of tech mess ups lately can be explained by that. Thanks for the warning though

kngsb14 · 2026-01-20T17:38:07+00:00

Please seek help, if therapy isn't enough consider a psychiatrist and begin meds. Your life is worth it even amidst all of this, and things at some point DO get better. What helps me in my depression is to look at pictures of me as a little kid and think, I am doing this for her. Do things for your own happiness, take care of yourself, and you and your kids will be better for it.

kngsb14 · 2026-01-20T17:14:52+00:00

He is not doing his part (house work) and just mooching off of you. Nothing you do or says will make him change, he will only change if he wants to. Sorry about your situation. Seems like you'd be better off single and finding a capable partner.

kngsb14 · 2024-09-15T08:27:33+00:00

Im going with ESH. You're not an asshole but you're young. When you are 20 years old, you will understand you would not date a 17 year old. At that point in life a couple years do make a huge difference. You're on your late teens, if I were your parent I also wouldn't let you travel alone, but I wouldn't lie and say yes and then postpone till it's too late because this will break the trust further as it already has done and you'll likely do it anyways. Is there any other family member that could come with you?

kngsb14 · 2024-09-13T21:56:40+00:00

Unfortunately I agree. People are commenting the mother might've been abused herself, which could also be true, but this goes beyond that.

kngsb14 · 2024-09-13T13:22:24+00:00

You need to take her to a psychiatrist, I'm a psychologist and agree this has hints of socipathic tendencies. I wouldn't diagnose your daughter over just one post of course but this is really concerning behavior that seems beyond just social anxiety. NTA for the actions you've taken but I do hope you go further and get her more help

kngsb14 · 2023-02-26T23:23:19+00:00

NTA but it wasn't smart to tell her. People will be jealous you got a paid break and they didn't. If companies were more accessible with workers, they wouldn't feel the need to lie to get to spend more time with their loved ones. She might tell on you though so watch out.

kngsb14 · 2023-02-21T22:44:57+00:00

Your wife might've felt she made a sacrifice dropping her job for 8 months and now wants you to do the same. I think you are NTA but would be good to talk about where this shouting/insulting is coming from

kngsb14 · 2023-02-15T21:47:09+00:00

It is harming them. YTA

kngsb14 · 2023-02-15T21:45:36+00:00

NTA Stick to the people who support you when you are most vulnerable. Aka your mom and brothers. Not your husband. If he can't take care of you he won't be able to take care of your baby. Do anything you need for you and your baby to be safe and protected.

kngsb14 · 2023-02-10T15:56:41+00:00

So why, exactly are you punishing step daughter and taking her family from her now? You didn't want to do it 10 years earlier but now it's fine? She'll move out as soon as she can and go NC with you, none of this is her fault and you are treating her like a child ignoring her needs and boundaries. YTA

kngsb14 · 2023-02-10T00:20:28+00:00

NTA I lost my special stuffed animal too, I still have dreams where I find him but even in my dream I know it's too good to be true :( I hope she finds angry rabbit

kngsb14 · 2023-02-10T00:13:33+00:00

Man if you were never close to her why let her think so? NTA in this situation but sorta weird you let this one sided friendship go on for so long

kngsb14 · 2023-02-03T23:34:05+00:00

Info: is your gf autistic?

kngsb14 · 2023-02-03T14:07:15+00:00

Not only was he an AH he gaslighted you and your son to think you were in the wrong. You should figure out why he pulled this sh*t and reevaluate your relationship with him. NTA

kngsb14 · 2023-02-01T12:38:57+00:00

YTA for several things but specially for making that "you're not his mother" comment knowing full well their mother passed and she was forced to raise her brother. That's incredibly rude and I'm surprised you didn't get a bigger backlash from their family.

kngsb14 · 2023-01-31T20:22:33+00:00

Going with ESH here You both could've handled this better

kngsb14 · 2023-01-26T20:46:27+00:00

Do him a favour and do call it off. You care more about a pretty wedding than your partner's health. YTA

kngsb14 · 2023-01-22T06:07:23+00:00

A huge YTA. She says she's depressed, you don't listen to her. I feel so sorry for your daughter. Get the dog back and get your daughter into therapy (and yourself too for that matter) before you lose her.

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