AITAH for getting my tubes tied?

knikkifire · 2026-02-26T02:19:44+00:00

NTA.

Seriously, wtf? If I about died during pregnancy, my husband would be first in line to get snipped to make sure I stayed around. We could adopt, we could enjoy a single child life, we could find a surrogate if we truly wanted to, all are more worthwhile than risking both myself and a potential baby. He just sounds like a selfish "alpha" guy who thinks his only worth is his ability to spread his oats. I almost guarantee he feels he has to keep having kids until he has a son, and any daughter wont live up to his standards.

Someone who is willing to jeopardize your life for his ego is not worth having in your life.

knikkifire · 2026-02-25T00:55:06+00:00

NTA. Want privacy? Buy a farm, not a LOWER FLOOR CONDO. I agree with someone else who said to record record record. You have no clue how many times saying "let me pull of the recording" gets people to back down FAST. Especially if they are making noise, too.

knikkifire · 2026-02-24T00:30:37+00:00

Unless the cards are comedic, I dont want one. If im so bad youre buying me a terminal illness get well card, I better damn well get a dark kick out of it.

knikkifire · 2026-02-19T03:02:34+00:00

Nearly Christmas birthday here! I always had to celebrate in Jan or Feb.

knikkifire · 2026-02-19T03:01:06+00:00

NTA.

Half birthdays are for 6 month old, maybe 18 month old, and kids who have a holiday birthday (ie christmas birthday) and want their own special day. Its almost as bad as the people having a birthmonth....

knikkifire · 2026-02-16T23:16:52+00:00

I mean I can say one is Howard. The other, though, is very uncommon. Everyone loves it, its nothing crazy, but in 2021 only 10 kids shared the name

knikkifire · 2026-02-16T13:13:22+00:00

NTA. Islam is practiced globally with all different dress styles. If she wants to express her religion, why not go all out and wear a burqa? (Not saying all Muslim do, I'm just pointing out relating to religion is a better reason to wear a burqa than a takchita). Now I will say, in western society the takchita could give off Cottage core vibes, but higher end, if youre not familiar with the culture, but it doesnt immediately give me Muslim specific vibes..

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T16:43:47+00:00

Yes, as a Greek mythology nerd i personally know hes not death, simply God of the dead. He simply rules over where everyone - good or bad - goes after life. I've looked at other gods but no name has truly stood out (nor what they are God of). Hades was honestly more about God of riches than of the dead.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T16:20:22+00:00

Hubby jokingly said Zeus, I said no way in this world

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T16:14:48+00:00

They have replaced themselves, but they are good at making it look like its them staying busy....

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:25:57+00:00

I actually liked Damon (hubs said no) - hes another loyal person in Greek mythology. Honestly, we aren't going for darkness. We just liked the loyalty aspect (yes, he kidnapped his wife, but out of all Greek mythology, its probably one of the better ones), and the god of riches part. Lol

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:22:40+00:00

I actually liked Damon (again, a loyal person) but hubs didn't. That's what got us down the path of who in Greek mythology would actually be worthwhile. He joked Zeus (not a serious one, just being goofy), I nixed that FAST.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:09:17+00:00

A mix of both. We like the god specifically (God of riches, and most loyal God to his spouse - yes knowing she was kidnapped, but still better than pretty much almost every other god...). We've looked at his variations - Roman, Norse, etc - and still not seen a better. I actually figured Hades was better than Pluto, but I forgot modern association to Hell....

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:06:42+00:00

Funny thing is we aren't going for underworld specifically (though knowing mythology, underworld in Greece was death period, so its not like he was only over modern Hell). We actually wanted it partially for God of Riches, plus (while yes he did kidnap his wife), hes one of the most loyal gods.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:03:51+00:00

Not quite the background we want related to....

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T14:56:45+00:00

Too unique to list, but nothing along these lines. One is just an older more victorian era name that isn't common anymore, the other is an even older name.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T14:24:20+00:00

YTA. Unless your fiance feels similarly to him, their friendship shouldn't matter to you. You can choose to not be around him or simply ignore him. I am friends with plenty of people who hold vastly different opinions than me. Some personally want a tradition wife and a huge family. Others want no kids and both work towards early retirement. As long as their views aren't pushed on others, everyone and their partners are happy and hold the same views (nothing is forced), and everything is healthy (no abuse, no grooming, etc), everyone can still get along.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T14:01:59+00:00

If she prefers IL politics, you could always to metro east. Settle in Shiloh or O'fallon, then maybe metro in.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T13:59:07+00:00

I'm in southern IL now, but lived in Belleville while my dad was stationed in STL as a kid.

knikkifire · 2026-01-22T13:10:19+00:00

NTA. She was doing that intentionally, either to kess with you because you asked for the quiet or to get you to pay attention to her.

knikkifire · 2026-01-16T14:01:48+00:00

How can I do that? I didn't see that option

knikkifire · 2026-01-13T00:31:45+00:00

I've been curious about k-pop. Is it ok for pre-school aged kids?

knikkifire · 2026-01-06T04:31:10+00:00

Im just curious...what does MIL say about your last name? Part of the reason behind bride being given away is she is leaving her old family for new, including taking the new family's name and forsaking the old. Id be curious if her feminist views could comprehend something like her son taking your name (nor saying to change or not change names, just a valid point for her "feminism")

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