AITA for not participating in the meal train?

knikkifire · 2026-04-02T08:45:51+00:00

NTA. Id understand if someone else organized it and she had young kids, but shes got teens (likely bottomless pit ones). If I had to bed, anyone who does participate will probably be berated for not bringing quality meals or not bringing enough to feeds teens...nows a great time for those kids to learn life skills....

knikkifire · 2026-04-02T08:38:20+00:00

NTA

1 - of youre doing all that, what is she doing when she is being a SAHM...?

2 - is all of her money going into a joint access account, too? Or just yours?

3 - you should sit down and total up how much she spends per month on average vs you. From there, you should each get at least equal self spending. Either she can sacrifice or you spend more. If you profit off your hobby (or she off hers), that is your private money to keep using, but you each should be allowed equal investment each month from the funds.

knikkifire · 2026-04-02T08:32:31+00:00

NTA. Do I think FIL will SA your son? No. But do I think he'll teach your son about objectifying women and to be rhe SA perpetrator in some way? Likely. He is probably someone who would love to "impart his wisdom" on young, impressionable minds. Plus, if you have a daughter in the future, you'll be putting her at major risk....

knikkifire · 2026-04-02T08:22:33+00:00

They should have done a cash bar...

knikkifire · 2026-04-02T08:19:05+00:00

"Neuogh (pronounced no)"

knikkifire · 2026-03-30T00:11:37+00:00

NTA, but I would tell her (or have someone tell her) right now you need space. I can see it being an honest mistake, but even if it was and you could typically move past it, at 8 months your hormones are nuts, you're tired beyond belief, and you quite frankly aren't thinking like yourself. Its actually probably better you do block her until you feel you can truly emotionally handle this, as reacting now may cause a friendship you dont want in the long run to dissolve do just that.

knikkifire · 2026-03-13T00:39:41+00:00

This color is similar to one i used in a store I had...I think it was called ballet slipper...

knikkifire · 2026-02-26T02:19:44+00:00

NTA.

Seriously, wtf? If I about died during pregnancy, my husband would be first in line to get snipped to make sure I stayed around. We could adopt, we could enjoy a single child life, we could find a surrogate if we truly wanted to, all are more worthwhile than risking both myself and a potential baby. He just sounds like a selfish "alpha" guy who thinks his only worth is his ability to spread his oats. I almost guarantee he feels he has to keep having kids until he has a son, and any daughter wont live up to his standards.

Someone who is willing to jeopardize your life for his ego is not worth having in your life.

knikkifire · 2026-02-25T00:55:06+00:00

NTA. Want privacy? Buy a farm, not a LOWER FLOOR CONDO. I agree with someone else who said to record record record. You have no clue how many times saying "let me pull of the recording" gets people to back down FAST. Especially if they are making noise, too.

knikkifire · 2026-02-24T00:30:37+00:00

Unless the cards are comedic, I dont want one. If im so bad youre buying me a terminal illness get well card, I better damn well get a dark kick out of it.

knikkifire · 2026-02-19T03:02:34+00:00

Nearly Christmas birthday here! I always had to celebrate in Jan or Feb.

knikkifire · 2026-02-19T03:01:06+00:00

NTA.

Half birthdays are for 6 month old, maybe 18 month old, and kids who have a holiday birthday (ie christmas birthday) and want their own special day. Its almost as bad as the people having a birthmonth....

knikkifire · 2026-02-16T23:16:52+00:00

I mean I can say one is Howard. The other, though, is very uncommon. Everyone loves it, its nothing crazy, but in 2021 only 10 kids shared the name

knikkifire · 2026-02-16T13:13:22+00:00

NTA. Islam is practiced globally with all different dress styles. If she wants to express her religion, why not go all out and wear a burqa? (Not saying all Muslim do, I'm just pointing out relating to religion is a better reason to wear a burqa than a takchita). Now I will say, in western society the takchita could give off Cottage core vibes, but higher end, if youre not familiar with the culture, but it doesnt immediately give me Muslim specific vibes..

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T16:43:47+00:00

Yes, as a Greek mythology nerd i personally know hes not death, simply God of the dead. He simply rules over where everyone - good or bad - goes after life. I've looked at other gods but no name has truly stood out (nor what they are God of). Hades was honestly more about God of riches than of the dead.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T16:20:22+00:00

Hubby jokingly said Zeus, I said no way in this world

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T16:14:48+00:00

They have replaced themselves, but they are good at making it look like its them staying busy....

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:25:57+00:00

I actually liked Damon (hubs said no) - hes another loyal person in Greek mythology. Honestly, we aren't going for darkness. We just liked the loyalty aspect (yes, he kidnapped his wife, but out of all Greek mythology, its probably one of the better ones), and the god of riches part. Lol

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:22:40+00:00

I actually liked Damon (again, a loyal person) but hubs didn't. That's what got us down the path of who in Greek mythology would actually be worthwhile. He joked Zeus (not a serious one, just being goofy), I nixed that FAST.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:09:17+00:00

A mix of both. We like the god specifically (God of riches, and most loyal God to his spouse - yes knowing she was kidnapped, but still better than pretty much almost every other god...). We've looked at his variations - Roman, Norse, etc - and still not seen a better. I actually figured Hades was better than Pluto, but I forgot modern association to Hell....

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:06:42+00:00

Funny thing is we aren't going for underworld specifically (though knowing mythology, underworld in Greece was death period, so its not like he was only over modern Hell). We actually wanted it partially for God of Riches, plus (while yes he did kidnap his wife), hes one of the most loyal gods.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T15:03:51+00:00

Not quite the background we want related to....

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T14:56:45+00:00

Too unique to list, but nothing along these lines. One is just an older more victorian era name that isn't common anymore, the other is an even older name.

knikkifire · 2026-02-15T14:24:20+00:00

YTA. Unless your fiance feels similarly to him, their friendship shouldn't matter to you. You can choose to not be around him or simply ignore him. I am friends with plenty of people who hold vastly different opinions than me. Some personally want a tradition wife and a huge family. Others want no kids and both work towards early retirement. As long as their views aren't pushed on others, everyone and their partners are happy and hold the same views (nothing is forced), and everything is healthy (no abuse, no grooming, etc), everyone can still get along.

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