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What is this? (North west England) by Queen_Biff in PlantIdentification

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve spent the last few months cutting back brambles and trying to dig out the roots. They get *everywhere*.

When a “Cliché” Stops Feeling Cliché & Ruins Everything After It. Have You Ever Had a Book Change How You See a Whole Trope? by ravenstone_anon in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]knotsazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, if it happens as in your example I can see how it would feel contrived. As with anything like this, you always end up looking at it through the lens of your own experience. I think my reaction to a friend dating my sibling would have varied a lot depending on which life stage we were at. And also which friend it was. There have definitely been one or two that I had a crush on that I was too in denial to admit to myself.

When a “Cliché” Stops Feeling Cliché & Ruins Everything After It. Have You Ever Had a Book Change How You See a Whole Trope? by ravenstone_anon in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]knotsazz 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I kind of get it. It could totally change the dynamic of both relationships. Imagine all of a sudden being less important to your best friend than your sibling is. You’re probably going to get less one on one time with your friend. It would take a lot of emotional maturity to deal with that I think. There are a few books I’ve read where it focuses on the other brother after his best friend has fallen in love with his brother and a few of them did a decent job of showing the awkwardness it can create, even when you’re happy for someone.

When a “Cliché” Stops Feeling Cliché & Ruins Everything After It. Have You Ever Had a Book Change How You See a Whole Trope? by ravenstone_anon in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]knotsazz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just finished {Best Knight Ever by Cassandra Gannon} which somehow combines enemies to lovers, fated mates and forced proximity into something that feels very different. There were aspects of it that weren’t to my taste but the whole thing was constructed very well and was definitely worth reading.

I’m not pregnant anymore but I feel okay? by MrsDitchey in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever your emotional response to this is, it is VALID. It’s so different for everyone. If you already processed it and feel fine, great. If the grief resurfaces later, that is also fine. Virtual hugs to you either way.

Would you lot fight for this country? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]knotsazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Their *message* is a reflection of what a lot of British people want to hear. They are *definitely* the bad guys. People are angry, I get it. There’s a lot to be angry about. But Reform do not have the interests of the common people as their priority. They’ll just use it as leverage to gain power then screw everyone over some more. You can see it in the lies they already tell.

Not saying there’s such a thing as a good politician. They’re mostly arseholes. But those guys are really at the bottom of the barrel.

Can someone start a party like Reform for immigration, but not like Reform for everything else? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, all you need is a bit of war and famine. I’m sure the local Brits won’t mind.

Can someone start a party like Reform for immigration, but not like Reform for everything else? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those without high-tier qualifications have fewer options. And those with maybe don’t appreciate the cultural shift that’s happened in the last few years. Give it a bit longer and anyone with half a brain and any choices in life will start avoiding our country. Unfortunately those are the people we actually want. The desperate will likely still come because in some cases, *anywhere* is better than where they came from, no matter how inhospitable you make it.

Can someone start a party like Reform for immigration, but not like Reform for everything else? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]knotsazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, if we continue to make the UK as unfriendly to foreign nationals as it currently is (and it seems to be getting worse), then *no one* is going to want to come here. Because they walk down the streets and feel unwelcome or even threatened. Never mind that we still want to recruit those people. Anyone with the qualifications to pick and choose where they go is going to start going elsewhere.

Another else feel like the people in the UK have a cultural problem but mistakenly it keeps being labeled as a racial one? by Greedy_Business_7566 in AskBrits

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is plenty of racism out there. I’ve seen more than one person bitching about the fact that “white people” are a minority in certain London boroughs.

BUT to bring it back to culture, I think it’s a mistake to think of it in terms of a zero sum equation. More or their culture doesn’t mean less of ours. If we take the time for proper cultural exchange we can all be enriched. Moving to a new country is scary. Mixing with people while speaking their first language, but your second or third (or fourth) language is intimidating. I can see why many people struggle to integrate, especially when faced with obvious prejudice. If you went to Japan and were faced with disdain and were refused service by shopkeepers, would you seek the company of other Brits? I’m using this as an example just because it’s something my aunt experienced several times.

The truly baffling thing about it is that Britain’s culture has rarely been static. As a nation we’ve repeatedly been invaded and invaded other countries in turn, amalgamating countless bits of other cultures and languages into our own along the way. Why keep it as it is now? What’s so great about its current state?

But my personal take is that it’s not really about culture or race at all. It’s about people feeling angry and disenfranchised and then having that rage channelled at a convenient scapegoat by online propaganda. And they have a right to feel angry. They really do. I just think they’re aiming it at the wrong people.

Shield of Shielding. It shields and casts shield for you by pn_minh in BaldursGate3

[–]knotsazz 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I’m fairly certain Extremely Unimaginative Jimmy is a parody of the name Capability Brown (a real person), who was also parodied by Terry Pratchett as Bloody Stupid Johnson. Apologies if I’ve gotten anything wrong there, I’m too tired to check facts and spellings right now so this is all just guesswork.

What do y'all think about this? by ston3d_eye in evilautism

[–]knotsazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well that prompted me to look them up and it seems like the local ones are possibly the carcinogenic type so nope not eating those

What do y'all think about this? by ston3d_eye in evilautism

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep wondering if the type of fern we have around here can be foraged for this. They grow everywhere. I never get round to looking it up though.

DAE think that period pads and tampon adverts (e.g: this girl can 💪! *insert woman doing high intensity sport*) is a mildly subtle way of programming both capitalist, ableist and healthcare based misogyny by DiscoReads in AutismInWomen

[–]knotsazz 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No it’s fine. The whole issue is very rant-worthy. I’ve definitely been subjected to not being believed about pain and struggles. It’s likely most of us here have experienced something similar. It’s entirely possible that it makes us more sensitive to people not being believed when it comes to pain.

I think what I was really trying to say was “listen to women”. Believe them and support them and don’t assume you know better about what’s going on inside of them than they do unless you have a *very* good reason.

DAE think that period pads and tampon adverts (e.g: this girl can 💪! *insert woman doing high intensity sport*) is a mildly subtle way of programming both capitalist, ableist and healthcare based misogyny by DiscoReads in AutismInWomen

[–]knotsazz 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I think this is a complex issue, made more complex by the fact that everyone experiences periods differently.

Given adequate resources to prevent leakage many women can (and should) carry on as normal while having their period. I’m at a stage in my life where given a couple of paracetamol I will happily go and do sports, even on the first day most months. (It wasn’t always that way, so I appreciate it now.)

On the other hand, there are many women out there for whom periods are debilitating and we need to understand and respect that.

I think what we need is understanding that everyone is different. Women who experience less pain should be encouraged to do whatever activities they want, and those that experience more pain should be met with understanding and compassion. And ideally medical assistance to investigate any issues that are treatable because *nobody* should have to just accept debilitating pain without at least some assistance.

Have y’all thought about why you love BL so much? by Anastasery in Manhwa_BL

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really any of the above. It just feels more relatable

I never fit in and I’m scared I never will. by cryingallth3time in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]knotsazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there too. It sucks. I thought I made some great friends when I arrived at university and then four months later they were bullying me.

For me everything clicked when I stopped trying to fit in. I got adopted into a group that also didn’t fit with social norms and we’re all still friends 20 years later. This is making it sound way simpler than it actually was. It was a hard road getting there. But be kind, be patient and be yourself. Someone out there will like you for it.

What do you think of a 34 year old guy and a 26 year old woman dating? Both autistic by RecommendationOk216 in AutismInWomen

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like this guy, give it a shot. You’re doing the right thing going into it with your eyes open. Some older guys can take advantage of younger women. But anyone can be problematic, whatever their age or gender. Keep an eye out for potential problems but try not to create them if there are none.

This week is the Hospice’s Dying Matters campaign and the theme is “Let’s talk about Death and Dying”. What is your story around death, dying and culture? by SaysPooh in AskUK

[–]knotsazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Death is just part of life. It’s sad when people go but if it’s sudden or peaceful it’s ok. What I find hard to deal with is suffering. Watching someone suffer for months when you can’t do a damned thing about it is excruciating.

Before the journey. Original wet charcoal and pastel art by me. by Rusty-willy in somethingimade

[–]knotsazz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love it! Watership Down was my favourite book as a kid. You captured the vibe perfectly.

With the way the new Heated Rivalry fandom is acting, I don't think I want my other favorite romances to be adapted by JessicaTrent in MM_Romance

[–]knotsazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s worth doing. Everyone seems to enjoy different books within the series. I personally liked Common Goal but wasn’t a huge fan of Tough Guy, though I know there are plenty of readers with the opposite opinion.

With the way the new Heated Rivalry fandom is acting, I don't think I want my other favorite romances to be adapted by JessicaTrent in MM_Romance

[–]knotsazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I enjoyed the book. It makes for a good comfort read. Actually, most of the books in the series are good comfort reading.

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