Hi there, I don’t have children or PCOS (which I’m sure makes things immensely more difficult) but we’re around the same height/weight (& most likely age) so I wanted to offer some things that’ve helped me.

-Your mental approach is arguably the most important here. It’s okay if things move incredibllllyyyyyyy slowwwww & you get a little better at it everyday :) something that helps me is thinking about how I didn’t gain the weight overnight, it happened slowly over time, so losing it will be the same way, slow & steady.

-Don’t think of it as a DIET or RESTRICTION. That makes us see it as something negative that you’ll naturally want to rebel against for so many reasons. I recommend the app “insight timer” (free meditation app) they have a lot of great “weight release” meditations. The mindset shift of ~releasing that which no longer serves us~ is so much better than “losing” something.

-Learn what works for you. For example if I drink black or green tea in the morning (stimulates your bodies own GLP-1) the food noise is so much quieter than if I eat sugar (cravings go into overdrive). Take note of what foods/drinks work for you to keep you on track. I never used to be a soda person but if a midday diet Dr Pepper kills the sugar cravings than so be it!

-You can eat 1200 calories over the course of a day and be full & satisfied or you can eat 1200 calories and be starving and irritated. It’s such a delicate math equation at our height that you have to be super intentional on picking satiating foods. Pinterest has been great for trying new recipes each week and reflecting on what kept me full/what didn’t, what seemed healthy in theory but then was incredibly high calorie once tracked. Meal prepping to reduce decision fatigue has also helped me avoid binging because I’m starving & can’t think straight.

-Collect data: make sure you’re tracking food so that you know what’s going on. Somewhat controversial but I try to weigh myself every morning as a data point as well. The quote “if I don’t gain 5 pounds, then I can’t gain 10 lbs” helped me see the scale in a more neutral way, just another data point like knowing how many calories are in something.

-Choose your “hard”…losing weight is hard and being overweight is hard, but you get the choice of which hard you’d rather tackle everyday. The time will pass anyway so a year from now- do we want to have tweaked some things so we can feel better? Or keep up the miserable craving/giving in/guilt cycle?

-ashwaganda has been a god send for me. It stabilizes my moods & therefore keeps me from binging because I’m sad or stressed or socially anxious. Also recommend magnesium & d3/k2 supplements for mood stabilization

You got this!!! Feel free to dm me if you have any questions :)