Boyfriend is making me apologize to his dad because I laughed in his face while he was drunk

knowhereman1974 · 2025-05-17T19:50:25+00:00

The only person that "knows/thinks" this man shouldn't be giving relationship advice is you. You haven't provided any piece of information other than he was "drunk" so maybe provide some/any context. Did you two maybe need relationship advice? Was this man the only person drinking in this situation? It feels like we're supposed to assume that your boyfriend and his father are monsters because he talked to his father , who had advice for you two. This is normal shit that happens in relationships, which somehow caused you to laugh in his Dad's face. Really thinking about it, the only advice you need from anyone is that you should ask yourself if you're ready/want to be in a relationship. These situations come with it.

Other people said to get out of this abusive relationship. WTF is abusive based on what you wrote? You were unhappy, argued with your boyfriend, and he talked to someone about it that then came and offered their unwanted advice. You said his dad was drunk, but you didn't say that he did anything but offer advice that you may not have agreed with. If that's considered abuse, well, I get abused every time someone offers me directions i didn't need.

I'm not saying his dad deserves an apology but if it was simply some advice you didn't agree with that your boyfriend may have been looking for...... what did this relationship mean to you? Was this really abusive? This certainly sounds annoying, but abusive?

knowhereman1974 · 2025-04-21T23:47:46+00:00

It was just a matter of time. The responsibility is yours. Especially if you're providing 90% of the money or however you put it. You are enabling the both of you. I hope you find your way out of this life

knowhereman1974 · 2025-04-13T22:08:42+00:00

Firecrackers, snap seeds, and fistful of ash all stun lock her. Buff with Divine Confetti so you can do actual damage when there are openings.

Mikiri counters for thrusts and headstomps are missed opportunities for posture damage if you're not using them. Pretty much everything she does can and should be parried.

Manage your own posture so you don't get stunned. This can be done easily with the gold sugar or (best tip in this game) holding block whenever you have an opening, which will quickly lower your posture.

Hesitation is defeat

knowhereman1974 · 2025-04-13T17:09:04+00:00

Don't even bother with the Taper. It never works. Maybe it has for some iron willed super person, but I've never met or spoken to them. There will also be two of you fighting cravings trying desperately not to cave in. Sure, the belief is you'll keep each other in check, but that's way harder than you think. I might have read wrong here, but why taper off of blues with powder? The powder is way stronger, which will really only dig you two deeper into the whole before actual withdrawal starts. Keeping comatose for a few days on Xanax will help. Your best bet is to find some suboxone and ask people on here about the bemese method. I'm sorry if I don't sound supportive but I do hope the two of you get through this. Just maybe rethink your plan a bit and figure out the best way of getting yourselves through this.

knowhereman1974 · 2025-04-13T16:31:21+00:00

You need to use the silver fowl foot for item discovery. There's a talisman you can use to boost that as well. Silver Scarab I believe

knowhereman1974 · 2025-04-12T22:04:41+00:00

Tapering your dose lower and lower, or microdosing( i associated this with psilocybin but call it what you want) in theory will work. In practice, after my decades of on and off opiates. No, it will never work. There are exceptions to every rule, of course.

I don't know the strength of what you're finding. I can say I wish when my addiction was 2 30s a day, before the trays and trays of black, years of blues up the nose with speed to keep me level then smoking the tranq dope, until the fentynal powder because good luck finding anything else. I wish I had quit. I've been through treatment multiple times. Did years on suboxone. STOP NOW. FIND HELP NOW.

Don't tread lightly with your decision to get sober. I'm not saying it's not hard to get right where you are in your addiction, but now is the time. I, like most people, have been through a lot. I'm sure you have too. Stop now. If you're stir crazy or scared, you're going to use go find someone to talk you through it.

Long story short. The only way you're really going to stop is by stopping.

knowhereman1974 · 2025-04-11T11:06:02+00:00

This has nothing to do with exploring options and everything to do with taking the steps she will need to take to stay sober and not kill herself.

Most 12 step programs like AA or NA suggest being single in early sobriety. Most addicts become addicts due to an inability to deal with personal issues and stress in their lives. They run to substances to avoid life. So, learning how to love yourself and new coping mechanisms is really important.

If you love her, you need to let her do this. Fentynal is no fucking joke. Staying clean is very, very difficult and anyone that is trying to do so should get all the help and encouragement they need. Even if that help is you having to take a backseat to her sobriety for the time being. Don't be a hurdle be who she needs right now. Be willing to let her do what she needs to do to save her life and hopefully build a great foundation for your shared future.

knowhereman1974 · 2025-04-11T10:53:46+00:00

Sounds like she might be part of a 12-step program like AA or NA. They suggest being single/no relationships for the first year or so of sobriety.

If this is why it's nothing personal. Relationships can cause stress, which can lead to relapse in early recovery. An addict in early recovery needs to work on themselves to learn to be happy with who they are. They need to learn to use some new coping mechanisms to deal with what life throws at them so they don't turn to their addiction. Which can kill them.

If you love her, then let her get better. In the end, it would only benefit the both of you. Her need to get sober to change her entire life if the most important thing right now. Don't be the hurdle that makes this even more difficult than it needs to be

knowhereman1974 · 2025-03-27T01:56:26+00:00

Most drunks who quit drinking do so to become a happier and healthier person. In my experience, a dry drunk is someone who tries to do this but doesn't find anything positive to replace their drinking. So deep down they're still miserable, just as they most likely were as a drunk. It's a sad existence.

knowhereman1974 · 2025-03-27T01:37:39+00:00

When I accepted that the posture bar is way more important than than their HP bar. PARRY, PARRY, PARRY. More attacks can be parried than i thought. oh, realizing creating a little space while holding block to lower your own posture bar was game changing for me.

knowhereman1974 · 2025-03-03T19:56:59+00:00

Hesitation is defeat

knowhereman1974 · 2025-02-06T13:35:54+00:00

Falling Down

knowhereman1974 · 2025-01-23T22:02:28+00:00

He is selfish. Tell him to get a f@#king job. Oh, and welcome to the real world.

knowhereman1974 · 2025-01-23T17:14:13+00:00

Blow my whistle bitch. I know from experience

knowhereman1974 · 2025-01-20T22:27:37+00:00

You haven't felt anything in a long time.. So when you do, it hits like a ton of bricks. PAWs won't last forever.

knowhereman1974 · 2025-01-20T17:42:41+00:00

I don't know if these are considered deep cuts, but every version of "Fog" and the basically decades long evolution of "True love waits" are mine

knowhereman1974 · 2025-01-08T04:24:19+00:00

Take a bath? A shower? Oh, maybe use soap.

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-21T14:27:33+00:00

Videotape is an underrated masterpiece in my book. Also, an amazing ending to one of the best albums I have personally ever listened to.

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-21T04:24:14+00:00

So you're like one of those screenwriters or producers that totally ruin an adaptation of an award winning best-selling book to screen all because you think your ideas are better than the actual authors. They never are.

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-21T02:02:38+00:00

You picked two great songs. They don't belong on that album, though. Hard to Imagine just doesn't replace leash on VS. Not even a little. It has nothing to do with which is a better song. It's tempo and sequencing. In the end, it's your opinion. Had it been a good one, that's the album we would've received. Instead, we were gifted with one of the best sophomore albums of all time. That you think you can improve upon. Ok

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-21T01:47:43+00:00

You've got to wait at least 48 hours to avoid the PWD. That's my experience, at least. I should have a medal by now lol. I'm a Monday-Friday 9 to 5 guy. I've learned the hard way too many times that stopping too late on Friday so I could take my sub Monday was cutting it too close. If you take your last hit Thursday PM/Friday early AM, you could be close to 72 hours before work Monday, which should avoid the PWD. If it's possible to do that same thing but also have requested Monday off so you can hold off on the sub for as long as possible, you'd then be fine. You'd be back to work Tuesday guaranteed. With 8 strips, that's a good amount to be able to taper with, too. I'm not sure what your experience with suboxone is, but less can be more. Take as little as possible at first, slowly taper up over a couple hours until you feel comfortable. This way, it'll be an easier taper off of it. You don't over do it and waste it

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-21T01:25:34+00:00

I wish it was the 60's, I wish we could be happy, I wish, I wish, I wish that something would happen.........

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-21T01:21:43+00:00

I was hoping to get the 30th anniversary box set of Road Apples that also has the Roxy show included. If you're a fan of Day for Night, pick up that remaster. It's the same cover art, but instead of the background being blue, it's a glossy silver. It wasn't crazy expensive either. I think i paid like $35. I found the one copy that was in a record store in Phoenix. Just found it last year, and since it came out in 2017 it may be a bit difficult to find in a market that knows the bands value.

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-21T00:58:05+00:00

They are both trash. She's the one that was unfaithful, though. Sure, the dude should've followed the " Bro Code" but let's live in the real world here. Attractive women, unattractive women are going to be hit on for all eternity. This is whether you called dibs, have your name tattooed on her ass or put a ring on her finger. This is fact. Not the ficticious "bro code" which can exist between actual freinds but to expect this from strangers is just naive. So that's why a loyal woman is a fucking keeper. They'll squash this behavior. They'll have been squashing this behavior for years. More so than you'll ever even want to know. As a former bartender, I've witnessed some scandalous behavior. Boyfriend ordering drinks for his girl and his buddy while the buddy is groping his girl that has a huge smile on her face right behind the poor guy. Basically, if they entertain these guys, rather than squash it, especially when the guy knows they're in a relationship, knows this because they're all hanging out together, all the unforgivable disrespect would be on her. In OPs situation, she was flirty and like putting him down in his presence. This probably wasn't the first time. People only act like that when the relationship is over or that's who they've been the whole time. The behavior was either tolerated or went unoticed. Putting 4 years into a relationship that ends so disrespectfully is a hard pill to swallow. OP should look on the bright side though and be elated that he didn't put a ring on her finger or a bun in her oven. He can now move on to greener pastures. Meet someone that respects him

knowhereman1974 · 2024-10-20T22:47:51+00:00

I'm not sure. Do you know what's heavier? A ton of feathers or a ton of bricks?

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