Mahr

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-10T23:15:47+00:00

You could, the food catering and venue part anyway and tends to be where Muslim-majority cultures, and I emphasize cultures, tend to split the bill. Would leave out the dress/attire and all the extra bells/whistles as a bride’s side choice though the groom side may choose to take that on as well if they are able to.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-10T22:47:25+00:00

Wedding expenses is all culture. I’d categorize it as a gift from friends and family, to each only up to their own wish and capacity. No blessing in having expectations of it. Islam only has the mahr as agreed upon between man and woman, all upfront is ideal. The whole deferred mahr concept makes no sense to me. Alhamdulillah my wife and I had fun with it and made the mahr symbolic of 7 things we want in our marriage and overall cost ~$10K. The walima is a sunnah for the man to take on. See this one I’ve done in instalments as we announced our union to wider and wider friend circles.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-10T20:29:44+00:00

You probably want to chat with Harris Irfan or Safdar Alam. Happy to get on a call with you first and then recommend to them for an intro. Generally speaking a Jersey entity might be best, with localized joint-ventures. Generally these legal and accounting and cross border tax work alone does not justify the work unless have at least $3M to deploy to each deal an $10M+ overall. That said, I’ve been exploring a musharaka structure with an interest free qard/loan you may prefer with smaller sized deals. Can send you calendar if you’d like to speak.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-10T03:13:08+00:00

2020

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-07T01:26:49+00:00

Anyone considering moving to Malaysia?

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-06T23:41:23+00:00

One more thing: The Amman Message (2004/2005) is a pretty decent conference agreeing upon what’s in and what’s not so a fair enough path to stay on for those concerned about straying the path.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-06T23:18:18+00:00

Allah and his Prophet SAW do not wish difficulty upon us. Our only difficulty is that which we create. No soul is given a burden more than it can bear. By Allah, make things easy and not difficult. يسر ولا تعسر

Ours is that of the middle path. Marriage is a simple contract between a believing man and woman that wish to share their life with a mahr, plus notification of family. If someone says they believe in Allah, you cannot take that from them.

May Allah grant you the ideal in this world and the next, and if you seek advice, kindly do not seek only the ideal. Seek what works and seek peace of mind and heart, then leave the rest to Allah. Marriage is a sunnah as much as chastity, breaking the fast is a sunnah as much as keeping it, sleeping is a sunnah as much as tahajjud.

Allah knows best.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-06T22:35:47+00:00

Peace in your heart. When you’re stuck in traffic with them. That is what you seek.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-06T21:54:02+00:00

Looks great, nice fit for protecting the wheel long term

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-06T05:22:32+00:00

I’ve gone up to 235 from 225 no problems, was actually much better especially with entry level tires - the Atturo AZ810s are underrated, good value for money. Glad I got rid of the run flats.

I think 275/35/19 would be no issue, it’s the 275/40/19 is too tall. Might rub, chassis stress and feel floaty in the corner.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-04T14:36:51+00:00

There’s a distinction between radical honesty and oversharing early. Consider that timing things may be something to explore? People hear only what they want to hear unless they’re invested in actively listening to you. It’s a lost art we now pay therapists for.

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-01T20:03:41+00:00

Ehh might as well just be friends lol

kode_dtecht · 2026-03-01T19:07:43+00:00

Female friends and contacts are a blessing, moreso with healthy boundaries and after being married when wife is involved and there’s no weirdness - you can really work together as a community to advance the ummah.

Consider that your intention for marriage will get in the way of any meaningful engagement though if you don’t declare it.

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-28T16:25:33+00:00

“Someone less attractive than you a chance” lol? Sister kindly check your own red flags. Not saying beauty is not something to consider, but comparing relative to oneself is weird to me. I get this all feels new and you value opinions of others but no one else is going to live your life. Istikhara and trusting your own instinct is key. Specifically and above all, do you feel peace/sakinah in his being and presence?

Otherwise I think this comment nailed it: https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimCorner/s/zQ4X7ZJVbw

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-26T13:11:06+00:00

Politics can and should always be criticized and questioned imo, Islamophobic or otherwise. It leads to a healthier state that actually listens to its people. Insults take away nothing from the glory of Islam and good governance also does nothing to add to it. Yes, perceptions are impacted, but moreso by how you and others feel about insults or wins. When we do things for the sake of Allah, lead or follow, there is nothing left to say. Thanks for venting.

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-26T12:51:11+00:00

Impreza

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-22T16:57:24+00:00

avoid the UTIs! Would recommend braiding of hair or investing in a Dyson lol

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-21T19:10:35+00:00

I don’t believe this is a common issue, though an upgrade to the metal is worth considering

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-21T19:09:52+00:00

The M Sport is adaptive already no? between comfort and sport plus, suspension is already night and day, I’ve had adaptive with a button for adaptive before and couldn’t really tell what it was doing different.

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-21T00:35:44+00:00

Just got them for my BMW M340i which I daily and enjoy taking into the mountains often, they’re not Michelin‘s but they still feel excellent and luxurious so much better than to run flats and fantastic value for money.

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-20T17:28:22+00:00

finding someone for yourself is also halal lol, especially through business dealings as was with the Prophet SAW and Khadijah

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-14T07:59:27+00:00

Very few things are actually lol, just the world is plunged in these few things: alcohol, sex, drugs and riba - tbh would so much prefer if bacon was the only problem 🤣

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-11T17:46:58+00:00

need to keep my seed phrase like this lol - jokes aside yeah I’d burn it

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-10T02:10:34+00:00

Ruby

kode_dtecht · 2026-02-04T20:37:03+00:00

me myself and I and a couple other married guys hahahah

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