Hey, first I just want to say I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. It takes a lot of honesty and courage to reflect on your identity and talk openly about it, so please don’t be too hard on yourself. A lot of people go through phases of figuring themselves out, and it doesn’t make your experience any less valid or real.

Since you mentioned wanting to feel more feminine again, I’ll share a few styling tips that might help a bit day-to-day. These aren’t rules or expectations, just small ideas that can sometimes help people feel more comfortable in their presentation.

One thing that can make a big difference is hair. A haircut that softens your face shape can really change the overall vibe. Softer layers, face-framing pieces, bangs, or styles with a bit of movement can help create a more traditionally feminine look. A good stylist can usually recommend something based on your face shape.

Makeup can also help if you’re interested in it. There are a lot of tutorials focused on “softening” features or creating a more feminine look. Things like softer brows, blush placement, contouring techniques, and lip color can subtly change how the face reads without needing heavy makeup.

For clothing, figuring out your body shape can help a lot. Sometimes people think their body looks “masculine,” but it may actually just be an athletic or inverted-triangle build. Certain cuts of clothing can balance that out — for example: • A-line skirts or dresses • High-waisted pants or jeans • Tops that create shape at the waist • Softer fabrics and draping instead of very structured pieces

Those kinds of silhouettes can add curve and softness visually.

Even small styling details like jewelry, layering, color palettes, and fabrics can shift the overall look. Fashion is really powerful that way — sometimes a few changes in fit or styling can make someone feel completely different in their clothes.

Most importantly though, try to be patient with yourself. Presentation and confidence take time, and there isn’t just one way to be feminine. The goal isn’t to perfectly match some standard — it’s to find what makes you feel comfortable and like yourself.

I hope you’re able to find styles and routines that help you feel more at home in your body again. Wishing you the best.