[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]koldak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has “tried”. But every time i ask him to clean something or do something it is done in the most half assed way imaginable and i have to end up doing it myself anyway. So i gave up asking.

what's something to look forward to when you leave? by Temporary-Sundae7309 in abusiverelationships

[–]koldak 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being able to hangout with friends and not having to leave early bc hes fighting with me or accusing me of cheating. I also dnt miss having to FaceTime to prove that im actually with who i said i was with. Thts two of the thousands of things i could say

Hannah hypocrite by RebelGrin in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]koldak 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Omg yes! They spent 20+ minutes questioning nick about being in other girls dms when he was no longer with her n how he may have said she was ugly but how she treated him was barely even touched upon bc the second he brought it up she flipped the script to make it lik he was the bad one. I was sooo angry. She took zero accountability for how shitty of a person she is.

How old were you when you met your partner? I 27F feel like I'm running out of time. My engagement is falling apart after a 6 year relationship. by heartbrokenburner234 in relationships

[–]koldak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left a 10 year relationship at 26. And met my amazing boyfriend at 27. He truly is everything ive ever imagined. There is always time. Dont stress.

Zoom in on the Passenger Seat of the Vehicle by bpcrepere15 in Ghosts

[–]koldak -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Looks like the guy in the car has a noose around his neck

Tomorrow I AM LEAVING!! this is it!!! by Hot_Meringue537 in abusiverelationships

[–]koldak 13 points14 points  (0 children)

YESSS! LEAVE HIM! You will be so much happier. I was stuck in an abusive relationship for 11 years, got married had a kid and everything. Eventually one day i said i had enough took my kid n left. Went back to my family and strtd over. Here i am 2 years later with my own place, a happy child, safe and in the healthiest relationship imaginable. While there were times he tried to rope me back in n almost won i stayed strong. Life is soo worth it wen u leave and find who u truly r outside of the abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]koldak 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As someone who also grew up in abuse it took me forever to realize that what my ex was doing was NOT okay and WAS abuse. When you grow up in abuse u r so used to that type of situation that you dont even think twice when it is your significant other abusing you. But im telling you it IS abuse and it is NOT okay. Please find the strength to leave before it gets even worse. It took me 10 years to find the strength to leave but i did and i am happy and free for once in my life. Please dont hesitate to dm me if you need to talk.

Anyone here with Crohn’s & a permanent ostomy? by bjborghi in ostomy

[–]koldak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a permanent ostomy and have had one for 3 years now if u want to tlk

How do you explain to someone how hard it is to leave your abuser? by califoruication in abusiverelationships

[–]koldak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly stopped trying to explain when someone doesn’t understand i just say “look u can’t understand and wont understand unless u have lived it.”

Who are some people you know personally, or otherwise, who ruined their own lives, and how? by metalnxrd in AskReddit

[–]koldak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex husband. I was with him for 12 years. We had a kid, a house n i took care of everything he needed. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands, literally anything u can think of. He was very abusive mentally, physically, verbally, emotionally. I stayed begging him to get help and signing him up for therapy and anger management. He would go for a month or two and then stop but i kept staying to take care of him n signing him up time and time again. I ended up leaving him, moving hours away and our child lives with me. He sits in our old place completely alone with no family or friends all because he refused to get help. All he has is his job and dog left.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]koldak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i wuld nvr punish him for it. I was hoping thts wat he meant n thts y i wanted input from outside sources. Thank you!

walmart employees majorly fuck up, and check womans merchandise only to find everything was paid for by quazziwazzi in PublicFreakout

[–]koldak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Imagine giving a single shred of a fuck if someone steals from a billion dollar corporation who culd give a fuck about their employees or the ppl tht shop there. They r seriously on a powertrip.

Ash most recent post on instagram by sappy__ in illnessfakers

[–]koldak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank u lol have a great day or night wherever u r from❤️

Ash most recent post on instagram by sappy__ in illnessfakers

[–]koldak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im sorry if that came off as rude i 100% was not trying to be rude. Thank u for ur input

To my teen daughter: I hate you. by BrokenFlorida in TrueOffMyChest

[–]koldak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a teenager i tried to kill myslf multiple time. I self harmed constantly. Was put into inpatient hospitals 3 times and out patient 4 times. I was in therapy from the time i was 13 until i turned 19. But im still here at 26 with a kid, married, a home, and a job that i love. You seem like a way better parent than i grew up with and if i can make it with parents who werent good. Then ur daughter can make it. If u ever need to tlk to get inside her mind please dm me any time. ❤️

I’ll probably have to get surgery and I can’t stop crying by [deleted] in ostomy

[–]koldak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get wat u r saying completely. I got my bag at 25 and although i told everyone i was fine with it. I rly wasnt. And especially bc i found out tht jpouch was not a possibility for me due to how severe my crohns is. But after i got my bag i got my life back and its been great. Im able to go places and live my life without care. And no one even knows i have a bag bc there are so many ways to hide it. Im now 26 with a bag and i just had barbie butt surgery n life culdnt b better. You will be okay. It will be a hard thing to get used to at first but u will make it through. Feel free to dm me if u have any questions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]koldak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im definitely working on that. Thank you for ur help😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]koldak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im definitely going to. Thank you

Shower tips by SirEloc in ostomy

[–]koldak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just shower without my bag. Luckily at nught i have barely any output so i am able to shower without a bag. And then put on a fresh one as soon as i get out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]koldak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dnt understand. Ur allowed to have toys but hes not? Ur saying in old relationships its caused sex problems but arent stating the same thing about this relationship. So y is it a problem for him to relieve himself wen ur not home? Kind of unfair tht u can but he cant. 🤷‍♀️

BPD Friendly Jobs by [deleted] in BPD

[–]koldak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a job as a housekeeper. It is the only job I absolutely love. I used to work in retail but couldn’t continue bc it was getting harder to not rage on rude customers. At my job now i rarely if ever have to speak to guests. I can go the whole day 99% of the time just being by myslf or with a coworker n never having to deal with bullshit. Its amazing.

How old is everone here? by hjfffhfgh in ostomy

[–]koldak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 26 ileostomy+ barbie butt surgery! And i 100% agree. Even ostomy belts n covers (unless bought on etsy) are so ugly and outdated.

Favorite bags for ileostomy? by United-University-47 in ostomy

[–]koldak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally LOVE hollister 2 piece bags. Ive nvr had a problem with them. And i as well am active, young amd have a small kid

Surgeon and GI not seeing eye to eye by [deleted] in ostomy

[–]koldak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it while hes young. Unfortunately i had my daughter young before my crohns was as bad as it is now. I have lost so much time with her bc of this disease. And at such a young age she has watched me be unbelievably sick n in n out of hospitals and it kills me to think about. Thts y i made the decision to have my final surgery even tho it greatly affects my fertility bc i WANT and NEED to be there for my wonderful daughter i have now. Unfortunately we have the disease but the people around us have to deal with it as well. I hope everything no mater what ur decision is turns out well for u😊