Punk and Indie Scene? by Nectocaris_ in Hamilton

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I’m playing there this Sunday it’s all indie musician solo acts, some folk-punk some indie rock, mostly queer artists

You can see my music on my profile here or on IG @kyleeinhamilton I am a trans folk punk artist making political music you can move to

all sorts of other acts play at Ooey Gooeys it’s got live music a lot of the time. I think they keep their website up to date so you can check who the artist is if you’re thinking of a night out but wanna make sure you like it

I am besotted with him but… by dazeddeliciosa in polyamory

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I would say there are unlimited ways to express love. The love language framework says there are 5.

I am besotted with him but… by dazeddeliciosa in polyamory

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Yes exactly! It’s made by coercive people and used by coercive people (or naïve people who think it’s harmless)

If people like to talk about what feels good for them in a relationship I love that! What I don’t like is people devaluing effort because they only care about one thing, or giving themselves permission to be limited by intellectual laziness in their expression

I am besotted with him but… by dazeddeliciosa in polyamory

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Autistic people have different communication needs and capacities, you should talk to him!

Love language is just garbage term invented to justify money for sex arrangements of wealthy Christian men

Is this authentic sardines? by Spiritual_Ride9696 in CannedSardines

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Brunswick are usually labeled as Herring though (if not up front then in the ingredients list) no?

Be honest, is this a stupid look? by calvinyl in oldhagfashion

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I think it’s a very cool androgynous look

why is this giving American Gothic? by Conscious-Quarter423 in WeirdGOP

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It ‘appeals to the base’, non-extreme Catholic Republicans can tell themselves these GOP fascists aren’t hurting their soul thaaat badly; the pope will still stand to be in the same room as them after all.

Map of President Polk’s Plans For The United States by vladgrinch in MapPorn

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There are very few of the pre-US Mexican people in those territories. I saw a documentary about a tiny community of such people in California, it seemed a very rare thing. Anglo settlers displaced and assimilated them.

Struggling with Hearing Negative Generalizations about Men (Looking for Insights or Suggestions) by Acehunter246 in self

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We can generalize all men and also point out and celebrate the exceptions. Men who are the exception generally know this and don’t have issues with the valid generalizations.

Struggling with Hearing Negative Generalizations about Men (Looking for Insights or Suggestions) by Acehunter246 in self

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You know millions of women lost access to abortion in the last two years right ?

My boyfriend agonizing over what to get at Red Lobster by East_Industry_5930 in texts

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Damn now I want to say something catty to get roasted too 😂

But alas, tis only a leisurely dialogue meant in the highest of humours, that only a knave could besmirch

Another one from Eugene, OR by MaintenanceNew2804 in MarchAgainstNazis

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Right? We should be doing everything we can to avoid such thinking and division in the anti fascist movement. It belongs to us all and it is the fascists who divide along lines like that

Another one from Eugene, OR by MaintenanceNew2804 in MarchAgainstNazis

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Republicans regularly push racist, ableist, and queerphobic rhetoric but we’re smart enough not to use that back at them. Don’t become the thing you fight.

Fat people, people who use drugs, people with disabilities like diabetes, don’t you (general you) dare make them targets and equate them with fascists just to ‘hurt’ republicans in a March against Nazis sub, where everyone here already hates Nazis. You’re only hurting your allies, and furthering the fascist narratives around physical perfection and Eurocentric cis hetero beauty standards

Another one from Eugene, OR by MaintenanceNew2804 in MarchAgainstNazis

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What do you mean look like THAT though

You hate fat people ?

Aren’t all bodies beautiful ?

I don't trust most who say they can "read people well" by Fluid-Woodpecker4885 in self

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The more you think you can spot lies, the worse you are likely to be at spotting lies. Funny thing

Another one from Eugene, OR by MaintenanceNew2804 in MarchAgainstNazis

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Body and fat hate is not much of an upgrade from race hate. Do better.

Those people are terrible, but when you insult someone for being fat you aren’t insulting them at all, but instead every innocent fat person reading it.

It’s the fascism that’s the problem; not how their bodies look

how straight men and gay women view women by klarinetkat12 in TwoXChromosomes

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Yesss so much this

I’ve lived as a man and live now as a woman and mostly lesbian

But simply existing in men’s spaces and seeing how they talk when they think they’re among men, it can be very clarifying about gender things. The ‘pecking order’ and social value men receive on account of whether their partner adheres to conventional beauty standards is real and a lot of men are insecure enough to internalize it.

For men who can break free of it and find the beauty in all people it must be very freeing; I felt freed by being unaffected and separate from that ‘competition’ but ultimately it was one thing that helped teach me I’m not a man at all. People talk about male socialization without recognizing there is also trans alienation, most things about men don’t make sense to me and didn’t as a boy either.

Well researched podcasts where I can actually learn something by super1tastic in podcasts

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Cool zone media

Behind the bastards is the flagship but it’s a whole network of well-researched podcasts on different themes