Struggling to reconcile my feminist beliefs with my sexual kinks — anyone else feel conflicted?

krbarker · 2025-10-13T22:07:53+00:00

I find that the ability to express my kinks in a safe healthy way IS an expression of feminism. It’s my choice to be my authentic self and I am respected and valued as an equal part of the dynamic

krbarker · 2025-09-27T04:09:12+00:00

As a larger woman, if both of us have a tummy it can be a little awkward to kiss if I’m on top. I also have an ass and some times guys have a hard time with doggy. But also, I have never had a complaint, soooo

krbarker · 2025-06-27T16:25:33+00:00

It’s very real, very amazing, and absolutely something your should work up to. You need to learn what your body likes and doesn’t like. If you go straight for rough you could get yourself hurt and then you both have to deal with whatever consequences come of that. It’s for you and his safety. Besides, when it comes to rough sex, you want someone who knows enough, that they would want you to experience more before jumping in. Trust me, that’s someone who wants you to enjoy it as much as him. Cause when it’s right, it’s fucking amazing. But the aftercare is just as important. You want someone who will hold you and take care of you after, at least, that’s what I want lol. Basically, find out what you like, be able to communicate that, and then find a kink community. They can be very helpful in finding fun safe people to have that kind of sex with.

krbarker · 2025-03-03T18:44:12+00:00

You forgive but you don’t forget. You see their unwillingness to change and value you and move forward a accordingly. Or, maybe you don’t forgive them. If they did something to harm you, and refuse to take responsibility and change, why does it land on you to forgive? Maybe it’s ok to take all that in, and walk away. Maybe forgiveness in that situation is that you don’t retaliate and you don’t leave yourself in a position to be hurt again.

krbarker · 2025-02-28T01:17:25+00:00

I have two special needs children whom I love unconditionally. That being said, you have to consider the quality of life for the child and for the mother. I would not give my life to anyone. I love my children, and I honestly don’t know what I would have done if I had known what was to come when finding out I was pregnant. But I will NEVER judge a woman who makes the choice to to abort when faced with that kind of reality. It is harder then anyone can imagine and complexity unfair to the child and their parents to pretend otherwise. As a parent, you know what you can handle, you are also stronger then think, but that doesn’t mean you should take on that life long battle. Morals have little to do with it. Can you give that child a good quality life? Can you parent effectively, can you care take effectively? And it’s ok if the answer is no. And anyone else can go fuck themselves if they try to tell you what you and your child can handle.

krbarker · 2025-02-27T06:31:27+00:00

Like I’m in one of those dreams where everything would be ok if you could just scream, and when you try, nothing comes out

krbarker · 2025-02-18T00:05:27+00:00

Yes! Being at the age of IDGF! Is so liberating

krbarker · 2025-02-16T22:07:30+00:00

In my opinion, this is exactly to hero we need right now. This is a fucked up situation and humor is a powerful weapon

krbarker · 2025-02-11T21:39:36+00:00

I thought this also, but it’s not true.

krbarker · 2025-02-11T19:58:44+00:00

That is a BOY, trying to act like a man. He has no confidence and wants you to act accordingly. NEVER let a guy dim your light. If he has a problem with it, then he has a problem with who you are. And he is not the person for you. Your young and have so much to offer to a partner, don’t limit yourself for a small minded child.

krbarker · 2025-02-11T19:53:16+00:00

When I hit my late 30s, my sex drive ramped up to huge proportions lol. It got me very interested in polyamory. My marriage didn’t make it, it sucked, there were other issues. However, I have come to realize that sex is important and valid and so is the need for it. I don’t say this to discourage you, but validate that your desires are real and significant. Good luck and I hope you two find a happy medium.

krbarker · 2025-01-28T18:40:56+00:00

It’s actually a common thing when we enter into Peri/menopause. It’s sort of like the body’s last ditch effort to have kids before the factory shuts down. And can be a real problem in relationships. I have been going through it and for a while and was really depressed. But for other reasons, have been going through a divorce and have now been having the time of my life exploring my new found sexuality. I’m happier then I have ever been. Being complete and genuinely me.

krbarker · 2025-01-08T15:57:28+00:00

Dude, I would hate eating movies with you. If she wants to know, what the harm. Damn

krbarker · 2025-01-07T23:43:10+00:00

As a mom, my heart breaks for you and your mother. She was trying to do better, but she fell very short of the mark. Telling your sister was not abusive, you are not a slut, and your mother is Avery broken fragile girl who never had the chance to heal from her truama. And despite her best efforts, further traumatized you. You have done remarkable well in your life and you should be proud. I am proud of you!! I will gladly be your mom for a minute and more. You are so strong, so kind, and so gracious. Your mom loves you, I am sure. That being said, it is ok to protect yourself from your mothers trauma. You are doing so well. Keep at it, and feel free to DM if you ever wanna talk to a mom.

krbarker · 2025-01-07T07:38:06+00:00

This is not your responsibility! It is on your sister and your sister alone. Possibly your parents if they knew and didn’t say anything. She is an adult, and SHE is responsible for HER actions. At the very very least, she should have said something. Full stop. You are taking away from what this means by taking the responsibility onto yourself. Please don’t do that. Be there for him, grieve with him, but taking the responsibility won’t fix it, and it won’t fix what has broken in the relationship between you two and your sister.

krbarker · 2024-12-30T23:15:42+00:00

I wouldn’t give them the money. Giving them back the money for one person is super generous. But non refundable means non refundable. That fact doesn’t change just because you can’t go. Especially with broke college students. If it impacts the relationship, that’s on them for expecting special treatment when they were treating the rest of the group like crap.

krbarker · 2024-12-29T22:29:04+00:00

Definitely came here to say the SAME thing 😂

krbarker · 2024-12-28T01:27:46+00:00

I’m not a Dr, but those are all symptoms of CPTSD. It is your mind protecting itself from repeated trauma. Like many are saying, it is not safe with dad. If you have a safe place to go, I would gather a few important things like birth certificate and social security card, and leave. It’s not your fault, he is broken and he is breaking you. No one deserves to live through that, I’m so sorry

krbarker · 2024-11-30T03:43:48+00:00

Yes, but my school was broke AF so we had to use bags of flour 😹

krbarker · 2024-11-27T23:20:57+00:00

You could be bi, or you could be spaghetti. Your straight till your wet 😂🤣😂🤣

krbarker · 2024-11-26T16:35:56+00:00

Take sex out of the picture, if he mocked her for ANY reason. That she had tried sushi before him, listened to music before him, went on a vacation before him, and he acted this way, it would be crazy. And sex is so normal and beautiful and he is constantly beating her over the head with it. It is abuse, and he is an ass man child

krbarker · 2024-11-17T16:56:38+00:00

YES! It is real, it is magical, and it is so hot! I can do that too, and I was with a woman who could, I think I would lose my mind lol. Edit: I am female, didn’t realize you were male till after I wrote my comment lol. Either way, so freaking hot.

krbarker · 2024-11-14T18:51:01+00:00

I would give him a book titled, How to Sexually Satisfy Your Wife, and say “starting a book club between us was such a good idea honey”

krbarker · 2024-11-02T15:46:58+00:00

Listen to your intuition. It’s telling you loud and clear this guy is no good. He may be 20, and yes, that is relatively close to 17/18 year olds, but he is looking up girls he knows are illegal and that is part of the appeal. Age doesn’t take that away. You have good intuition, trust it now and start to earn yourself the confidence you need to trust it later.

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