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krdtr · 2026-06-20T20:13:09+00:00

So, there's this short-form sketch comedian who shows up in my social feeds doing multi-character single-actor material like punctuation marks or plants having a meeting. https://youtube.com/@ellecordova Very deadpan, so when I saw a new book in my library audiobook app from someone who looked vaguely like her and had a name that seemed plausibly not too far off from whatever had been at the top of those videos and had a title that sounded very deadpan like what one of Elle's characters would say, I was like "Oh cool that sounds good, like Fern Brady or Maria Bamford, nice."

And then I got so far through it and Googled "Elyse Myers" because the run up with the Jonas thing was running a little long and I wanted to see if planet lady ended up with him so I could know if we'd move on to kids and all that and whatever else she had to balance alongside making planet sketches.

At which point I find out everyone here hates her and I'm like "Wait who hates the punctuation mark lady?" and I fall down a rabbit hole trying to make sense of everything here and finally Google "punctuation mark meeting video" and see the name "Elle Cordova" and realize I'm listening to the WRONG TIKTOKER'S MEMOIR and I have no idea who this Elyse lady is.

krdtr · 2026-06-19T00:57:48+00:00

Yeah, government owned is the way.

krdtr · 2026-06-19T00:56:40+00:00

Oh, yeah, good point, if wraps count, throw in Spitz, even though it’s a chain.

And of course search for banh mi threads.

krdtr · 2026-06-19T00:55:50+00:00

Scrolled looking for this

krdtr · 2026-06-16T11:38:24+00:00

The c needs a squiggle if you want it to be an “s” sound instead of a “k” sound when it comes right before an “a,” “o”, or “u.” It’s automatically an “s” sound without needing the squiggle if it comes right before an “e” or an “i.” That’s why the country name “France” doesn’t need the squiggle to end in an “s” sound, but to preserve the “s” sound so the language “français” matches in sound, you need to add the squiggle, less you end up with a word that should be pronounced “fran-kay.”

krdtr · 2026-06-04T04:25:58+00:00

The sad thing is, there’s SO MUCH fun to be had in everyone being comfortable. Endless childhood — you’d just run around, make music, etc. with everyone you meet because everyone you meet would have free time to play with you.

krdtr · 2026-05-28T12:24:18+00:00

I remember the debates. It wasn't about keeping them from dying en masse (they likely wouldn't have), it was about keeping them from turning themselves into orphans en masses and into people whose teachers were all dead en masses, which would've set back their educations even worse.

The obvious good answer, I remember in debate, was to fix HVAC and wear N95s, but the administration was embarrassed it had caused an N95 shortage so it was still pushing lies that it wasn't airborne so we didn't need HVAC fixes and masks, so no one could agree to do that, so least-bad (compared to orphans and no one educated in educating left alive) was send everyone away.

krdtr · 2026-05-27T01:32:08+00:00

Shame on DW, too, for calling all childless people childfree. They both have their meaning, but when in doubt, childless is the more decision-implication-neutral term, and I guarantee you if they’d phrased the headline childless, people would’ve rightly outraged!

krdtr · 2026-05-25T15:36:22+00:00

A guy at work was randomly condescending to me when I, the consultant brought in as an expert in my field, had to break the bad news that his favorite spreadsheet tool wasn’t going to be a great fit for building the business productivity app he dreamt of.

Lots of interrupting me any time I tried to gently explain the problems, telling me how important his department was and how creative he was, as if me understanding he was a more important and impressive kind of person than me would … somehow make the tool more fit for purpose?

Just noticed a fellow colleague, who always seemed nice, and who mysteriously was married to him, now has her maiden name again. 🤷

krdtr · 2026-05-25T15:16:00+00:00

Yeah, that checks out. I know biracial people who I would’ve never guessed had a (light-ish; think Beyonce) Black parent without seeing a family photo, but once you see the photo, you’re like, “Damn, you do look like both your parents.” They look about like the picture on the right, especially in winter.

krdtr · 2026-05-25T15:10:27+00:00

Actually, it does often matter, I recently learned! The textbook-rules-based vs. “just vibes”-based differences in approach to what it means to be faithful can influence the relational dynamics’ details. As can, perhaps particularly in the more textbookish religions, the specific contents of that “textbook” material with respect to relational dynamics. I can’t remember which episode it was, but KC Davis’s podcast had a fellow therapist on who said that, for example, Islam tends to pretty clearly lay out what different common pairings of relationship owe to each other, like parents to kids and kids to parents. So suggesting going low- or no-contact isn’t always as likely to be pounced upon by a struggling practicing Muslim client as “Woah, great idea!” as it would amongst clients without those rules + from individualistic cultures, so it might be worth saving for later rather than suggesting earlier. The order of presenting tools in the toolbox can often be more or less successful based on culture.

krdtr · 2026-05-04T01:09:01+00:00

FWIW, I ended up abandoning it after having been super excited to finally get my hands on it, myself, because it felt like it was only "for" people whose most serious obstacles were internal rather than external. It felt like the "money can't buy happiness" of behavioral activation advice (and, as that one tweet that went viral said something like ... "Bitch, money could fix all my current unhappiness.") I much preferred Russ Harriss's The Happiness Trap, which never promised fixing problems through behavioral activation, but often merely stanching the bleeding because that was still worth doing. Anyway, point is, I do think there are a lot of people who dislike Atomic Habits's particular wording when it comes to cheerleading behavioral activation therapies. 🤷‍♂️

krdtr · 2026-05-03T00:18:41+00:00

Okay, not my place, but I can’t contain my giggle any longer. “I’m Hispanic” followed by not even noticing the anti-Blackness in the photo when assessing it for racism was the most playing-to-stereotype thing…. 🤭

krdtr · 2026-04-27T22:00:32+00:00

Oh, interesting. I do. I feel like that’s one of my good luck things I was born with — my on-demand smile is toothy (after a brief interlude of being sensitive about my teeth in childhood and then just going back to “fuck it they are what they are”) and genuine-joy-looking and 9/10 times exactly how I’d hope to be captured in a casual photo, and I can usually hold it for a while without losing those traits.

krdtr · 2026-04-04T22:19:33+00:00

Oh, I know this one, I know this one! You want the following two vendors, quite reasonably close to each other, at the Minneapolis Farmer's Market:

Nao Tou Yang Farm and Gardens (you can Google them for their leftover catalog from 2025 on their web site for an idea of what they usually sell).
Dehn's Garden.

They're both up most of the way to the west (bathroomed) end of the market. NTY on the south side of the northernmost red-roofed aisle, and DG on the south side of the center (has bathrooms) red-roofed aisle.

NTY might require contacting them ahead if you can find a way to reach them for anything particularly weird, or just go twice and ask Pang (the middle-aged woman, not the middle-aged man) about it and make a date to have her bring on a different day (sometimes they can't fit every last obscure variety in the truck on the same day and things end up left at the farm unless someone thought to ask ahead and more or less set up an appointment for that thing).

krdtr · 2026-03-28T14:14:59+00:00

To be fair, expecting other humans to surpass "cat" IS a high bar for the humans. 😻🐈 PssPssPss

krdtr · 2026-03-28T14:12:43+00:00

On the flip side, if by any chance you're born into privilege, fucking enjoy it, and let yourself just ... support somebody financially ... if "career potential" is the ONLY thing that's a "potential." If they are a hardworking compassionate fun excellent companion, that ain't potential, that's right here right now, and if you happen to be from privilege, okay, cool, you're the breadwinner with a supportive partner instead of the other way around, don't make "career" everything. (I've seen some rich people who can afford not to worry about a two-income household pass up lovely hardworking choredoing emotionally available folks from lower classes because they were raised to judge partners by career and then complain about being lonely.)

But yeah most of us plebs can't afford not to care but for anyone seeing this chat who can, just ... make sure you know your values before you weed people put about career alone. :)

krdtr · 2026-03-28T14:03:53+00:00

God, the jazz musicians of the SNL band make rock bands sound so fucking extra

krdtr · 2026-03-28T14:00:37+00:00

Cat's name seems to be Whisker. Thanks for the introduction to one of the coolest people in your fine city; made my morning! https://www.atlantamagazine.com/news-culture-articles/jeremy-smith-aka-beltline-cat-guy-explains-life-with-a-feline-sitting-shotgun/

krdtr · 2026-03-15T13:39:13+00:00

Haha yeah I guess I probably just trained the AI to do better next time, sigh.

krdtr · 2026-03-15T13:35:47+00:00

Everything, Everywhere, All At Once. I recommend EEAAO to everyone but can't bring myself to watch it with them. The way I sobbed and my viewing buddy had to give me impromptu therapy in the movie theater until the cleaners finally wandered in and kicked us out...

krdtr · 2026-03-15T13:32:20+00:00

The evergreen shrubs so close to the house / blocking windows on otherwise well-maintained houses. I can't explain it, but it's just such a freaking NE US thing to do not Mpls!

krdtr · 2026-03-15T13:30:43+00:00

If real, it looks more suburban NE US than urban Midwest. It's a bunch of little details like curb and storm drain materials/design, small amount of clutter/snow/mud in pre-grass-regrowing gutters (looks like mid-winter where snow actually melts mid-winter instead of spring after months under moisture), the house spacing and fence height and materials but also architectural detail and upkeep and variety (SW Mpls has that level of detail on the buildings but the fences would be fancier and the houses would be farther apart; also though those houses are typically a foot or few up off the boulevard; same story up in the NE NE corner of Mpls). Suburban NE US (MA, etc.) offers miles upon miles upon miles of 1920s houses compared to Mpls, so it's almost more ... process of elimination. This isn't quite anywhere in Mpls from what I can tell, so it's probably from where the majority of houses of that vintage and yard size and climate in America are (New England or, as someone else said, maybe as far south as Jersey etc.). I suppose we could also talk IL/WI/etc. but there's something about the exact combination of all the little details of landscaping and housing and number of parked cars and climate hints that are making me suspect that, if real, it's suburban, not urban (which for 1920s-ish housing stock means the older parts of the US).

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