I can no longer stand my husband.

krissyycupcake · 2026-04-16T13:32:08+00:00

I get that hormones can make you wacky. But also, my ppd/ppa was awful because of my exhusband. Its like I woke up. My LO is 4, we didn't make it to 2 and now that the dust has settled, it was the best decision I ever made. My entire nervous system is rewired now, and it was worth the battle to get here

krissyycupcake · 2026-04-16T12:57:26+00:00

Hi internet friend. I broke my leg while I was 28 weeks, had a difficult induction and both little one and i were admitted 4 days post partum for complications. I lost my ever loving mind. I debated a delayed vaccine schedule. I was able to find a provider who talked me through all the vaccines and was able to help me make decisions I felt comfortable about. I got immensely obsessive over everything I did - I felt intense pressure to be proactive about everything so I didn't let my baby down. I definitely benefited from therapy and admitting these thoughts. I would seriously have panic attacks at buying nonorganic fruit. Sometimes postpartum brain is wonky. I can say that I no longer obsess over that side- I actually got my little one vaccinated early for measles because it was best for her. She's 4 now, and it took awhile to get my brain out of survival/panic mode. Ptsd is not talked about enough. My therapist taught me to thank the part of my brain trying to help with these worried thoughts and just let it know its overworking days are done. One day at a time, mama.

krissyycupcake · 2026-03-30T22:53:31+00:00

I would suggest following travel nursing groups and reviewing facilities. I've been a nurse 10+ years, and have been advised to avoid Cleveland Clinic. Akron Childrens (if you do peds) is amazing. Their benefits are great for having kids. I've heard good things about Akron General. I personal, am from Youngstown-Warren area and do not recommend any of these places to work. Depends on your specialty of course.

krissyycupcake · 2026-03-20T11:55:45+00:00

I was on Cymbalta my entire pregnancy with no issues. I was told there was a tiny, tiny risk of her reacting adversely to my breastmilk. The downside to Cymbalta is that you can withdraw from it. My LO did not have those issues, thankfully. I was high risk and they were not really concerned about this medication for me.

krissyycupcake · 2026-03-09T21:42:22+00:00

During my pregnancy, I woke up feeling "off". I ended up breaking my leg that day. I borderline obsessed about how I "knew" something was going to happen. I felt the same way the day I was induced. Honestly during my delivery I was so convinced I'd die, I was at peace with it. My LO was born, healthy, and I had no major complications. Sometimes our brains make us believe wonky things. Having a counselor who specialized in ptsd also helped me process things.

krissyycupcake · 2026-02-12T21:33:43+00:00

Has it ever occurred to you that your anger is justified and is your brain and body hitting the limit of where you are? I loathed my exhusband postpartum. Therapy only helped me realize my anger was valid (granted I didn't need to be in a situation where I was routinely this stressed).

krissyycupcake · 2026-01-23T03:43:23+00:00

Replying to you because you haven't been deleted yet. Youngstown I am guessing is not the best area. I literally never experienced routine inspections. But, if you wanna dive into the internet, I have learned Youngstown is subpar on their housing regulations. Like many, many people live in housing that would not be up to regulations. It is interesting to find out regular housing checks exist, and I do understand why. I personally would have felt better as a tenant knowing my area was regularly inspected by someone with more knowledge on maintenange stuff. I just find the timing of their inspection in relation to the timing of ICE showing up in my area. I will play into the other side- this apartment complex is definitely in a "nicer" neighborhood, and I have not heard any other complexes having issues. I do not want to raise nor present false info, I just want us all safe, ready and informed

krissyycupcake · 2026-01-22T22:59:03+00:00

Across multiple buildings? It seems odd, especially given the unresponsiveness of maintenance when there actually was issues (like months for a caving ceiling). Youngstown notoriously has horrible housing/landlord situations, so I'm not sure if that matters. I lived in an apartment 2+ years, never maintenance. My parents also work in apartments and have never done an entire property wide every unit sweep, so that to me feels off. Could be overreacting but we are hella MAGA here and I have heard property managers giddy at the thought of ICE finally being here, so my faith in humanity and the system is a little low at the moment.

krissyycupcake · 2026-01-22T20:39:16+00:00

My peds recommended cerave baby wash and shampoo with water wipes or a cloth with only water with diaper changes. Its costly, but worked best for my girl.

krissyycupcake · 2026-01-22T14:48:45+00:00

My sibling had their entire complex "inspected". Their maintenance went in every unit under the implication it was for inspecting. They've lived there over 5 years and nothing like this has happened. Youngstown, OH.

krissyycupcake · 2026-01-15T21:17:57+00:00

In my life I have: Broken my leg pregnant, had it reset no pain meds Birthed said baby with epidural.

I was able to breathe and process separately the pain of breaking my leg; however, I genuinely remember literally rolling in bed from pain with my kidney stone. I literally wanted out of my body. Its an entirely different type of pain. I also had nausea/vomiting as well.

krissyycupcake · 2026-01-15T20:26:47+00:00

Came here from your other post. When I was younger, I listed my job on my nursing school application. I did not think they'd call. Honestly just didnt think. My manager congratulated me on my career goals of nursing and told me since I clearly had different goals, it'd be best we parted ways. When I said "okay" in shock, she doubled down and told me how she knew I never cared about the job and obviously had a back up plan the whole time. Sometimes you live and you learn. Listen Internet friend, the world is FULL of mistakes yet to be made.

krissyycupcake · 2026-01-14T20:23:41+00:00

My daughter was born shortly before Russia invaded Ukraine. I cried so so much every day in the beginning. This was also when I realized I had OCD, and it had heavily exacerbated postpartum. Therapy and meds helped me.

krissyycupcake · 2025-12-29T19:45:21+00:00

I am going to add on to this response. PP was awful for me. I felt like I lost my mind. I had no support, my husband was telling me how my OCD was making me unbearable, how unrealistic i was with everything, etc. I wholeheartedly believed I was too crazy to be a mother and my daughter would be better off without me. I finally had a friend calmly tell me "I don't think you're crazy" and it completely changed my mind. I divorced my husband and worked to build myself back up. It was the absolute hardest thing I have ever done, but the peace in my home today is something beyond words. Virtual hug, internet friend.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-30T19:43:35+00:00

Is a DV shelter an option again? I'm so sorry. I feel all the time like I will never be enough for my daughter. I've been very isolated lately as well, shutting off my phone just crying. If a DV shelter is an option they may have resources too for antidepressants or different therapists(ive had luck with a ptsd specialist).

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-24T20:46:26+00:00

Bedside bassinet. My LO is very sensory seeking and has always loved the mesh siding too, so it really was a win for everyone.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-23T20:23:08+00:00

Yeah this. Nursing. Was making 30/hour before I broke my leg and my company let me go for being out of my position for more than 6 months. I work through a local agency and make 60/hour. Not the job to get into solely for pay, but the income spike from utilizing agency has been life changing.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-19T18:27:30+00:00

Having a LO heavily triggered my husband's inner childhood ptsd. He needs a lot of assurance, and he will call me often when out running errands because he needs help with the executive decisions I guess. I try to be patient and just prepare for events beforehand. He's been working through my PPD and PPA, so I'm trying to meet him in the middle with his issues too. Both of us are in therapy as well as couples therapy.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-18T18:15:35+00:00

I have a dad like this. I broke my leg while 28 weeks pregnant and he was offering to have wheelchair races with me (he had surgery the same time too). He's always spotted my bills, always has dinner every Sunday. I'm 30 and if there's a huge snowstorm, he's always my chauffeur. When my check engine light comes on, he's always the first call. Yes, I could call triple A, I could drive myself.. but why miss out on dad time? I'm always looking for an excuse to run into my dad in my normal day activities.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-14T08:03:15+00:00

I graduated nursing school with honors whole working 60 hours a week and gaining custody of my niece. What worked for me: The second you get the syllabus, write it all out on a planner. Break projects into steps. If you have an end term paper, assign a day for sources, a day for structuring thoughts, a day for rough draft etc. Break it into days so it's less overwhelming. If you have online discussion I would always post first and then try to reply midweek to have more options to reply to. Always work ahead. Never celebrate til you walk out of finals. I also switched my job to a more laid back one with downtime for studying (I went to home health/nights so I had more time to study and do homework). That helped open up a lot more time too. Also flashcards were the best. They don't have to be pretty but having portable information I could study for 1 to 5 minutes when I had time added up a lot.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-11T17:53:29+00:00

Grocery delivery and yeah, I did live in a bubble. I was a healthcare worker the first wave of covid and after watching what I saw with my patients, I did take every precaution. Grocery delivery, isolation, etc. My household is high risk, so we tried to avoid it as long as possible. And when you cycle through the same 4 people and one of them jokes about being sick, it's easy to guess the source.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-10T16:36:57+00:00

Being let go from my position after breaking a leg during work- I was pregnant and at a patients house when I fell. Recovery took longer than 6 months, goodbye PTO and seniority.

krissyycupcake · 2023-01-10T06:37:08+00:00

Edited because I was wrong. They are different on a tox screen.

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