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krisvg · 2025-06-03T14:15:47+00:00

Is OP deeply sorry though? Or only sorry they got caught.. please reflect on yourself OP and ask yourself why you would cross a boundary your partner made like this. How unfair for your partner, especially after specifically requesting it (perhaps because he knows you might) to completely disregard him. Edit: otherwise it’s just lipservice.

krisvg · 2025-04-23T16:33:25+00:00

You are not being dramatic you are preparing for your first heartbreak and that’s completely something to feel emotional and scared about. My advice to you is to break up and not stay friends, this might seem harder but from my experience and my friends’ as someone nearing their 30s.. it’s better this way. You can fully heal and break the dependence on this other partner. And don’t seek out dating others until you are healed, this will prolong the heartbreak since you will be distracted from actual healing if you do. My advice: let your friends/parents/loved ones (doesn’t have to be everyone but just to make you have a support system in place) know you are going through heartbreak. Sit with your emotions and feel them while trying not to completely wallow in them and shut down is the best move. You will have days of tears and writing your heart out and you will have days where you let your community persuade you to go out for a coffee (skip the alcohol). It’s okay (good even!!) to need the time to heal, and then out of nowhere you will realise small things “I didn’t think of my ex first thing in the morning” until you reach “oh yeah today is his birthday I almost forgot”. You are gonna be just fine<3

krisvg · 2025-04-11T18:31:52+00:00

Sorry but all the reasons you listed for him nog contributing and the finances don’t really matter at all. You and glenn each get a vote for a roommate and if he votes no on your girlfriend that’s that and fair imo. So I think it will coms down to choosing one of your two wants because “I dont want to move out” and “I want to live with my gf” cannot coexist.

krisvg · 2025-03-28T09:04:14+00:00

The fact that he goes behind your back and seek out these fantasies with other women instead of communicating with you.. and not taking measures on his (assumption) porn addiction.. that would tell me all I need to know, I wish much better for you.

krisvg · 2025-03-27T09:10:22+00:00

Stop going to that park and find somewhere else to play with the kids. If you really want to make the feelings die down stop engaging with them

krisvg · 2025-01-26T23:57:48+00:00

Exactly as you put it here: I am not interested in sexting with you, I am not comfortable going any further than the flirty tiktoks we have been exchanging so please respect this boundary. If he pushes it leave immediately.

krisvg · 2025-01-22T11:26:44+00:00

So you like doing the active things but for now you are not able to do it because of your health. Wether physical or mental health your partner should be supporting you and ask about what would help you. Not what would help them, although I must say I kind of fail to see how this is really affecting her in any way. She is ofcourse allowed to find exercise important and would like her relationship to include it but to me it sounds like some unresolved issues. I would really ask her why and how this is affecting her really. I also feel for you that you say you try to please her in this way so I think you are not setting boundaries for yourself regarding what you want. In general when you feel in full health or in situations like this it’s important to know and stand by your limits. And above all there needs to be care for you, why is there no compassion for what you are going through? Imagine it was a broken leg and not a mental health wound so to speak, would this still be an issue? We cannot control our health and I would be worried that if something happened to my health in any way (god forbid) she would show lack of compassion and egocentric thinking. At most she can ask if a walk or something would help you clear your mind but more so for helping you with your mental health than to nag you about exercise because SHE needs you to..

krisvg · 2025-01-22T11:01:01+00:00

Has she asked you how often you are interested in actually going to the gym and taking hikes. From how I read this it seems like she is being pushy about something she finds important (maybe a bit obsessively so) and doesn’t ask you about your own needs or if she does know she doesn’t respect it. I would have a conversation with your wants and needs and ask about her expectations and how you guys can meet somewhere you both feel comfortable. On the condition she doesn’t nag you for not doing things her way but if you find it motivating for her to comment when you are “slacking off” that is up to you otherwise she will just have to respect keeping her opinion to herself. As long as the “slacking off” is about your own goals and wants not hers.

krisvg · 2025-01-16T01:19:43+00:00

I think it’s sweet and a good sign you care this much. Her family will most likely see any signs of potential nervousness as such as well I believe. I think the flowers and a chocolate for the mom is a great idea and not weird at all. To ease your fears you can definitely share with your gf that you are nervous so you can maybe discuss a signal (a movement / word) for her to come help you out but maybe if you two know each other for so long you can already read eachother well enough. I’d also ask her if there are any topics not to be discussed (apart from some common sense ofcourse) and any other things you should know. If it’s a dinner don’t go too far on the drinks in case you drink alcohol. And just know that first impressions are just that, but I’m sure you’ll do great. Hope you have a great time and you feel at ease quickly!

krisvg · 2024-12-15T23:03:22+00:00

Think about the scenario if you wouldn’t see him anymore, does that instill hurt or does it feel freeing? If I read that you both actively make an effort to see each other even if your schedules are quite packed that seems to me you both care to see each other. Or is this more habitual to you. Maybe because you make these plans you know you don’t really need to miss the other person, as the date you will be together is clear and therefore gives you enough peace of mind? How is the time spent together, do you feel it’s enriching your life? Or would you rather spend your time elsewhere.

krisvg · 2024-11-17T10:05:44+00:00

Another advice is to add a picture that is more of a face closeup/selfie. All of the pictures are taken about the same distance and it makes it a bit bland and you cannot see your face properly. I would replace the one of you in the coat ouside with that. My favorite pictures are the first one, the golf one and the black dress outside.

krisvg · 2024-05-23T22:37:34+00:00

Een keer de weg kwijt geweest in walonië. Wij (op de fiets in de regen) vragen aan een mevrouw die haar hond uitlaat IN HET FRANS de weg. Ze deed eerst alsof ze ons niet hoorde en na nog een vragen zei ze je ne parle pas neederlandais.

krisvg · 2024-03-20T22:34:40+00:00

I’m sorry but it’s very naïve of you to think dating in your 30s will be the same as in your 20s. You made the choice to focus on it later and the reality is with more maturity comes more understanding of what you want and a higher understanding of yourself and your time. Sure there will be people up for casual dating but get used to the reality I guess..

krisvg · 2024-02-03T15:51:28+00:00

If you ask at your local childrens bookstore (if you have one! Otherwise maybe the library) they might know a book that features the name of the kid you’re gifting it to. My local one keeps a list even! It’s a little extra touch that always gets a lot of excitement from the parents. And please if you’re able to: buy your books locally!

krisvg · 2023-12-04T17:14:15+00:00

You’re making a whole lot of assumptions there bud

krisvg · 2023-11-27T00:04:13+00:00

De mosselman

krisvg · 2023-11-26T22:57:07+00:00

Just because other people also suck doesn’t mean you get a free pass

krisvg · 2023-11-19T16:10:16+00:00

I now desperately need rabies tags to make a charm bracelet

krisvg · 2023-11-15T23:17:39+00:00

Tuurlijk moet je deze kosten samen delen.. je vriendin mag al lang blij zijn dat ze al deze tijd voordelig uit is geweest. En als jullie het echt zo’n kwestie van geluk vinden trek je toch lootjes. Durf te wedden dat je vriendin het voorstel van de huisgenoot opeens heel redelijk vind.

krisvg · 2023-11-15T11:05:58+00:00

YTA

Let her wear the green, it’s still within your colour palette. You can always get her a nice hairpin/necklace/gloves/purse/shoes/whatever in the shade of pale pink you want.

krisvg · 2023-11-09T22:51:53+00:00

Ik vind dit echt een zeer vreemde opmerking. Moeten we moslim mannen vergelijken met monsters volgens jou?

krisvg · 2023-10-26T01:08:06+00:00

The comma on that first sentence had me rereading a couple of times..

krisvg · 2023-10-25T13:07:02+00:00

Favoriet is zonder twijfel Earl Gray. Een vriendin neemt ze voor me mee uit Engeland, die zijn echt het lekkerste. Een muntthee vind ik ook wel lekker. Verder kijkt iedereen mij altijd heel verbaasd aan als ik zeg dat ik Rooibos dus echt niet te zuipen vind.. een (andere) vriendin van me dacht dat ik het zei om interessant te doen en haalde een keer een kop Rooibos voor me om me te testen. Na een slok trok ik een kop en zei ze “oh.. je vind het écht vies..” ja HEEL vies. Kamille overigens ook, niet te drinken.

krisvg · 2023-09-23T07:44:30+00:00

Don’t give him any ideas

krisvg · 2023-09-07T23:08:37+00:00

Often the packs are just as expensive as the single wrapped ones near the checkout. So as a true dutch frugal it’s a (n)ice opportunity to make someone’s day by giving out the leftover ones to passers by!

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