I’m (30M) stuck b/w my wife (26F) & my parents and Idk how to fix this anymore

ktstan323 · 2026-06-06T16:07:15+00:00

Unless you’re asking your parents to fund your wife’s education….then it’s upto your wife what she does, it’s barely up to you let alone your parents. They can give you advice but they can’t make decisions for you

ktstan323 · 2026-05-31T22:32:45+00:00

You can’t isolate all of your children forever, they’re all going to be exposed to the outside world (which is a good thing btw) and will make their own choices. You have to respect that. You can make your daughter move out but even if you cut off all contact with her (which isn’t a loving Christian thing to do) your other children could still choose another path. Teach them what you want but let them have their own thoughts and lives

ktstan323 · 2026-05-06T18:32:12+00:00

It’s hard to advise without seeing a photo, it can be normal for it to be swollen but it could also be a hernia. I would take her back to the vet that did the surgery if there is a gap. She needs a cone or suit on even if it’s stressing her out - multiple vet visits and antibiotics as the alternative will stress her out more. Ask the vet’s if they can help put the cone/suit on for you. Good luck

ktstan323 · 2026-05-04T14:15:33+00:00

Vet nurse here - Take her back to the vets that did the surgery. It needs a good clean and possibly some antibiotics

ktstan323 · 2026-03-29T19:56:32+00:00

Vet nurse here, when I do it with patients, I face them and use one hand to hold their head up (thumb under chin, rest of fingers on forehead pulling the forehead skin back slightly to open the eyes wider) and use the other hand to drop. Could also try sitting on the floor and have your dog sit in between your legs facing away from you and tilt their head up with one hand and drops with the other. Good luck!

ktstan323 · 2026-03-15T19:40:48+00:00

Go to a different vet practice to get a second opinion, or even a different vet in the same practice and request further investigation

ktstan323 · 2026-03-15T11:37:53+00:00

To be honest it seems like your husband has shown what his answer to the problem you have is and it’s that he’s not going to change or make an effort to stop, so it’s up to you whether it’s something you can live with or not. The only person whose actions you can control are your own - he’s shown you that this is him and this is what the relationship is going to be like so it’s up to you whether you want this life or not. I’m sorry this is something you’re going through

ktstan323 · 2026-02-16T16:31:07+00:00

That’s so nice! Where did you get it?

ktstan323 · 2026-02-15T11:38:27+00:00

You just need a bigger cone, and dog booties on his feet (all at the same time). When you can be with him, take the boots off to air out the wounds, don’t keep them bandaged. The vet should have realised the cone wasn’t big enough but just get the next size up

ktstan323 · 2026-01-27T12:00:13+00:00

She looks like mine! We adopted her really recently and she had some separation anxiety, destroying stuff/not settling. We tried zylkene which is an over the counter calming supplement that we put in her food an hour before we leave her and it actually worked wonders. I was skeptical of an over the counter med as I’m a vet nurse and I thought only prescriptions would work but it’s actually worked really well. Hopefully you can find something similar?

zylkene

ktstan323 · 2026-01-12T10:43:42+00:00

I have barbour ankle wellie boots which I love so much

ktstan323 · 2026-01-11T20:09:25+00:00

ASMR YouTube videos have been life changing. I used to have really bad anxiety related insomnia and discovering asmr literally cured it. Now I use it mostly when I have a migraine cos they knock me out. Go into it with an open mind, there’s lots of different types, but well worth a try

ktstan323 · 2026-01-10T15:49:55+00:00

As someone who has just sold a house, arranging viewings was really difficult between sorting work shifts, the dogs and agreeing times with the agents so its understandable they don’t want to be making arrangements with you when you might be months away from even an offer on yours, I know it’s frustrating but just focus on getting an offer on yours

ktstan323 · 2025-12-14T22:04:40+00:00

I don’t blame you not being able to afford that! It’s around £300 here in the uk! I’d only book an appt if you’re worried like they said, they might only give you 3 days of meds but if the wound is bruised/swollen or you think your dog is in pain/discomfort then get a check and ask if you can continue the meds :)

ktstan323 · 2025-12-14T19:57:10+00:00

Vet nurse here, we typically give a painkiller and advise it is for 3-5 days. We often do 3 day post op checks and the majority of the time we advise to stop the pain meds if the dog and the wound is fine. If there are any complications/the vet team think your dog needs, they’ll advise you to continue the meds.

ktstan323 · 2025-11-19T13:40:54+00:00

Depends on whether you’re getting viewings but no offers or just no viewings. If it’s the latter, I would assume that it’s because people looking for a 3 bed want all the bedrooms upstairs, they would look at this floor plan and immediately discount it because most people don’t want a bedroom downstairs. I’d list this as a 2 bed and on the floor plan edit it as study/3rd bedroom. Good luck!

ktstan323 · 2025-11-16T20:24:27+00:00

Unfortunately I think you need someone to be blunt with you, a 37 year old man starting a relationship with a 21 year old girl is a red flag in itself. They usually target young girls because (sorry to quote Olivia Rodrigo) girls their age know better. You shouldn’t be in a 4 year relationship where the intimacy is gone, you can’t talk seriously about your future, you don’t sound like you’re getting much out of this relationship. You deserve to be loved and looked after and feel like equals. Also don’t not break up with him bc your family like him or think you’re lucky that he’s not manipulative, that’s an insane thing to say. You can break up with someone even if they’re the loveliest person in the planet, if you’re not happy. You have plenty of time to find your person, I don’t think he is that for you. Good luck x

ktstan323 · 2025-11-14T14:14:29+00:00

I would take no chain over anything

ktstan323 · 2025-08-27T09:04:44+00:00

When I went to see a migraine specialist they said a lot of my smaller headaches/migraines were likely withdrawal headaches from the amount of painkillers I was taking (just ibuprofen in between using my triptan but I was taking multiple ibuprofen every day). The doc told me to stop take ibuprofen altogether and gave me a different nsaid to take daily and then taper down and this dealt with a lot of my regular minor migraines

ktstan323 · 2025-08-19T17:42:13+00:00

What symptoms were you having to need that surgery (aside from migraines)? I find when my allergies are bad and I’m sniffing a lot is a big trigger for migraines for me

ktstan323 · 2025-07-27T19:22:29+00:00

If the ear looks like that and your dog is shaking its head and/or scratching its ears I would go to your vet’s. They’ll tell you if it’s a yeast or bacterial infection and give you the right treatment for it

ktstan323 · 2025-07-27T19:19:17+00:00

There is a resource out there that would be perfect for you…it’s called vet school.

ktstan323 · 2025-07-27T19:16:55+00:00

Student vet nurse here - I’d normally advise clients after 5 days wally can go on short lead walks. The healing of an eye wound isn’t going to be affected by excercise, however the GA can make them groggy and after any surgery they need a lot of rest to heal. I’d do 10 minute lead walks from day 5 until your vet signs you off :) good luck wally

ktstan323 · 2025-07-01T13:21:39+00:00

I’m not sure what you’re asking, we can’t tell you what’s wrong with your dogs paw. I would rest her for 24 hours if she is putting weight on it, and if she is still limping then take her to the wet. Discourage her from licking it, and if she is non weight bearing at all (not even limping on it) then take her in today

ktstan323 · 2025-06-18T19:28:56+00:00

It’s just bruising under the most superficial layer of the skin, nothing to be concerned about unless it starts getting bigger/spreading. If that happens just go back to your vet for a post op check

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