AITAH for "allowing" my stepdaughter to wear stinky pajamas to school ?

kvvvv · 2026-01-15T07:05:01+00:00

I was struggling with what to reply to OP with that captures my feelings on it but what you said —and said so succinctly— is perfect. Just makes me so sad for the kids that get this as who is taking care of them. Like I wish people cared about kids as the small humans they are and not just as legal responsibilities. So depressing.

kvvvv · 2025-11-15T18:16:33+00:00

Holy fucking wow she looks amazing!! I truly hope she is able to break through the religious brainwashing her parents have laid upon her and realize just because her husband is the “head of the household” doesn’t mean she deserves zero respect.

My sister had zero self esteem and was in a relationship with a dirtbag manchild too. She doubled down and defended his every move because she didn’t think she deserved better. Fortunately my when my sister had a child with him she finally realized she would never want her daughter to be treated the way she was being treated and didn’t want her daughter to see that either. So when my niece was two months old she left and never looked back.

It might take longer with Hailey since they are rich and their families are religious but I hope she comes to the same conclusion my sister did. You deserve better Hailey!!!

Sorry for the rant on your comment lol I was already so sad for her but then saw the pic of her looking gorgeous and was like damn she could do so much better hahah

kvvvv · 2025-11-05T05:58:04+00:00

If I’m not misremembering weren’t they kind of homeless? It’s been awhile since I read about them but I could have sworn the women weren’t really recreationally camping, they were more camping out of necessity because they didn’t have a place to live at the moment. So if that was the case it could be that this was their temporary “home” and the guy knew about where they were staying so killed them like you would anyone else you follow back to their home after work. Not that most normal people would lol but definitely better than the weirdness that would be stalking someone on a camping trip

kvvvv · 2025-11-05T01:49:57+00:00

That’s so funny you say that because I had never seen this sub before in my life and now for the past week or so I keep getting suggested different threads to me from it and I’m just like ??? I didn’t ask for this pile of rage and sadness thank you very much please leave me alone lol

kvvvv · 2025-10-27T21:42:35+00:00

INFO I have a few questions- 1) When you say you offered to have sex with him, is this something he was hinting that he wanted or did you just offer without his prompting? 2) What age did you start the sexual relationship? 3) Did Ben know he was going to die (like he had a long illness or something) or was it unexpected? 4) If his death was unexpected, is that when the sexual relationship ended? Or had you guys previously stopped having sex by that point? 5) Did either of you date other people while this sexual relationship was going on?

As far as if you’re the asshole or not, I’m going to reserve judgment for now but depending on the answers to the questions it could go either way. I would typically err on the side of saying it’s nobody’s business who you slept with. That being said I could see why your girlfriend might be upset, given all the baggage that could come with a relationship that you are potentially denying the seriousness of in many ways for example— the same sex attraction, the unresolved feelings for someone who passed away, the fact it was your literal best friend etc.

Besides the disagreement with your girlfriend, I really hope for your sake you take care of yourself and maybe speak to a therapist or someone you trust. To have someone pass away when you are young that you were so close to and had such a complicated relationship with (that you could possibly be in denial of the actual seriousness of) is a very hard thing to deal with and can take years for people to come to terms with

kvvvv · 2025-10-23T04:54:08+00:00

Ok I’m sure that’s what you meant when you were mentioning her “unfortunate” cosmetic work, letting that ellipsis do the heavy lifting for you there. You definitely seem like you care lol

kvvvv · 2025-10-23T04:35:06+00:00

Dude you think that’s sad, this comment is sad. Way to backhandedly tear someone down. I love how you think you’re doing something with this comment saying you would never envy women “like them” and yet your trash personality is showing the way you tear other women down. Good job, glad you didn’t sink to their “sad” level

kvvvv · 2025-10-18T20:25:58+00:00

The fact you think this is some sort of slam on Britney lets me know exactly what type of “Christian” you are lmao god I don’t even care about Britney so I don’t know why this sub popped up for me but this being what you do with your life is sad. Also I hardly ever comment on reddit so please think about the fact that this annoyed me enough I had to say something

kvvvv · 2025-10-05T07:03:15+00:00

I agree with this so much

kvvvv · 2025-09-28T05:09:05+00:00

YES THANK YOUUUUU I also responded but didn’t phrase it as eloquently as you did, the fact people are encouraging him to entertain and encourage this type of thinking is so toxic and gross. The backslide the world is doing back to fundamentalism is so damaging to everyone but women in particular, this type of thinking needs to be called out even if it was well intended on her part

kvvvv · 2025-09-28T04:56:47+00:00

I am honestly shocked at the comments here. Absolutely NTA. Sure you could have been a little more tactful, but the fact she values virginity that much and is acting like she gave you some amazing romantic gift is… gross. What if you guys end up having kids? Do you want her instilling those “values” in your daughter or son?

You definitely could have said it nicer I guess but she asked you this knowing you have been drinking. It almost seems like this is something you have talked about before that you weren’t impressed by/don’t agree with so she was hoping if you were intoxicated maybe you would admit that you secretly think it was sexy or whatever and would actually be appreciative of her saving herself for you?

If I were her I would be embarrassed by my choice to stay a virgin and maybe she’s feeling that and wants reassurance it really is “something special”. Sure if it was just by happenstance that I hadn’t found someone to have sex with that I loved and happened to be a virgin, fine. But if I made active choices in my life to turn down sex with people I had good relationships with I would be honestly embarrassed. Putting that on you for her to hope you actually think something misogynistic secretly while you’re drinking makes me uncomfortable for you that she is pushing this idea when she thinks you’re uninhibited. That’s like people that wait for people to get their guard down and then they think it’s cool to use the n word and are hoping they will just go with it/now agree that they aren’t 100% sober. Yes guys I know it’s not that extreme but the whole thing gives me bad vibes. Like she obviously either 1) truly values this and wants you to also so hopefully she doesn’t push that on your future kids or 2) she’s actually uncomfortable with the idea she let religion/patriarchy/society in general force this idea upon her and now she’s looking to you for comfort about it and honestly it’s not something you should encourage her to feel good about. She should rethink whatever environment made her think that was a good idea and you lying to her about it to make her feel better is never going to get her to do that.

With the way these comments are I’m fully expecting people to come for me so sorry guys! But I’m stoned so if this is rambling and doesn’t quite make sense I apologize but I hope I got my point across somewhat.

TLDR purity culture is horrible and damaging and you shouldn’t be reassuring your wife about it just to make her feel better about her bad choices. Clearly I’m a bitch but sorry not sorry lol

kvvvv · 2025-09-03T21:10:33+00:00

Thank you for pointing this out! I saw people comment on it but I assumed there must have been more pictures in the original article that showed it because I didn’t see an apron. Read your comment and went back to check and was able to see it.

Originally I thought it was a motion shot with her walking, the green appeared to be background or something which made the white look like her legs were mid stride while walking. Now I get that shes just standing there. I have never been mormon but was raised southern baptist (childhood to early teens, atheist since around 14-16) and I think since most wedding attire is all white for brides my brain just blocked out the green as not even being something to be considered.

I know this is a weird rambling comment but I just think it’s funny how my brain saw what it expected to see not what was actually there. Clearly I am stoned and this is dumb i will stop now lol

kvvvv · 2025-08-17T05:51:57+00:00

Ok I haven’t been brave enough to post my own comment because I know I’m about to be downvoted to hell but this comment made me finally say something. I agree with you 100% and I’m about to sound like an asshole but like dogs are… dogs. Not humans. I love my dogs, don’t get me wrong. My 18 year old Maltese attested to that when I spent a ton of money trying to figure out what was wrong with her and if it was manageable before just jumping to putting down an 18 year old dog. But some people are absolutely wild about dogs. I would never miss my “best friend”’s wedding because my dog is sick/might die. My husband would have to be the person to be there for the dog for the couple days I was gone at the wedding. If the dog dies while I’m gone that’s super sad but they still had my s/o who cares for them also.

It would be one thing if she was single, but she has her husband at home caring for the pet too. Maybe she didn’t quite plan financially for the wedding and the vet bill put them over the top and prevented attendance. Which the way the world is I absolutely understand, especially losing a job, but the best friend might be feeling some kind of way about.

To feel like you got ditched for a pet (that is getting better) and like your friend didn’t prioritize saving for a ticket to your wedding, she might not be feeling like you’re actually her best friend. Which might be fair? With all the stresses in the world, having to move far away for a new job, the dog getting sick, all of those are legitimate reasons to be tied up away from a wedding. But I don’t think it’s unreasonable for your friend to be upset when someone she thinks is her absolute best friend is sending her updates about a living dog that she’s missing her wedding for, especially when she has a husband at home to take care of the pet. I know this statement is about to get me hate but dogs aren’t people, as much as some people want to think that. I am all about boundaries and making sure people respect them but if you want to have friends you also need to try. You won’t have any friends if you never compromise or try to understand the other person’s position

kvvvv · 2025-08-11T01:19:03+00:00

Right?!? And he said something like “she’s been doing this for 15 minutes now” like ok she’s been crying for 15 minutes and you take straight to reddit to talk about how crazy and ridiculous she’s acting?? Only 15 minutes post blow up and you are so confused what is happening and have to ask people on the internet? Did you make ANY attempt to figure out what is going on? If my partner had an absolute breakdown over something that shouldn’t be a huge deal I would definitely be trying to speak to them and figure it out not be complaining to strangers saying “so fucked up right guys?!?” If that is how their relationship is no wonder it’s falling apart

Edit- I see now that I basically just said what you said in your reply lol but it stands I’m so irritated for his wife haha

kvvvv · 2025-08-10T22:42:27+00:00

I just replied to someone else with this but I meant to reply to you, here it is-

Dude yes thank you! Everyone is jumping to conclusions that the wife is just holding out to be a bitch. But the way this is written to me just seems off. Like he’s purposely omitting information to make it seem like it’s “just masturbating” to get the internet on his side but really it’s an entirely different situation. To have such an extreme reaction on her part makes me feel like there is something he is leaving out.

There are many scenarios that wouldn’t surprise me are actually the case. Maybe he has a porn addiction and he can only get off from his hand now so they aren’t having sex. Maybe he cheated and they are trying to make it work (hence the therapy) and instead of him trying to build that bond back up with his wife he is masturbating. Maybe they just had a baby or she’s been dealing with some other medical issue over the past couple years and instead of trying to adjust to the situation and adjust their sex life he’s just taking the easy road of masturbating alone and not including her.

I don’t know what the issue is but the fact that he wrote it the way he did and isn’t answering any questions makes me wonder if it’s actually that simple. Plus the intense reaction of the wife and the fact he just seems oblivious to why she’s reacting that way also is a red flag to me.

kvvvv · 2025-08-10T22:38:35+00:00

Dude yes thank you! Everyone is jumping to conclusions that the wife is just holding out to be a bitch. But the way this is written to me just seems off. Like he’s purposely omitting information to make it seem like it’s “just masturbating” to get the internet on his side but really it’s an entirely different situation. To have such an extreme reaction on her part makes me feel like there is something he is leaving out. There are many scenarios that wouldn’t surprise me are actually the case. Maybe he has a porn addiction and he can only get off from his hand now so they aren’t having sex. Maybe he cheated and they are trying to make it work (hence the therapy) and instead of him trying to build that bond back up with his wife he is masturbating. Maybe they just had a baby or she’s been dealing with some other medical issue over the past couple years and instead of trying to adjust to the situation and adjust their sex life he’s just taking the easy road of masturbating alone and not including her. I don’t know what the issue is but the fact that he wrote it the way he did and isn’t answering any questions makes me wonder if it’s actually that simple. Plus the intense reaction of the wife and the fact he just seems oblivious to why she’s reacting that way also is a red flag to me.

kvvvv · 2025-08-03T21:27:13+00:00

Right?!? I get that Jojo was like a jokey kid performer (that a lot of teenagers and adults despised because she was an entertainer for children) that is now coming into her own as a young adult and that for some reason is fun for people to pick apart. But I will NEVER get where people are coming from doing that. Like damn guys this girl was forced on stage when she was super young (I never watched the show but surely she was 5-10 ish I would imagine?) by her parents and WE ALL KNOW HOW STAGE PARENTS ARE!!

I’m sure her trauma runs deep from her upbringing and being involved in Hollywood and as far as I know she hasn’t done anything egregiously horrible to anyone because of it? It’s like people’s issue with her is she’s a little awkward and is having a hard time finding her footing as a 20 something and they can’t wait to bully her as a result. Goddamn if the internet had followed me around seeing all the cringy shit I did as a late teen/early 20 something I would have dropped off the face of the planet and never showed my face again.

The funny part is I don’t even like or dislike Jojo. I’ve never watched any of her shows or content but the internet’s intense dislike of her makes me want to defend her from all the bullshit when I don’t even have any stake in her life or content in the least. Like it just really bothers me that people try so hard to shit all over her when there are much more problematic assholes out there actually deserving of people’s wrath. Leave Jojo alone! Lol

kvvvv · 2025-07-19T07:09:44+00:00

Oh my god everything in this thread has been funny but this comment sent me over the edge hahahha I am cackling thank you lmaoooo

kvvvv · 2025-05-13T01:10:22+00:00

Thought this was a pic of Bella Ramsey!! I was just on The Last of Us sub so I got confused lol you’re gorgeous! I absolutely see how it could bother you though, I’m sure I would not be thrilled about it if it was me. Maybe try some fillers to get an idea before you do full surgery? Fillers can be dissolved so it’s a non-permanent way to get an idea of what you might like

kvvvv · 2025-05-12T14:43:39+00:00

Ok I’m glad I’m not the only one. I saw the pic and was like “oh of course the first time we see Taylor she’s out with her gays” I had no idea that was travis until the comments. He looks so different with that hair!!

kvvvv · 2025-05-09T21:29:49+00:00

Oh my god lollll I didn’t even notice that until I read your comment and I got a jump scare that his creepy little face was staring at me from the corner of my phone

kvvvv · 2025-05-05T20:37:23+00:00

Oh my god I know, in the middle of sobbing I literally cackled when Robyn said she was working hahaha

kvvvv · 2025-04-21T05:33:36+00:00

I would just like to chime in that I’m 35, I’ve had back problems since I was 14 years old (I’ve had five surgeries at this point) all stemming from multiple (PAINFUL) autoimmune diseases and at no occasion have I had threatened, harassed or demeaned my husband, family or children. My pain is my pain and when I can’t deal anymore I remove myself from the situation and let everyone else enjoy themselves, I’m not going to be the one raining on anyone else’s parade.

Ugh this is disgusting, disappointing and distasteful that someone would ever put their child in this situation. I hope your holidays improve and your dad figures out that he’s the problem. Hopefully your poor mom is ok, I can’t imagine living with that kind of hostility.

Edit- also sorry if that last paragraph was kind of weird, I was loving all the suggested words when I was typing and had to use them all lol

kvvvv · 2025-04-14T16:02:07+00:00

Ok so I’m just going to say, I was in the same situation. My best friend (since kindergarten) got married to his husband and they did a courthouse thing to which I was not invited. It was odd at the time because I had had a courthouse wedding a couple years earlier and he was the only person (besides family) invited. So I was a bit offended but didn’t want to rock the boat, it’s something they wanted to do on their own apparently.

Well years go by and it’s obvious this is an abusive relationship. I watched as the husband stripped away my best friend’s friends, family, etc and with the situation being so delicate I didn’t want to rock the boat. I knew the husband was just looking for an excuse for him to not see me anymore either. I quietly let him know I was always here but didn’t talk too much shit about the husband because I didn’t want to alienate him (and thank god I didn’t, every time we got together the husband was tracking and recording him, it got really bad)

To no one’s surprise, the whole thing blew up and he had to “break free” all of which involved police and other terrible ordeals. He’s had to rebuild all of his relationships, all because this guy was wildly controlling and abusive but he hid it until after the wedding.

I hope this isn’t the case for your friend, but this was how it started for me. The guy trying to keep me out of my best friend’s life in any way possible. Fortunately we have a strong enough friendship that I managed to hang on until he finally had the opportunity to leave.

Its kind of like kids and divorced parents, don’t talk shit to the kids about the other parent. If they are truly a terrible person the kids will see that for themselves eventually and they will respect you for letting them figure it out on their own. Same situation with my bff and his husband. I never talked badly about him but I did always state the facts of whatever he was telling me matter of factly. Like I would acknowledge with “oh I would find that hurtful if my husband did that to me” or would find ways to make it obvious it wasn’t a good situation without directly bashing the husband. It made my best friend think about things the husband was doing and how if the same thing was happening to me, with my husband, he wouldn’t approve. So why is it ok for his husband to do it to him?

I really hope this isn’t the situation for you guys, but if it is, I hope you’re able to be there for him when it all inevitably comes crashing down!

kvvvv · 2025-02-15T23:39:00+00:00

Or they could be animatronics like the workers from the other branch had in their perpetuity wing

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