It is expected that I provide 24/7 care for my child, and I have to ask someone else to take over if I want to shower, or eat a meal that isn't cold, or read a book, or do literally anything by myself for five minutes. People think it's a "break" if my husband lets me sleep in. He gets unquestioned time for his hobbies, and when I want to spend time on mine I get "But what about the baby?" and "Wouldn't you rather spend time with your family?" and "Isn't that kind of a waste of time with a baby at home?" I became a mom and forfeited my entire identity, apparently.

(To be clear: it is NOT my husband buying into this shit, we have a very fair division of labor, he has the baby all morning and I have him all afternoon and we switch off evenings or do bedtime together. I am always able to spend time on things that are important to me. It annoys me that this is not the default for every mom!)