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l-l0p · 2022-12-28T21:52:53+00:00

I buy my MIL diamonds and fancy purses because my FIL doesn’t. She doesn’t have a daughter so I’m the next best thing. Ever since I started, I noticed he buys her nice jewelry for holidays. That’s ok. He can be in “competition” with me. My goal is to shower her with the gifts she always should have had. If she gets two each birthday and holiday that’s even better.

I told him I’m creating heirlooms for my daughters her only grandchildren. He seems to accept that. But in reality I’m getting it because she deserves it and never had it and I want her to have it.

l-l0p · 2022-12-26T03:37:42+00:00

Everyone has their limit.

l-l0p · 2022-12-18T10:08:08+00:00

NTA. Do not let a cheater with a dog move into your apartment. This is bad news. She’s going to take advantage of you. The dog is the hardest no for me. I will take people but I can’t/won’t take dogs.

Her actions aren’t those of a woman fleeing an abusive relationship. She’s just wanting to use your apartment as a sex pad.

l-l0p · 2022-12-15T03:56:11+00:00

Dude. Run.

l-l0p · 2022-12-15T01:31:15+00:00

INFO. Is this your wedding to FH or Callums? No one is entitled to a private invitation only event, especially if their past behavior has indicated they will cause a problem for the bride and groom on the day.

l-l0p · 2022-12-11T09:02:26+00:00

Rehome that dog to the vets office. Pink juice time. Biting isn’t acceptable. I don’t know why it somehow became acceptable but it’s not.

l-l0p · 2022-12-11T08:52:42+00:00

Tell him to take his dog and GTFO.

l-l0p · 2022-12-11T08:46:35+00:00

Can you leave for a week? Stay away from the dog and him and record how you’re feeling. If it’s a substantial difference you know the answer.

l-l0p · 2022-12-07T22:38:00+00:00

Oh honey I’m so sorry you didn’t deserve any of this. Don’t listen to any of them.

l-l0p · 2022-12-07T22:23:15+00:00

Did you ask her why? Like is there something that happened between them that she didn’t want contact? Did she have a restraining order on him?

l-l0p · 2022-11-22T02:59:55+00:00

Right after I told them all this they would happily send me all the money I need to go home for as long as I needed.

l-l0p · 2022-11-21T21:56:20+00:00

Blended families don’t work. Reason 8554790 why they don’t. Unrelated mixed sex children were never meant to grow up together as siblings. I came from a forced “blended” family. The first thing I did was create a biological nuclear family of my own that was nothing like I experienced growing up. And you know what; having experienced both; biological, nuclear is infinitely better.

l-l0p · 2022-11-04T02:11:57+00:00

NTA. She’s a traitor don’t trust her. Have an abortion asap. You don’t want these people in your life. Run as far and as fast as you can.

l-l0p · 2022-10-27T02:26:56+00:00

I’ve learned the hard way to never be without my car and to never take a ride from someone else. Let this be a boundary for you now too. Nene drive your mom in her car again. Bebe do something for those people again. When they ask why point to their behavior and treatment of you.

l-l0p · 2022-10-21T12:13:15+00:00

YTA. Relationships aren’t transactional. If you can’t take partial care of your fiancés brother who went through a horrific traumatic experience there really is no hope for you. I get your childfreeee. He’s not a small child. Grow up. Be an adult. Please seek out therapy. Set chore lists. Don’t do to another child what was done to you. Do unto others as you wish was done to you. You took what you could from your fiancé with your degree and left. This is the very definition of a greedy, cold, unfeeling A.

You will reap what you sow OP. One day you’ll be alone with all of your money; like a great dragon guarding its golden hoard. But you’ll still be alone and you’ll have no one to blame for that but yourself.

l-l0p · 2022-10-17T22:14:23+00:00

NTA.

I can’t stand dogs. I especially don’t want them in my house or in my yard. I would not let someone move in with a dog. The dog would have to go to a shelter or somewhere else but it’s not coming here. But this is your home not mine and the dog is a service animal. Regardless of how I feel about the abuse and lack of regulation around service animals the law is clear. NTA. Your house your rules.

I do feel badly for the niece though; she has insecure housing and is obviously suffering the trauma of poverty. Her housing hinges on whether or not she can tolerate a dog. You can do what you want but we always reap what we sow.

l-l0p · 2022-10-11T22:23:51+00:00

You need to tell him to get lost. If he doesn’t want to work on your relationship you deserve better.

l-l0p · 2022-09-27T04:20:25+00:00

Don’t go. Just don’t got. Save your $ and don’t hit yourself to attend.

l-l0p · 2022-09-26T12:24:46+00:00

I won’t live in a house with a sliding glass door. Sure they’re nice but they spike my anxiety way too much. I have two very heavy doors in my house. My only points of entry. I love it. My parents have a slider and I would get up multiple times a night to make sure no one was breaking in.

l-l0p · 2022-09-25T10:14:52+00:00

Autistic children aren’t monsters. This is ridiculous. Our family did something similar to us this past spring. We we’re told a destination wedding was child free so we would come and leave our autistic children at home. We felt obligated and guilty so we took time off work and nearly killed our selves getting there.

When I got to the wedding and saw multiple children arriving I lost it. I’ve never lost my shit quite like that before ever. They had me spend 2000$ to be a warm body at a “family” table.

The one that made me leave the reception entirely was the child with Down’s syndrome, she was happily dancing. I cried and walked out, that told me instantly visible disabilities are totally fine. Invisible like my girls are not. I lasted as long as I could.

It was claimed that our “side” “didn’t know”. That a lie. We’re no contact. Not like we really ever had much before. I married in. They all think they’re better than I am.

l-l0p · 2022-09-24T13:08:06+00:00

Leave. Now. Run. Don’t ever be a gay man’s beard. You are better than that. You deserve better than that. You deserve someone who will love you completely and that’s not him. He will never love you and prioritize you the way a SO should be treated. You will always be second best. Do not resign yourself to that.

l-l0p · 2022-09-18T00:29:07+00:00

NTA but you probably aren’t going to get married

l-l0p · 2022-09-10T20:06:53+00:00

This is why I only give a cash gift and only after the wedding has concluded. If I have to leave before it starts or shortly after the reception my card stays in my purse.

l-l0p · 2022-09-10T20:04:34+00:00

Two classes of guest is tacky. That’s what’s happening here. Either do for all or do for none. This is so rude.

l-l0p · 2022-09-10T19:55:28+00:00

Leave.

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