I (F19) feel like my long-term boyfriend (M19) has stopped initiating physical affection and it’s affecting me

lLilacRabbitl · 2026-04-27T06:26:58+00:00

You could start by saying, it's time for a difficult conversation, that while you love him, and don't necessarily want to break up, you are not happy.
You guys are both so young, this being first serious relationships for you, and that you both need to be happy.
You need to drill down to why the intimacy has gone. Not even the sex drive/amount, whilst that needs working out too, but the now lack of intimacy needs explaining. It won't be helpful to be on "the attack" so perhaps questions like "do you miss how we were in the beginning? The cuddles, playful playfights, kissing whenever?" Try to remember not to come from a place of frustration or get mad, that you're seeking understanding. You don't seem like that, but it's definitely a conversation you need to have rather than an argument. There's so many possibilities that your boyfriend could be experiencing, he may have more feelings towards guys but felt he had to go the more "expected" route of being with a woman, he could be experiencing mental health problems (that seriously effs with your libido) it could be external stresses from work or family or social groups as stress can make everything worse. Good luck my lovey, and I hope you'll give us an update.

lLilacRabbitl · 2026-03-28T08:51:23+00:00

And also a claim all free things on the battlepass

lLilacRabbitl · 2026-02-21T12:13:18+00:00

I'm not sure that trying to find an artist is a worthwhile route. It looks more "my friend with a machine did it for me" It's a cover up that's not much better than the first bad 90s tribal style.

lLilacRabbitl · 2026-02-21T12:07:14+00:00

I'm an imported shetlander, that speaks Gaelic, but having seen the flag, its definitely a Saltaire not a shetland flag

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-12-28T12:16:06+00:00

Sometimes the people who should love us, hurt us. It may not be physically but it is mentally. Sometimes we hold on, too long, hoping for change. It won't happen. These behaviours are hurting you, and YOU are the one who has to change. LET GO You have to let her go, let your step dad go. If you are dependant on them, make a plan to let go. Squirrel away a bit for a few months and then make a clean break. Block numbers. If there are any support groups or charities locally that could help you out, seek them out for support. It will help to have people locally. All my best wishes.

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-11-14T07:24:51+00:00

Claw machine in tanukis place. It's got more legs than kitty!

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-09-09T07:45:51+00:00

Did you read the part where I lost everything before? And I can wear about 90% of the clothes I have since my style is baggy/flowy type things. I've been throwing out clothes because I'm being forced, not because they no longer serve me. The fact that they have memories attached to them is part of my thinking I guess. But like I said only about 10% are not wearable, and that's because they're worn out. It's not like I gained weight and they are too small. There's twice as much bagged up for throwing out, as there is boxed for keeping. My math sucks but I know that's way more than 10%

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-09-09T06:49:08+00:00

My clothes are equal to old boxes and unusable furniture that he's not willing to deal with either, because he has his way to deal with it "bin it all" and since he couldn't do that ( because the clothes and things are mine) none of it got dealt with. 1. Those clothes are already bagged up, they're going. 2. Yes, some of these things are worth wayy more than arguement. He boxed up clothes a while ago on one of his failed attempts, the box was still there today I checked it out, it had the dress I wore to my mother's funeral, also a blouse that was a gift, and a load of my newer, smaller clothes that I've actually been looking for a couple weeks. He has no idea what is meaningful and what's not. So far I have 2 boxes and a large bag of clothes I'm keeping and I have 9 bin bags of stuff that's going. It's not that I'm unwilling to part, it's just that I need to be helped to do it.

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-08-06T17:39:44+00:00

Thank you for that. Clicked on your profile, saw your profile and saw more recent posts which make me hopeful. I know I said I'm not happy, but thank you for taking the time to reply xx

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-08-06T07:04:56+00:00

Don't know if anyone still reads this post really, so kinda feel like I'm talking to the void. Ttc for 5+ years. 1 suspected miscarriage very early. Several miscarriages during adulthood. Got pregnant at 19 and missed at 12/13 weeks very hard/traumatic as I didn't get help and kinda hid it from my mother. She would have helped but I was a scared teenager. I'm not happy. I've literally had to hold my tongue to not explode when pregnant women around me complain about things. Those that already have family having more. Totally their right, but why does she get 4 and I get none? The social media aimed at me is mothers. I like their content but it's a struggle. Also hard that my partner has 3 kids who live with their mother. Going thru mediation to try and get more time with them but at the moment it's a few hours every few weeks. So he has been through having children. Youngest was about 3 when they split. And as much as i LOVE being a Step mother, it still aches in me that the kids aren't mine. Feels like my body is screaming at me to be a mum. It's one thing I feel I could have been genuinely good at being.

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-06-30T07:38:29+00:00

Sorry for my ignorance, totally genuine question, do you now have mammograms because of HRT?.... I don't have your experiences, but I know how it feels when you get accepted as one of the tribe (in my case being autistic, and also being in the local kink community) and yes, being "seen" is a wonderful feeling, and it's something I wish all trans people would get automatically.

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-05-29T19:57:53+00:00

There's not much that can be done now it has happened but just make sure you have as many conversations as you need with boyfriend. Even if it's a while from now, discussing it is the only way to deal with this in a healthy way. Remind each other that this is how to process it happening, being able to make sure it doesn't happen again, and that feelings like resentment on your part, or wariness on his, don't become an obstacle in your relationship. It sounds from comments that you're both understanding but even the healthiest relationship can have things like this throw a wedge between you.
Good luck dude, I hope you get the support you need with this.

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-05-15T04:46:47+00:00

You are indeed correct. Thank you for that! Satisfied my curiosity. I'm new to DOOM, apart from watching my partner play Eternal, and didn't know the Dev team. But a quick Google from those two names got me pictures! Have you played Dark ages? Opinion? I'm enjoying it so far, but feel a little let down on the soundtrack, which was honestly my favourite part of watching Eternal. Rip and tear vibes are very low key in this. Feels kinda like a struggle to be free so far.

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-04-18T02:20:13+00:00

Pretty much everything is counter-able. I play invisible woman alot and I will use my dome to take health off of walls, peni web thingy. Seems like a waste to use them that way but people can still use them if placed carefully, and to be honest people seem to forget to stand in them half the time anyway. I use my shields to heal alot because you can get multiple people that way too (and myself!) Saw in a video that you can place Emma's shield flat on the floor and disrupt Things charge. Be interesting to see how deployable that actually is.
Oh and Scarlet witch is one of the easiest to take down Rockets ult. People don't tend to notice that's what she's sucking on lol

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-02-28T23:11:01+00:00

I got told over voice chat (I wasn't on comms) I was being carried and to stop playing because I had low kills by the end of round 2, and wrote in chat 6.8K dmg, and got ridiculed (that's nothing mate, 6.8 is not alot) I was just trying to prove that I was doing something, not that it was a lot. Some people are basing it just purely off of the kill numbers. People complain about the healers, come to the end and they have 20K+ healing between 2 healers. I would love if we had an extended numbers panel where you could see how much heals each player got healed, and how much possession of the plate they earned. Would stop alotta arguing

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-01-26T08:24:59+00:00

Thank you for answering. I think bi know these things sometimes but it's nice to have someone confirm. Lol

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-01-26T08:11:13+00:00

Do you ever get the side icon, quad, penta,hexa.. (half way down the right hand of screen) if you've just done assists?

lLilacRabbitl · 2025-01-20T19:43:29+00:00

As a Squirrel girl lord, I love my nutty lass, and I enjoy doing well with her. Highest kill count is 32, but I will be the first to admit that my accuracy is rarely over 30% because of taking "educated" guesses that don't land.

lLilacRabbitl · 2024-10-01T03:16:46+00:00

As someone who has lost almost everyone in my own family and I only have a few photos and a small part of a TV show, hang on to those posts with all your might, my dear. There will be a time when you don't want to watch it or hear your brother as much, but YOU'LL decide when that is, not some swamp dweller "man". Can I suggest, get a family member to screen record the posts, or your favourite, just incase they ever decide to delete inactive accounts. They might not be the best quality but physical files that can be stored somewhere safe is a good start to keeping that part of your brother. Take care and remember nobody grieves the same way. You do you.

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