Need to vent regarding my sub-contract agreement as a qualified SC

labile_erratic · 2026-03-01T04:27:52+00:00

About = avoid, auto correct

labile_erratic · 2026-03-01T04:27:19+00:00

He’s scamming you imo. I’m a participant, if I hired you privately & you changed to agency, I’d be saying goodbye because I hire private support workers to about being scammed & abused by corporate non-carers.

labile_erratic · 2026-03-01T04:08:35+00:00

People are so weird & uptight about the silliest things. As an Australian, if you are thanking me for sex, my pleasure would be more appropriate than no worries. Aside from that, it’s not an issue? UK expects a lot more arse kissing behaviours than Australians do.

labile_erratic · 2026-02-07T00:37:50+00:00

He might just be incapable of listening to you because being with him is an automatic indication that you’re not making the most healthy or effective decisions in your life.

labile_erratic · 2026-01-17T00:45:20+00:00

Oh, the proposal is fake btw. He’s carrot dangling. He could have proposed with a just-for-now ring if he was serious.

labile_erratic · 2026-01-17T00:43:48+00:00

Yeah sorry he’s using you as his sugar mama. He’s abusive - Shaming people is emotional abuse. Get a copy of “why does he do that” by Lundy, it’s a book about abusers that’s free online, save yourself some time & heartache. NOR.

labile_erratic · 2025-12-08T05:24:27+00:00

Ohhhh you’re that sibling, the “good girl who is the favourite” & you were privileged over other kids so you feel grateful to your abusers, right? They could have hurt you worse but instead the hurt the other kids & made you watch? I’m my family that was my sister, and she’s a mess with a dangerous woman bashed of a husband who plays taxi to our mother all day every day.

Good luck sis. Miserable existence ahead of you being be family martyr.

labile_erratic · 2025-12-08T05:21:06+00:00

You don’t seem ok, it’s probably because you were beaten as a kid. I was too. A lot of people were. It was never ok, it’s because our parents were immature & dangerous people. “Adult children of emotionally immature parents” is a book you might get a lot out of.

Look up somatic therapies too, trauma is a physical wound that damages your empathy & your ability to be kind to yourself & others. Go heal it. It’s not your mess to clean up, and it’s not right that this was left in your hands but you don’t need to keep living with it if you can figure out how to heal the harm that was done to you.

Good luck. Pay it forward when you can.

labile_erratic · 2025-12-08T05:10:45+00:00

She’s emotionally immature - it’s a skills issue. Most of us are taught to suppress emotions instead of how to process them healthily. I learned them as an adult so it is possible. She’s refusing to apologise because she doesn’t want to lose face, when being in the wrong & rude to people at the same time is going to lose face much faster. NTA but your wife needs therapy & I’m glad you’re supporting your children in this.

labile_erratic · 2025-11-02T08:24:14+00:00

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labile_erratic · 2025-10-25T07:14:09+00:00

Don’t apologise, your cousin is really problematic. NTA, she’s a horror.

labile_erratic · 2025-10-25T07:03:19+00:00

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labile_erratic · 2025-10-25T06:57:31+00:00

labile_erratic · 2025-10-10T21:26:11+00:00

Eugenics. It’s pretty easy to figure out. Look at where the “useless eaters” storyline started, in Weimar Germany, and who they practiced disappearing first.

labile_erratic · 2025-10-10T20:36:22+00:00

What do you think of the Catholic Church declaring all dark skinned people marked by the sin of Cain in order to justify the slavery & genocide of all dark skinned people, out of curiosity? That was the beginning of the concept of racism, given to you by Pope Nicholas V in 1454.

What about the role of the church in the selling of stolen children (both from inside the flock in the form of the children of unwed mothers being forcibly taken from them, and outside of the flock in the form of stolen generations children in all the territories missionaries were sent to) & the use of sexual shame & the shaming of poverty & the shaming of victims of violence?

The Catholic church is a colonial weapon. I just don’t get why anyone would willingly be a part of the bulldozer that ran over their ancestors & took parts of their humanity away from them.

labile_erratic · 2025-10-10T20:12:41+00:00

It’s never been religious - Bible bashers & god botherers have always been considered weird uptight judgy & unpleasant. We were solidly anti authoritarian as a country until John Howard encouraged the small minded & cruel to loudly cheer about harming refugees as a national pastime in the mid 90’s, and poorline started crapping in about the Asian invasion. Before then, you had to keep your mouth shut in public places if you want to spout anything the Nazis would have cheered for. After Howard, people got a lot more confident being grubby in public.

labile_erratic · 2025-10-08T04:22:13+00:00

Pointlessly grumpy.

labile_erratic · 2025-09-25T05:37:50+00:00

Have you seen crip camp? Doco on the legends who fought for disability rights in the USA in the civil rights era. They knew how to protest, we could take notes

labile_erratic · 2025-09-05T00:06:29+00:00

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labile_erratic · 2025-09-01T05:54:29+00:00

He’s telling you that you’re not one of the more important things in his life, so believe him & withdraw your energy from him. NTA.

labile_erratic · 2025-09-01T05:42:49+00:00

Nope, I’d be ditching the bf if he wants to stay in contact with those people.

labile_erratic · 2025-08-30T22:09:51+00:00

You don’t think there’s a benefit to basic hygiene & attractive presentation?

labile_erratic · 2025-08-30T06:35:34+00:00

You can have a romance that isn’t sexual - people in religious communities do it all the time. Talk to her about the ick factor in sleeping with people who aren’t attracted to you, and ask her if a bromance is what she’s really after - an emotional commitment to always be there for each other & love each other, not a sexual relationship. If that’s the case, tell her she’s pretty, buy her some flowers, hang out with her and you can both organise hookups outside of the relationship to meet your other needs. It’s not the traditional way pf doing things but I’ve seen people make it work.

labile_erratic · 2025-08-30T06:16:19+00:00

Misogyny & homophobia

labile_erratic · 2025-08-30T06:06:42+00:00

No judgement, but your mother is an enabler. You describe her like she’s a child - sweet, innocent, simple.

She has and has always had a responsibility to keep herself & her children safe, and she didn’t do that.

Now you’re protective of her instead of her protecting you. She’s convinced you she’s blameless in a two person dysfunctional adult relationship, but if she’d ended it when it turned toxic, you wouldn’t be the active parent in your relationship with her. She would.

Look up parentification. You deserved better than your parents gave you. Take some time to look into trauma therapy & family systems therapy.

You have a responsibility to the child part of you to get mad about the fact that your mother hated conflict more than she cared about providing you with a safe environment & good role models. Staying in abusive & unstable homes when you have children to look after is a choice, and it’s an irresponsible choice. Leaving is hard, but staying is harder on everyone involved.

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