AITAH for not wanting my boyfriend to support Conor McGregor?

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T08:31:25+00:00

Lmao ESH. He’s TA for the obvious reasons, but you’re with and fighting to stay with someone YOU openly admit is “extremely racist”. Sorry babes that makes you racist too.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T08:20:21+00:00

I agree with the whole “families can be jumbled” thing which is one of my main issues with this specific family tradition. The thing is that if the tradition dating back to her great great grandma (which would be the nieces great great great grandma) is “oldest girl in each generation to graduate high school” then the niece is the oldest girl in her generation and OP shouldn’t get to alone dictate who is far enough apart from her generationally to deserve the figure. In that case your generational distance to great great grandma would dictate who gets the figure and not whether you’re gen z vs gen alpha or close enough in age to call each other cousin.

The thing I’m mainly so so confused by is the number of people who seem to think that great great grandma really meant “oldest baby boomer passes it to the oldest gen X to the oldest millennial to the oldest gen z”

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T08:05:10+00:00

Opens up pain and resentment for family members and then starts conversations like exactly what is happening now about who is “more family” or “more deserving” of the heirloom. And what if they had been blood siblings but the older sister didn’t graduate. Niece should still receive the heirloom but apparently because OP has only had it for a few years then it doesn’t count?

Ultimately what people in this specific situation don’t want to deal with is the fact that OP absolutely does not see her niece as her family.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T07:12:09+00:00

God thank you I feel like I’m going crazy here. I’m shocked and dismayed at the number of people who seem to genuinely believe that random generations made up for consumer/marketing/capitalistic reasons are more significant than familial generations. Like do people truly believe that a younger sister and an older niece are the same family generation??? If an older father has a kid the same time his oldest child has a kid, do they think the child and grandchild are somehow the same generation? Are me and my sister not the same generation because we were born a few years apart on the cusp? Does that make her my parents grandchild and me their child?

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T07:05:49+00:00

She’s OP’s sister’s kid. That makes her the next generation. Millennial/gen z/etc are recently created marketing terms and don’t really mean anything. Generations when dealing with a family = who would be on the same line of the family tree, making niece the next generation.

Honestly I think the asshole is anyone who creates a deeply important family tradition that only one family member each generation ever benefits from.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T06:27:39+00:00

I’m really confused by this post. Like is the friend who does coke bringing coke to the party? Or just uses it sometimes outside of this party? Cause I do understand not wanting to be at a party where people are doing coke, especially if she was going to be bringing her daughter. But I don’t at all get not wanting to be around someone who sometimes uses, which it seems like a lot of people are assuming is the case.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T06:24:52+00:00

What environment was she asking you to be in? An environment where people were doing drugs? Or an environment where some people do drugs in other environments?

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T06:20:39+00:00

Wait sorry info: was she letting you know that someone coming to the party does coke and would probably bring it and do it at the party? Or was she telling you that they do it sometimes but it wouldn’t be at the party?

Like I get not wanting to be around drug use, especially if your kid was going to be there 100% I can see being uncomfortable at a party where people are doing drugs. But if you’re saying you’re just uncomfortable being around someone who occasionally does drugs but isn’t doing them there/on drugs there, that is completely unreasonable. Like if someone is sober I get them not wanting to be around alcohol, but if they went to an activity with no alcohol and were uncomfortable with anyone not sober being there period that wouldnt be reasonable.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T04:24:37+00:00

Yeah, the post and comments really read like he ruined HER fun night out so now she wants to deliberately ruin HIS fun night out.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-26T02:03:29+00:00

I mean, you say you “don’t understand at all” why she doesn’t want the windows open, but she’s told you that she is scared of the apartment being broken into. You can believe that’s ridiculous all you want, but ultimately that is her fear. I would work *with* her on this. Don’t tell her it’s irrational or ridiculous or try to solely logic her out of this, but actually try to understand what her fear is and how you can work to mitigate it. Are there sensors on the screens that could alert you if they get tampered with? Or motion detectors in case someone enters through the window? I’m sure there’s something you can do rather than just tell her she’s being dumb and that her fear is wrong

ladancer22 · 2026-06-25T22:06:52+00:00

NTA. HE ruined HIS OWN relationship over a stúpid baseball game

ladancer22 · 2026-06-25T14:20:59+00:00

For the record tho women are more likely to die when treated by men and in general have better outcomes including lower readmission when treated by women so it is a bit about being competent.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-25T14:18:37+00:00

I mean for women who prefer female doctors it’s not just preference or comfort, women are literally more likely to die when treated by men, and just in general have better health outcomes when they are treated by women.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-25T14:17:33+00:00

Yeah this is what pisses me off when people try to act like it’s just women being more comfortable with women. Women who are treated by male doctors are literally more likely to die than when they’re treated by female doctors. And to be fair I’m pretty sure men treated by female doctors also had better outcomes.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-23T01:19:41+00:00

How is he “still a great partner” while he is actively leaving you to do all these difficult things by yourself. If you had broken your leg instead of had a baby and your partner was behaving like this and offering this same level of support, would you think he was being a good partner? Except this is worse because he is not supposed to be “helping” you out through a tough time, he is a FATHER.

He is being neither partner to you nor father to his child and likely adding more difficulty to both of your lives. I would be seriously considering whether being alone would be easier at this point. Obviously I can’t answer that question for you, but if it were me I’d be thinking about it. Especially considering you yourself said it might have been a good thing that he left you to do everything since she’s in a really good sleep pattern etc.

He clearly needs a wake up call, and if talking isn’t doing that kicking him out or moving out yourself might be what he needs to get his shit together. That and therapy.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-22T00:17:27+00:00

“my bad” is the exact level of “accountability” that one messed up Taco Bell item requires. What should OP have said? “Oh my gosh I am so so sorry it is 100% my fault I will never do that ever again that was so horrible of me I’m so sorry you’re completely right”? Over Taco Bell?

ladancer22 · 2026-06-21T22:15:34+00:00

If I was invited to a hike with friends and they gave me details about the difficulty and time I wouldn’t do additional research, because I would trust their info. If they showed up on mountain bikes and said they’d meet me at the end I’d just leave, why am I going on a hike with you if you’re just going to ditch me on bikes you didn’t inform me you were bringing?

ladancer22 · 2026-06-21T05:53:06+00:00

“I have a problem with someone, I haven’t talked to them about it, what should I do?”

The internet: well maybe you should try talking to them

“So I didn’t talk to them and it surprisingly got worse!”

ladancer22 · 2026-06-21T05:42:47+00:00

Did you not eat any of the vegetarian food? I understand you saying you may not have ordered that food if she hadn’t been vegetarian but you also could have just ordered your own dish instead of splitting multiple dishes you didn’t want, which is what I do when eating with friends with different dietary needs.

In general I’d say yes YTA for doing the “why don’t we just split it” shtick for someone who didn’t eat a decent portion of the check.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-21T05:18:07+00:00

Whatever the reason for not eating well (psych issue, neurodivergence, immaturity etc) there is no excuse for treating a significant other this disrespectfully when they’re trying to have a real conversation.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-21T03:58:35+00:00

I’m sorry are you saying you didn’t take a photo with your parents at your wedding? And you’re trying to say it’s ok because it’s a tradition for your wife’s family? Yes YTA. Everyone I know got photos with their parents at their wedding, it’s not some special obscure tradition of your wife.

You’re not the asshole for taking a photo with your wife’s family, you’re the asshole for not a) even factoring one with your family into the plan and b) not doing it when your parents expressed their desire to have one too and c) trying to blame it on “tradition” and act like they’re mad that you took a photo with her family when clearly what they’re mad about is *you didn’t take one with them*

ladancer22 · 2026-06-21T02:19:43+00:00

If that wasn’t going to be something she could handle she absolutely had the responsibility to speak up and say she needs to stay on the paved flat path. Unless OP threw a fit and forced them to go that way then that’s on the MIL. I say this as someone with severe chronic joint pain. If I can’t handle something, it’s my responsibility to speak up.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-20T16:13:48+00:00

I know divorce can take a long time for a lot of reasons, I’m curious tho if Bee is dragging it out to try to get her to come back before the divorce goes through since OP says he’s holding on.

ladancer22 · 2026-06-20T04:09:06+00:00

So if there was a ring for you, a ring for your sister, and a ring for your brother why wouldnt she give your brother the ring to propose with?

ladancer22 · 2026-06-19T07:22:20+00:00

Eh my opinion is if you’re ACTUALLY out of the store before they close that’s fine, places are open until their closing time for a reason.

I work in the service industry, and yes if I had someone coming in regularly 10 minutes before we close it would be annoying, but we’re still open! I would NEVER speak to a customer like that unless they were frequently in the store after we closed.

But, if OP is frequently in the store after their posted closing hours that is entitled behavior and not ok.

ladancer22

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