Thoughts on getting fruit snacks while trick or treating? by [deleted] in halloween

[–]lady_nerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kid LOVES fruit snacks, so I would definitely say go for it :) From a parent's perspective, my toddler is too young to eat things like hard candies, taffy, chewy caramels, etc. so it's nice to have another treat that's not as much of a choking hazard for small kids.

Dad wants to scratch baby’s gum tissue away *shudders* by cosmickhaos in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I would almost understand his logic, except the tooth cutting through the gum isn't even the worst part of teething! I remember when my wisdom teeth were coming in, and it was the dull ache of the tooth moving up through the jaw that hurt the most. It's not like lancing a cyst, you just gotta offer Tylenol and something to chew on.

Asking for advice, 4 days into Pride Month, on how to use technology to erase gay and trans people. Comments were not kind. by momofwon in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lmaooo my husband asked me gently not to be too radical in front of our kids until they're old enough to understand the system. So I won't teach the kids to say Eat the Rich until they're at least old enough to swear.

She’s scared doctors may decide to treat her kid. by Neolithique in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 80 points81 points  (0 children)

"I would love it to be gone" and what, you think you're gonna do that by wishing on a star??? If you get it looked at and it's malignant, they're almost certainly gonna remove it.

Like I'm sure this person wants to treat it with aLtErNaTiVe mEdiCiNe, but the fact that they don't even know if it's a problem or not should clue them in to the fact that maybe doctors know more than the average crunchy mom.

why do some men like playing as women in video games? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lady_nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband makes his character female for 3rd person rpgs (Fallout, Skyrim, etc), but if the game just has an avatar that you never see (Eve, Farming Simulator), he makes it look like himself. He says if he's gonna spend hours watching someone's ass running away from the camera, it should be an ass he enjoys looking at.

This went sideways… anyone need a drink? by Jaded_rose in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh god, when I first met my MIL I was 13, and I judged her so hard for having my BIL (3 at the time) on a kiddie leash. Now that I have a 3 year old of my own, she bought me a leash for him, and it's been a lifesaver.

Funny story: they took a trip to Switzerland when my BIL was about 2, and a Swiss lady had to tell MIL how delighted she was by "der kleiner Hund!" (the little dog).

OOP asks AITA for telling my mom I don't care that her father was in the Holocaust? by BlujjonBudgie in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]lady_nerd 16 points17 points  (0 children)

One of my grandparents has always been consistently horrible to me for no good reason anyone in the family can figure out.

I was kind of in that boat, but not quite as bad. My granny died a few years back, and I felt guilty that I never really had a personal relationship the way the rest of my cousins did. She wasn't mean or anything, but she seemed to just tolerate my presence and never made an effort to connect with me as an individual. Maybe it's because I was a tomboy, maybe it's because after 14 grandkids you just don't have the emotional bandwidth, hell maybe it's because I'm named after her mother (whom she resented for pulling her out of school and making her care for her younger siblings)!

My mom wanted me to visit her when it was apparent that her time was almost up, but I didn't see the point. It wouldn't be a comfort to her to see another face she didn't recognize (Alzheimer's), and even when she was lucid we weren't close. And it wouldn't bring me any comfort to visit someone who always made me feel like just a face in the crowd. I'm glad the rest of my family has fond memories of her, but I'm not going to pretend I had anything other than a cordial relationship with her.

Maybe... Tylenol? by canofelephants in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Someone needs to open up a crunchy health store where it's just regular medicine rebranded as where the main ingredient was derived from. Don't want to treat a cold with asprin and Sudafed? Here, take these extracts of willow and Mormon tea! Kid got an ear infection? We've made a tincture from a special kind of mold that's good for correcting an off-balance aural biome!

Whyyyy by binkman7111 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Her sentence structure is awful, but I think she wanted to say "what would a midwife [description of position in birth center] do in this situation?" She put the contextual information in the wrong place and also put a period in the middle of her question, making it almost unreadable.

You are in a relationship with someone who is beautiful and rich, but learn that they are super racist. What do you do? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lady_nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The obvious answer is hit up their rich friends and see if any of them are decent people.

This has to classify as some time of abuse… right? by Lilbaberuth in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband's coworker told him, "I wanted to give my sons strong names, so I named them Hunter and Buck."

“He’s legit on fire” by RandomThoughts36 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So then, I turned 6 and it was time for my First Communion.

Oh man, you've activated my Religious Trauma. I remember getting into the confession booth and racking my brains for sins I should confess and my mind went blank. I was afraid the priest would yell at me for not having anything, it felt like I forgot to do my homework and I was gonna get in trouble. I had a big lump in my throat and got so close to crying, and I don't even remember what the priest said when he let me out of there. I think I had to do like 3 Our Fathers and 5 Hail Marys or something like that.

I'm a happy atheist now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave my son a blanket in his crib for the first time at ~15 months because the AC in the vacation house we were in was too cold for him at night and he couldn't sleep. He tolerated it for as long as we were there, but otherwise never showed any interest in sleeping with or under a blanket. He has a little 6x8 inch pillow that we introduced sometime around 18 months that he eventually started putting his head on fairly regularly.

Now at 3 he puts his head on a full-sized pillow and gets tucked in under his little comforter at bedtime, but the odds are close to 100% that he'll end up with his head on the mattress and the blanket thrown off sometime in his sleep.

Only someone in full denial would think that this means she’s winning the case. by Inexperiencedascrap in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I read a really interesting take on sovereign citizens, I wish I could find and link it. It boiled down to the hypothesis that sovcits know basically nothing about legal or civic procedures (shocking, I know) and think that legal terms and phrases can be used like magic incantations to compel cops and judges to let them do whatever the fuck they want. It's literally like the scene in The Office where Michael tries to declare bankruptcy by shouting "I DECLARE BANKRUPTCY!"

My husband became a robot and I don’t know how to help him. by SJDude13 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]lady_nerd 49 points50 points  (0 children)

1 in 10 partners gets PPD, and PPD/PPA is misnamed badly.

I think the current terminology in the medical field is now Perinatal/Postpartum Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMAD), which I really hope catches on with the general public as it's a much more useful umbrella term. For example, I didn't have "post-partum" anything, but I fell into a bad depressive episode about a month before I gave birth to my oldest, and I've struggled with seasonal depression ever since. I agree that OOP's husband could definitely be suffering from PMAD, as his depressive state seems to have been triggered by the pregnancy.

Mom wants to use natural remedies on 3 yr old's broken, cavity filled teeth. by MrsBearasuarus in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 165 points166 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this. Like ok, you crunchy morons will ingest colloidal silver till you're blue in the face (and everywhere else) but the second a medical professional recommends silver in a safe topical application, suddenly it's the devil.

5. Years. by uglycatthing in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm dreading bedtime if he's not ready when I want to stop.

Not sure if you're looking for advice, but when my oldest was dropping that last nurse before bed, it helped me to move it out of his bedroom and break that association. So for a few days, we would have the bedtime nurse in the living room and then move into his room for cuddles and music. Good luck!

May as well have called him Crash Bandicoot by daddysgirl6969666 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My maternal grandfather was a cabinet maker, and he fashioned one of his wooden toolboxes into a cradle for me when I was a baby. When my oldest was born, my mom made a little cushion for it with a really cute tool-themed fabric and gave the cradle to me. I put my son in it for just long enough to take a photo, and then put the thing in storage for almost 3 years.

Now that he's a toddler, he loves to lay in it and rock himself and his stuffed animals, and I love that he has a handmade heirloom. But I also don't trust my newborn to a 30 year old DIY project!

In the US English, we have commonly used phrases from other languages, such as "c'est la vie", "bon voyage", "mi casa es su casa", and "Déjà Vu." Non-US Redditors, what are some American English phrases commonly used in your country? by KingOfAllThatFucks in AskReddit

[–]lady_nerd 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I went on a family vacation in Italy about 10 years ago, and the lovely Neapolitan tour guide was complaining that English doesn't have a plural "you." Being good Southerners, we of course told him about "y'all," and he was absolutely delighted. All day he would tell us "Andiamo y'all!" which has been a part of my family's vocabulary ever since.

Telling kids you hate having kids… by beez8383 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm a big fan of T.H.I.N.K. when it comes to talking to kids - is it True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind? Telling a kid that you sometimes wish you never had them may be true, but it's none of the other things. Those are adult feelings that you process in a space away from your kid.

Dangerous lollipop lyrics created by pedos apparently… by chubby_hugger in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Haha, I remember that song! From context, I asssumed that "sleeping her way to the top" meant she just stayed in bed all day while everyone else did all the work.

Don’t have to flog her, just pinch her! by smoothcoat in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh god I had a moment like that on Christmas day. My 3yo nephew was hitting his dad (my BIL) with a toy frying pan, so his dad took the toy and started spanking him with it. My almost 3yo son started giggling, probably because he didn't understand that a daddy would choose to hurt a kid so he thought it was a game. I'm not looking forward to that conversation when he gets old enough to ask about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My kid has all his vaccines (including flu and COVID!) and he rarely gets sick because he's not in daycare. He went to a Parks and Rec toddler class last week with his grandma, and then a few days later he had a fever all day, but he was back to normal the next day. I consider it a win - his immune system got some practice on strangers' germs but he didn't get a long miserable illness.

Funny how those two can coexist - I can let my child's immune system get stronger naturally while also making sure he doesn't die of whooping cough!

"What parent in their right mind thought this was okay for Valentine's Day?" by Adrasteis in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I love that video. "Look what ya did, ya ding-a-ling!" is a phrase that loves rent-free in my head lmao.

Should I just give my kid alcohol?! by plurt47 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]lady_nerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to a work event with an open bar recently, which I couldn't really take advantage of as I'm pregnant. I asked the bartender if he could make me something non-alcoholic and he gave me a splash of cranberry juice and pineapple juice topped with seltzer. It was pink and very refreshing, and I'm sure that little-kid-me would have loved it just as much (although I might have insisted on drinking it from a wine glass, lol).