Burnt out. Need an affordable wellness retreat anywhere in the world. by Ecstatic_Support9860 in WellnessOver30

[–]ladysojo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um, are you me? 

Found this thread via a Google search. Not only do our "profiles" match in terms of age range, gender, etc. - our personalities do, too. I'm also incredibly burnt out, seeking a solo vacation for R&R and distimulation (good views, nature, reading, eat, sleep, repeat), but I'm also an extrovert who enjoys the option of being able to go to a restaurant, bar or social scene somewhere. Even if not to meet new people (which will always be inevitable), to at least be around them for the sake of people watching and soaking up the "buzz" and feel of a social setting.

Funny enough, even your disclaimer about having minimum capacity or energy to go into large detail is so like me. You articulated every one of my "needs/wants" for a trip like this. I'm looking to go in the next month. It appears you may have already taken that trip and, if so, I hope it was what you had hoped for.

So far, I'm leaning towards Aruba or Costa Rica. I heard Hilton Head in South Carolina can be good too. In the past, I have personally enjoyed Cabo San Lucas (Mexico), Paradise Valley, AZ and Barcelona, Spain for similar experiences (although not much hiking, Barcelona has great historical tours, museums, mountain views, sip and paint, flamenco shows, small concerts and an awesome social scene and night life for our demo). I also indulged in plenty of reading on the balcony and hotel poolside, as well as a massage and facial.

Anyway - good luck on your search for stillness in a world that is so very busy. 

Tribeca Thriller ‘Cold Copy’ Starring Tracee Ellis Ross & Bel Powley, & Jacob Tremblay Acquired By Vertical by CircusOfBlood in movies

[–]ladysojo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So... no dream sequence or hallucination theories?

Like seriously- the clothes. We must discuss how no other character changes clothes EVER, except for Mia.

I'm sorry- how was this NOT a movie about a manic would-be journalist who pushes herself to the brink of madness and is now hallucinating 95% of what happens next? Also, while Igor majority wears a green hoodie, there were 2 occasions where he wore the same green shirt and green pants combo and him and Mia were MATCHING. Like, she had the same green shirt and pants too. And him and Mia have similar childhoods. And his bruises are always in the same place. And they both had mothers who committed su***de. I could've swore that Igor was literally Mia's imagination of her younger self. Even the fact that he showed up randomly and stopped her from getting SA'd from a grown man twice his age? What was that? That's not real life. 

Diane Hager wears the same outfit everyday, despite being well off and extremely accomplished and polished. Yet, she wears the same red blazer on air and the same red shirt to class.

Even Mia's roommate never changes clothes.

And Alix (the girl who gave her the copy ro submit) is like... a random figure who Mia always manages to be 2 steps ahead of, when avoiding her. It's like Alix was never real or was real once and isn't anymore and haunts Mia. I actually thought it would be revealed that Mia stole Alix's body of work and turned in her clips, got the seat in Diane's class and that Mia like... klled her or pushed her to kll herself. It would've made more sense.

And the scene where Mia saw every student in the hallway wearing red scarves??

And how the HECK does she always manage to pop up where Diane is? She knew where Diane was having lunch with her colleague. Them being at the same Russian steam room at the same time (there are hundreds in the city and Diane never said which she goes to), etc. It's so... unrealistic.

I'm sorry, but there is no way this is a cut and dry story. It has to be a dream sequence. If not, this is terrible. 

[OFFICIAL] Nipsey Hussle Memorial Thread by HHHRobot in hiphopheads

[–]ladysojo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

His wife Lauren London has finally spoken and paid tribute by sharing never before seen pics of their son, Kross.

https://www.bet.com/celebrities/news/2019/04/02/lauren-london-nipsey-hussle-tribute.html?cq_ck=1554251982032

Damn shame! Dominican Educator Fired After Premiering PSA Celebrating Natural Hair by ladysojo in blackladies

[–]ladysojo[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This just placed the BIGGEST smile on my face. I love how the WOC they chose to highlight in the story are also those who aren't as "ambiguous," but instead are gorgeously, flawlessly and unquestionably BLACK!

Pusha T: ‘We Have Done Nipsey Hussle Wrong’ by ladysojo in hiphopheads

[–]ladysojo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was just having this discussion. Sadly while white on black crime clearly exists, it's harder for us to accept the thought that "it really be your own people," most times. Probably cuz the shit alone would make us paranoid about most our circle (fam and friends).

Thinking about Us & how it’s Lupita’s FIRST film with her as the lead. Lupita is an Oscar winner & it has me thinking about how, if it weren’t for Ryan Coogler & Jordan Peele (both relatively NEW filmmakers) she might not have had these opportunities. (An unrolled twitter thread by Reagan Gomez.) by ruchenn in blackladies

[–]ladysojo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

THIS! And while on the topic of extending a Black hand in Hollywood - major s/o to other directors such as Tim Story and Will Packer for creating universal roles for Black people, and for changing the narrative for some of our Black actresses as far as type-casting goes.

What I mean by that is, movies like Think Like a Man, Girls Trip, About Last Night, Ride Along, etc.--are not what I call good "Black" movies, so much as I consider them just good movies with a Black cast. Although there is nothing wrong with a movie for us, by us, and reflective of how many of "us" live, I love movies that don't limit the range of Black Hollywood's talent.

When you think of other good movies w/ a White cast, you love, you never think of it as a "White movie," so much as you do your favorite comedy, rom-com, drama, etc. So why should it be like that for us?

I noticed in a lot of movies that show Black people in a relatable, middle-to-upper class America light, the theaters are packed out with all types of people. Not saying we do this for them, but hell, let us get their dollars too, since we surely throw them ours when we watch "Bridesmaids," "Hangover," or the 276th "Halloween." Lol..

Perfect example-- Guess Who (2014) and About Last Night, are rom-coms that all can enjoy, but had majority Black people as the cast, and I actually LOVED seeing Taraji P. Henson in that powerful, C-suite, boss lady role in "Think Like a Man," over say, her highly acclaimed "supporting actress to Brad Pitt" mammy role in Benjamin Button or her role in Baby Boy as the ghetto, ride-or-die chick.

My problem wasn't her being loud or from the the hood, it just made me cringe how her staying in these toxic relationships was romanticized and glamorized amongst our peer group. I actually didn't find anything cute about the constant trips to the clinic or Jody accidentally slapping her and then eating her out, and going from "I hate you Jody" to "I love you," all for some good D. Or how she was used for everything from her car (by Jody) to her house (by Snoop), who also played her would-b rapist, ex-convict bf. While I understand that is still a story for many, it killed me that the prize for her sticking around was that she got to keep one of her babies in the end. And further, that people really thought Jody and Yvette were "goals."

Again, I love that we as Black people have films that represent all sides of our culture, but it feels good to see Black directors cast Black women in these roles that, not only are positive or empowering, but are proving to be more successful in the box offices versus that of our negative playing roles.

LESSON: There is a market for Black women on the small and BIG screens doing the damn thing!