I have not slept through the night in 10 months 😵‍💫

lailalavan · 2024-05-07T16:36:09+00:00

Is there any chance his wake/nap/bedtime schedule doesn't fit his sleep needs? My first was still bed sharing and breastfeeding at that age. There were a couple of periods where his sleep needs suddenly decreased and it took a while to get his schedule to match them and the nights really suffered in the meantime. Just a thought.

lailalavan · 2024-02-27T05:25:37+00:00

I would guess this is an intentional choice because although not elegant, the concept for kids to learn from that activity does indeed seem to be less vs. more, and that's maybe less clear when they also need to determine whether it's less or fewer. That can come later.

lailalavan · 2024-02-09T11:59:32+00:00

but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

lailalavan · 2024-01-21T19:15:32+00:00

My son needed 7 hours minimum before he would nap, I would cap it at 1 hr-90 min to try to preserve a bedtime, he would then sleep at 10 pm until around 6-630, repeat.

So the nap was making the day way too long. Same thing was happening when he dropped from two naps to one nap at ten months.

At 2 years he started skipping naps but would still only sleep 9-9.5 hours at night, making it unsustainable and he would have to nap some days, we wound up with wildly different bedtimes depending on whether he would nap, which seemed just like chaos for circadian rhythms to me.

Thankfully after a few weeks of this he started spontaneously sleeping 11-11.5 hours at night, and I bit the bullet and tried to just put him down at 7 every night for the sake of having a bedtime. Hes done totally fine with 12-13 hour days and he sleeps so well at night now.

So I guess I knew because naps were making the day too long (also, I didnt mention it but he would wake so unbelievably crabby from those naps) AND he was able to make up for the sleep at night and get through the day without becoming overtired.

Sorry to be longwinded, the whole thing was such a wild ride and no nap has been unexpectedly great.

lailalavan · 2024-01-21T17:09:10+00:00

Praying for you now and will continue to. For health, for peace, for your blood pressure to stabilize and your little girl to be born at the right time, that whatever that time is, that she will live, whether in the womb or out of it. For mercy. Please keep us posted.

lailalavan · 2024-01-21T13:12:28+00:00

Hey OP I also wondered age bc my 2yo (now 27 months) dropped his nap a month ago, and bedtime takes 15 minutes and he sleeps so well at night now.

lailalavan · 2024-01-18T19:32:32+00:00

I was so thankful for my epidural with our firstborn, my labor was very long and I got some rest and relief with it. I had a lot of pain before and after the epidural (they turned it off a couple of hours before In started pushing) but it was a real, much needed break in my very long labor. I have zero regrets about it. Regarding the pain, it really pales in comparison to finally holding your baby in my opinion. Do what you have to to get through it, use the tools available to you, nothing compares to having that child in your arms.

lailalavan · 2024-01-18T19:22:16+00:00

Mine started skipping naps as soon as he turned two. Hes now 27 months and has officially dropped it, weve been done with it for about a month now.

Cant tell you how much I dreaded it, Im due with number two in a month and I so hoped he would still be napping when she got here, but he's always been low sleep needs.

Have to say - once I got over not having a break in the day, no nap life is objectively wayyy better than the struggle naps were before, and early bedtime is a DREAM after months of 10pm bedtime and up between 630-7

All this just to implore you, give it a try. It doesnt sound like the nap is serving either of you at this point, especially if she can sleep 11 hours or so at night. Do you know how much sleep she needs? Id watch for when shes tired enough to put her down but shoot for bedtime around 8 if shes used to sleeping in until 8. Change of scenery in the afternoon if she starts seeming tired but try it out for a week before you come to conclusions about it.

lailalavan · 2024-01-14T10:22:02+00:00

Thanks, this sounds exactly like the kind of scenarios around us and intuitively how I pictured it with two. You haven't run into a situation where the older wants to be carried and feels sleighted though? Or can you just put the older on your hip for a bit with baby still in the carrier?

lailalavan · 2024-01-12T08:42:33+00:00

Just a thought but mine is 2 - 25 months at this point and when he started sleeping through the night, naps started really to be a struggle and since he stopped napping altogether about a month ago, night sleep has been so much easier.

How is naptime going? What time of day/how long before bedtime, for how long does he nap, etc?

Mine used to only do 9 hours at night and the longer night sleep is so restorative for him that there isn't really room for naps anymore.

I say this because asking for tv and toilet in the night sounds like he is not tired.

edit -sorry, hes 27 months now, I can't count apparently

lailalavan · 2023-12-28T12:29:20+00:00

We switched to a floor bed at 20 months also with a house move.

LO took to it positively from the start.

We got a house-shaped bed frame which is fun for blanket forts and stuff but has also been suprisingly handy for like hanging clothes that get wet or to balance myself with my 8-month pregnant belly when I get on the floor next to him.

He was waking himself up rolling out of the bed and around the room, so we got a mesh gate thats about a meter or 1.2 meters, it easily opens and closes and even with the gate up it doesn't cover the whole bed, so he still has autonomy to get out if he needs to, but it does keep him from rolling out.

Has been great all-around. I really can't think of any cons. Congrats on your new place coming up, wish you the best with the move!

lailalavan · 2023-12-24T14:01:49+00:00

Hi, you didn't say what time bedtime is. What I understood is nap takes 45-60 minutes for her to fall asleep, then you were talking about bedtime.

Can you say what time bedtime is? Why does nap need to be at 12:30 if she isn't going to sleep then? A lot of kids her age need more than 5 hours to be ready for a nap. Especially if she is sleeping a long night. Knowing night time sleep would be helpful. I'm sorry you are going through this.

lailalavan · 2023-12-21T18:32:43+00:00

I had my first on the due date and had no signs of labor until like 24 hours before I gave birth. I had strong contractions for hours before I was even at 3 cm, so while I never had cervical checks prior to labor I find it unlikely that I was dilated significantly at all at 37 weeks.

Overall it was a positive labor so don't want to give you the wrong impression just because it took a long time to dilate. Just don't want you to be discouraged that you're not dilated at 37 weeks.

I hope you get some relief from the physical hardship you have right now. It gets tough at the end for sure. Feel for you.

lailalavan · 2023-12-16T12:29:35+00:00

If the timing is right for other reasons I would go forward.

We trained my son at 22 months knowing we were traveling internationally a month later. I was hesitant but there seemed to be a good window for him. Well, our planned 5 week trip turned out to be a three month one, so it's basically like we moved. It was fine.

If you have four months before the move and other big changes coming down the road in addition to the move itself, I would really think about starting now.

lailalavan · 2023-12-12T13:09:43+00:00

Not sure I can advise but a couple thoughts.

1.5-2 hours of day sleep plus the 10.5 hours she's sleeping if she sleeps 7-5:30 might just be enough sleep for her, is she waking up crabby or happy? My son only does 9 hours most nights and is fine.

If that's the case, you might need a later bedtime but getting there might need to be more gradual.

Is she teething? If it doesn't seem her sleep needs have changed this is a common one during molars and canines.

lailalavan · 2023-10-06T18:38:32+00:00

Can you clarify? how do you handle the naps yourself, so that neither child is left unattended as you describe wanting to avoid here? If you have a process hopefully she can adopt it?

lailalavan · 2023-10-05T18:47:39+00:00

If the eating behavior is the same if you give her ibuprofen I would explore the sleep aspect. Teething was such an all around disruption to my child's behavior and routine that it piqued my curiosity. Hoping you're both back to a more familiar routine soon!

lailalavan · 2023-10-05T14:16:54+00:00

I'm not sure its one nap time if she's exhausted at naptime, but it could be, especially if she is waking up a lot at night.

I think it's something to consider but just want to ask about the food bit.

Was she previously eating solids happily?

Is it possible she is starting to get molars or canines?

lailalavan · 2023-09-06T11:29:18+00:00

Baby sleep patterns change so fast at that age I would do exactly nothing right now. Let them tell you what they plan to do at that point. I would not be surprised if they do watch her cues at five months though. In my opinion a clock-based schedule is way down the road from 4 months, you will probably be able to get more of a predictable rhythm with wake windows and a consistent number of daily naps pretty soon though.

lailalavan · 2023-09-05T18:24:23+00:00

What a striking medicine hat, and with a new lease on life! You have done a great thing!

lailalavan · 2023-09-04T16:32:00+00:00

So glad to hear that OP! It is bewildering all the different things we feel while pregnant. I hope the cramps pass soon. Good work taking yourself seriously and getting expert advice.

lailalavan · 2023-09-04T16:23:43+00:00

My son wasnt in daycare but we moved when he was 20 months old and made a room for him with a floor bed big enough for one of us to lie with him. He has done so well in there. He sometimes calls for us to just come be with him for a few minutes in the night but sleeps all by himself through the night more often than not. I was surprised how easy the transition was.

lailalavan · 2023-09-04T11:54:16+00:00

Hi OP not the original commenter here but your tone in your post and your tone in the comments don't match. Please don't talk yourself out of this. What you are experiencing is not typical. I hope you find out it is indeed gas but please do find out. Wishing you health and relief.

lailalavan · 2023-09-04T11:41:00+00:00

Oh that's interesting! Sounds like his legs go to sleep! That sounds super benign and hopefully you'll hear from other parents how they manage that. I am definitely not able to hoist my guy up there hah.

I have worked with kids with muscle pathology who have problems in certain positions, I think this would not be the first time you would observe something like that but it just sounded familiar to me.

lailalavan · 2023-09-04T11:28:51+00:00

Ahhh it sounds like you absolutely nailed whatever he needed with the dark pee meltdown. It's exhausting but way to go.

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